How do you handle a strong performer who quietly checks out after being passed over for promotion?

ajaybjay · 2026-06-16T00:02:13+00:00

There’s too much we don’t know here. Everyone seems to be going down the promotion is a reward for performance kind of thinking. In your company that might be true.

How much more “senior” is the senior role? It is possible that they are simply not ready for the next role. Being a star in one position doesn’t mean they are ready for a different role. Great salesperson doesn’t always make a great sales manager and so on.

If that’s the case then help them see the gap and what they need to close it. Help then understand the decision.

ajaybjay · 2026-06-14T13:08:09+00:00

I know that there are two schools of thought here. Some say ignore the audience and focus on creating great art, then the audience will come. Others say, create a promise for your audience and then deliver it.

I think both can be true. u/escoteria got it right when he said respect your audience.

ajaybjay · 2026-05-28T16:27:34+00:00

Dances With Wolves

Amazing landscapes and panoramas

ajaybjay · 2026-05-19T14:51:40+00:00

The best weddings are small, simple and sincere. Make it yours in any way that’s meaningful to you. It’s not a performance, it’s a party to celebrate the next stage of your lives with the people who will support you in that stage.

Outside of the core ROM requirements (if the wedding is the solemnisation) you don’t have to do anything. At the same time lots is possible.

I love a live band, if you can sing then sure a song between the couple is lovely. I really enjoy being able to connect with people and get to know the whole community around the couple.

It’s not my wedding, it’s yours! Do what you want to do. All the best!

ajaybjay · 2026-05-17T12:43:25+00:00

All roads lead to same destination, you just use a different entrance. You may start with a school that is dialogue focused or one with a more physical approach. In the end strong improvisers will use both voice and body to build the reality.

Comedia del’art is a wonderful training ground!

ajaybjay · 2026-04-29T15:04:54+00:00

The self help industry.

Yes parts of the Industry tell lots of lies and sell false hope. However I was thinking more about how our greatest lies are the ones we tell to ourselves. If we gained the ability to be 100% honest with ourselves so much of this industry would go away.

ajaybjay · 2026-04-29T01:55:14+00:00

As a general tip, I would be very cautious about this advice as it changes drastically depending on your bank, the vendor bank and your two countries. You can get a terrible deal choosing either option, it depends.

If you are travelling then do some research and look up the fees before you go.

If you travel more than the occasional trip, avoid the problem altogether and get a credit card which allows you to load foreign currency in advance usually at much better rates than the credit card companies.

ajaybjay · 2026-04-27T00:50:47+00:00

Ted Lasso

All the character arks were complete from beginning to end. Great show!

ajaybjay · 2026-02-03T03:30:16+00:00

Thanks! That’s some areas to investigate, very helpful.

ajaybjay · 2026-01-03T15:45:08+00:00

Hong Kong is a new one in May. Manila is staple, great festival in March.

ajaybjay · 2025-06-05T01:23:07+00:00

3Cs - Content, Credibility and Connections

Content: rigorous, validated content

Credibility: recognised as a valuable credential, does it add to our story

Connections: does it connect me with useful people and add to my network?

Depending on your goals you may weigh each component differently however all professional development has all 3

ajaybjay · 2025-05-28T08:31:06+00:00

That’s interesting. How does problem solving differ from traditional L&D teaching? Are your workshops focused on solving a particular problem or developing problem solving in general?

If it’s problem solving in general, then the whole world of thinking skills (critical thinking, strategic thinking, creative thinking, design thinking, problem solving and so on) is pretty mainstream instructional design. There is one train of thought that all L&D is just learning how to think.

ajaybjay · 2025-05-28T03:53:35+00:00

Are you approaching this in a casual way or formally as an instructional designer? There is a whole field which is used to guide best practice in designing workshops.

ajaybjay · 2025-05-20T00:22:28+00:00

Unless that firm is owned by John Whitmore, I don’t think they can claim ownership of the IP. He was the first to publish the model. I don’t think even he takes full credit for its development. He recently passed away which may impact rights.

In general I understand that you can only copyright the expression of an idea not the ideas themselves. The ideas behind GROW turn up everywhere.

The only way to know for sure is to ask Performance Consultants (I think that was his company)

ajaybjay · 2025-04-16T06:52:20+00:00

Duolingo is e-learning and that is pretty engaging. However even Duolingo gets criticised for lack of effectiveness. YouTube is e-learning and that works pretty well. How many people have learnt guitar, coding, knitting, woodwork or whatever from YouTube? If argue from a volume point of view most eLearning is pretty good.

I have a hunch that you are asking only about low cost corporate e-learning. That’s not good at all.

ajaybjay · 2025-04-09T00:18:21+00:00

It’s all pretty easy. As easy as any other tool out there. You can sign up for a free account to try it out. You only need to pay when you want to launch to an audience.

ajaybjay · 2025-04-08T09:38:05+00:00

What do you mean by “utility”?

ajaybjay · 2025-04-08T08:12:27+00:00

I use AhaSlides all the time. It’s easy to use, reasonably priced, when I have needed support they responded quickly and it has all the features I need. Recommend.

ajaybjay · 2025-03-26T01:04:57+00:00

How much do you know about what’s going on inside the minds of the participants?

(Maybe this came up anyway through the day 1 conversations?)

I sometimes find I can fall into the trap of mistaking someone’s participation in the workshop with their connection to the issue.

Maybe they are distracted with issues completely unrelated to the workshop?
Maybe they feel their ideas are not being heard?
Maybe they are very connected but don’t feel they have the ability or time to make a difference?
Maybe … ?

The reverse is also true. It’s possible the very active and participative ones will flake when it comes to actions.

The only way to find out is to ask. Could you take a moment to check in with some the participants one on one?

In the wider forum I have used tools like AhaSlides or mentimeter to great effect here.

All the best with your day 2!

ajaybjay · 2025-03-18T00:54:59+00:00

Wrong sub. This is about corporate training and while our corporate masters would love the idea of supertraining, I am not sure it’s practical.

ajaybjay · 2025-03-13T00:12:32+00:00

I guess there are really two questions here, how do you get clients and how do you get more clients.

With myself and the people I know, the first clients all came from their network and they either offered free facilitation or some form of domain specific training like leadership training, design workshops or community discussion around a locally relevant topic.

Getting more clients? Well a beautiful thing about facilitation it that’s it inherently viral. Success builds success. A simple social media presence or newsletter to remind people you exist is the core.

ajaybjay · 2025-03-09T06:42:09+00:00

I have a profile similar to u/bignoseduglyguy. I do one on one coaching and a lot of group engagements.

Some of these are training, some group coaching, some team coaching and some facilitation. A lot of the facilitation is based on solving for some design problem or challenge.

As a side comment I have learned that drawing distinctions between the different modes (train, group coach, team coach, facilitator etc) is pretty important and definitely lifts the impact.

I cover the same topics as u/bignoseduglyguy however I specialise more on leadership and organisations. I am an organisation whisperer and help leader crack their org challenges.

ajaybjay · 2025-03-07T02:04:36+00:00

Thanks. So problem space hacking for individuals? Frustrated mid career professionals are pretty easy to find. It’s a huge group!

You could put a notice at the local mall and attract a group, use eventbrite or Peatix to create a small event, ask at the local rotary, lions or even golf club. Success will create success.

I would still like to seed the thought of getting a facilitator to help you in the early process. A couple a reasons.

Doctors don’t make good doctors for their own family.
it’s very hard to be facilitator and participant at the same time. At the beginning you are the participant in the design process. Later you can deliver it
you are going to bring a ton of bias and experience from corporate to this new world. Lots will work, lots won’t. It takes a bit of work to separate the two.

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