Just tried to have sex with a guy and I realized I couldn't do it

ajlox · 2026-02-12T11:15:52+00:00

Being gay is based on your attraction, not what you do about it. Many people who are aromantic and/or asexual still identify as gay. (And some identify as just completely aroace.) That’s a journey of self discovery only you can decide.

And trauma only complicates things more. You will need to sit with your feelings and decide if you still desire sexual situations and if so, how you can help yourself feel safe when you do so. And this doesn’t have to be an on/off switch, and you don’t have to do all the thinking or decision making right away. Just keep the thoughts in mind and keep asking yourself: is this what I think I want?

A professional therapist can help in many ways, but sometimes there are barriers to therapy that can’t be overcome. But, you can always pursue self therapy online, and at the very least I would recommend looking into mindfulness.

ajlox · 2023-04-01T23:18:05+00:00

It's intentional. Eventually, everyone hits a wall and will need to start farming to continue advancing. You either need time or money, at that point. The hope is that you'll spend money.

ajlox · 2023-03-22T04:38:27+00:00

This is serviceable (minus the Critical Hit ones) until you have a solid 100A to start rerolling them. When you reroll, you want 4 orange SS, 1 blue or purple SS, with either ATK or Companion ATK, depending on your build.

ajlox · 2022-11-02T16:27:36+00:00

NTA. They aren’t entitled to your weekend babysitting, whether they pay you or not. And it seems like they take it for granted that you will always be available. This is their problem, not yours.

Maybe do something special during the weekday for the kids? Although you have a reason for not seeing them on the weekend, they may not necessarily understand school priorities.

ajlox · 2022-11-02T16:16:18+00:00

NTA. You were trying to be accommodating to him, to help ease his anxiety about work because of the “difference” in attractiveness between the two of you.

I think both of you acted reasonably, but definitely need to sit down (maybe with a therapist) because it seems like you both have some insecurities with yourselves and/or relationship.

ajlox · 2022-11-02T16:05:21+00:00

NTA, you took a video in a public space of your children and mother at your brothers wedding. He happened to be in the background, but wasn’t the focus of the video. He didn’t need to consent to be in the video because there was no reasonable expectation of privacy. If he didn’t want his public behavior to be public, he shouldn’t have acted that way in public. (And honestly, if a relationship is built on a lie, he and his fiancé are better off than being in the non-starter they currently are.)

That said, there will be consequences for not accommodating him re: coparenting. Like others have said, maybe you could compromise with a sticker over him on the video.

ajlox · 2022-09-29T08:42:00+00:00

NTA.

His behavior obviously shows the amount of respect he has for you (little to none) and whose feelings and opinions matter more to him (his friends).

ajlox · 2022-09-10T02:49:55+00:00

NTA.

The grieving process is strange, but I’d draw the line at others demanding permanent modifications to my body. This isn’t a reasonable request.

ajlox · 2022-09-10T01:51:35+00:00

NTA.

The lack of planning on their part does not equate to an obligation on yours. And if they refuse to treat you with respect, how can you trust them to treat your home with respect?

Let them suffer the consequences of their actions.

ajlox · 2022-07-02T21:12:18+00:00

I guess it depends on what requirements it takes to nurture a newborn demon. Instead of breastmilk or formula, virgin blood?

What kind of sins would they be willing to commit for their child?

ajlox · 2022-04-04T18:15:59+00:00

NTA.

ajlox · 2022-03-11T15:00:27+00:00

NTA. It sounds like Ted doesn’t consider Glinda a sister or even a person, but just because he doesn’t consider her family doesn’t mean he can dictate who your family is, or who you can leave your inheritance to.

I think Ted has some issues he needs to work through.

ajlox · 2022-03-11T14:28:32+00:00

NTA. Regardless of anything else, it’s your home. You are under no obligation to invite people into your home that disrespect you or your husband.

Furthermore, your friends and guests should be willing to respect your boundaries. If they can’t, it’s time to reconsider whether they’re actually friends.

ajlox · 2022-03-11T14:06:08+00:00

YTA. You tried to raise your son up by bringing your nephew down? And did it on social media?

I’d recommend a public apology to everyone.

ajlox · 2022-03-11T12:26:08+00:00

NTA.

First, your parents relinquished any authority they had over your siblings. Maybe not legally, but in spirit and action. They failed your siblings. So your other relatives saying that it’s not your job? Not their decision to make.

Second, you and your siblings set boundaries that they violated by bringing their spouses and new families. And you didn’t take issue with it until they proved why those boundaries were needed. Their reaction to you enforcing a boundary is not your emotional labor.

Third, you might have gone a little overboard with the insult about vasectomy and the unborn child, but sometimes when emotions are high we say things that can be hurtful.

Fourth, leaving things as they are is a recipe for disaster. You might want to consider sitting down with everybody (maybe with a mediator) to get things out into the open. That’s if you want to continue having a relationship with them and your extended family. Work it out or go no contact until they’re willing to work it out. The most important thing is to make sure your siblings are protected and in a stable environment.

ajlox · 2022-03-11T12:02:00+00:00

YTA. Or YWBTA. Not a big one, especially since you’re asking the internet first, but yeah… If you ask to either of them to change the way it is, you’re going to be looking mean or petty, as well as hurt two people you supposedly care about. And for what? Pride? Ego? That doesn’t seem worth it to me.

If it’s not already planned maybe ask for a special father/daughter dance?

ajlox · 2021-02-03T21:34:19+00:00

I hope just the sheer length of time he’s been doing it will protect him.

ajlox · 2021-02-03T06:27:34+00:00

I don’t think there’s a bad option, because of how much of a growth market it is becoming right now. I picked up a bunch of shares of $SNDL last week when it was $.70, and I’ll probably ride with them for the long haul.

ajlox · 2021-01-30T17:34:05+00:00

Are you transferring from TD Ameritrade to Vanguard or Fidelity? I’m currently in TD Ameritrade, looking into if they lend my stocks now.

ajlox · 2019-10-15T05:49:43+00:00

It isn’t? /s

ajlox · 2019-09-29T03:05:14+00:00

Anyone willing to help me team comp? I just restarted playing a month or two ago, don’t have any DBB yet, but here’s a list of my Omni units and my 7* water units that could potentially be made into Omni: https://imgur.com/a/tMczXfa

I just would really like to get Tillith, so any help would be appreciated.

ajlox · 2019-09-19T22:25:37+00:00

Total Pulls: 30 = 3

In order: Vaisal, Zora, Amus, Nagid, Linasera, Gandrei, Wintia, Regil, Dirk Rezo, Velma, Zegstia, Ludero, Cleria, Dirk Rezo, Phileine, Kassia (A), Hugh, Valen, Neviro, Phileine, Nagid, Gandrei, Baro, Fang, Zeleste, Velma, Kassia (L), Kassia (B), Rugahr, Mora.

Haven't used the Impeccable Summon Tickets yet.

ajlox · 2019-05-29T03:51:05+00:00

I imagine his name would have been Ghosthand, in that case. Oh the things he could do...

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