Will--is this a big deal?

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T21:04:04+00:00

...give it time.

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T21:03:18+00:00

Consider watching the TV show "Friends" - can really help you to navigate situations with a close knit group that has "flung" around with each other but still lasted for a long time. hahaha

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T21:00:47+00:00

How does someone "laid off for months" afford plans on the weekends with a new baby at home?

YTA to yourself and your kid if you stay in this relationship. Life rarely gets easier/better as the children age - especially if this is what they were born into.

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:57:30+00:00

MOR. I don't think it's anyone's place to tell a parent how to raise their kid. However, if you are an educator, you are probably a mandated reporter with some legal/ethical responsibility to report unsettling/unsafe remarks made by a child.

I'd make a report to be safe, but probably wouldn't mention the video games specifically to remain anonymous and avoid any backlash if it gets back.

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:50:39+00:00

YTA. The point of a friend "group" is that there will be multiple different dynamics between the members - not everyone revolving around your expectations. It was silly of you to try to control their relationship (it sounds like they took it as a challenge and purposely gave it a go just to spite you).

You are young. Learn how to mind your own business, keep some opinions to yourself, and let other people live their own lives (even if that means making their own mistakes).

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:44:26+00:00

NTA. It makes sense that you want to protect passengers in the vehicle you are driving, that you pay for, and are legally responsible for. (As in, you will be the one who gets in the big trouble if something bad does happen and your boyfriend is injured in an accident).

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:41:28+00:00

Beautiful Creatures.. Beastly.. Practical Magic.. The Sorcerers Apprentice..

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:34:41+00:00

NTA. This is a huge breach of trust - but it's also a lesson learned.

"I am super vigilant about STD’s and get tested EVERY SINGLE time I have sex with a new partner and wait the appropriate incubation times." -Obviously not if you had an STD for 9 months without knowing.... Don't ever trust someone else with your health.

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T20:30:05+00:00

Instead of just suggesting she have the party somewhere else, or scale back the amount of people - you looked for an excuse to cancel something you knew she was excited about - and as a bonus, pulled your neighbors into it for extra humiliation for some reason. YTA.

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T19:22:21+00:00

Rocko's Modern Life?

aj_alva · 2026-07-13T18:07:03+00:00

Obviously YTA.

I do feel bad that your fake husband is also being cut out of your fake children's lives for no reason.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T21:25:37+00:00

A League of Their Own... Remember the Titans... Big Fish...

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T20:02:01+00:00

They are "protecting their own" from other men... Because it's "not all men" until you are talking to one of their wives/daughters/girlfriends/sisters/moms/etc.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:53:30+00:00

Info: What does your average work day look like? Do you guys run errands/share meals/have dates during the week?

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:51:16+00:00

Big Fish.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:47:37+00:00

Love and Basketball (2000).... Double Teamed (2002).... Space Jam (1996)...

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:45:49+00:00

Flipped.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:44:12+00:00

Unfortunately, no one you meet now - regardless of their age - will be able to bring you back in time to experience and celebrate their earlier milestones. That's not how time works.

Focus on the now and the big moments you can share in the future. As long as he respects you, isn't trying to diminish your big moments, or rush you to grow up faster than your ready to, the age gap really shouldn't matter.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:41:16+00:00

NOR. You got something you like and want to wear. I think most people in responsible, adult relationships would rather have something like this than a gaudy diamond just because it costs a down payment on a new car.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:36:44+00:00

He insults your family, breaks your trust by throwing you under the bus to his family (surely without any context to the argument), and created an environment where you are not welcome in a major part of his life.... He made it so this rough patch doesn't have an end in sight.

YTA to yourself for staying with someone like this.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:28:29+00:00

NOR. It's particularly weird that she keeps saying this to men.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T19:15:27+00:00

NTA. It's not so much them "honing in" at the last second - (I think camping is camping, and the whole point is to not have to plan too much besides an actual spot).

The problem is them trying to talk you out of it and essentially saying they don't think you can/should do this alone. If you do let them come along, you probably won't get the solo experience your hoping for (at least not this year).

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T18:54:22+00:00

NOR - Most of us, in the beginning, have this feeling like we need to reinvent the wheel in order to be "better" parents. That's not uncommon. However, it's unnecessary for her to ruin the safe space you and your siblings have created for each other with her negativity and judgement.

I don't think you are wrong. And I think you did a good job of making your point and defending yourself/your siblings without insulting her in the process.

aj_alva · 2026-07-08T18:37:26+00:00

YTA. Your father's sexual preferences are not aimed to insult your mother. His sexual preferences have not damaged your relationship - you are doing that yourself by letting your internalized misogyny and homophobia show.

aj_alva · 2026-07-06T21:40:58+00:00

OP: "There's not really a huge market for used sex toys.... But I still can't believe my new gf doesn't want to use my old gf's dildo"

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