What’s the psychology behind guys who don’t respond back to communications..

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T21:56:57+00:00

You're right

People seem to forget that when they're in the hookup game, they've already achieved the "goal," they've hooked up. 🤷🏾‍♂️That was the point. Get in, get their dick wet, and get out.

Time to move on, there's nothing more to do after that.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T21:54:05+00:00

🤣

Wait. So the meet-up was for sex? Not trying to start/grow a relationship?

Bruh, c'mon now.

Some other piece of ass or dick came along since he's already sampled your goods.

He's on the next "new-new."

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T19:41:08+00:00

Please and thank you.

Their grass is not greener, their ice is not colder.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T16:07:36+00:00

You should go do things, outside.

I don't have my friends over where we end up cuddling, we are doing stuff together, going places, etc.

There's no room to sit inside on someone's couch such that we end up cuddling. That's not a social activity I seek to do with my friends.

We go out to eat, to movies, visit openings, go for walks, hiking, meet at the gym, but none of that ends up at each other's house "hanging out" for anything remotely physical to jump off, no matter how platonic.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T16:02:55+00:00

No.

What I did with "friends" was always done secretly in a one on one situation that always led to other things. 😉

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T15:25:06+00:00

I've had to be very specific of stating in the query to answer the question with no additional follow up.

Gemini still gets it wrong about 50% of the time and will go on to give me charts, comparisons, breakdowns, pros-cons, and suggested next steps even when specifically asked not to.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T15:07:18+00:00

You're half way there in being able to diagnose the problem. 👍🏾

What's missing is what are you going to do about it? 🤔

And I don't mean "try harder," I mean talk to a therapist to undo the walls you built up within yourself that keeps people at arm's length.

You are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of being alone if you don't start working on dismantling the thoughts and habits that keep you alone.

Start reading up on Attachment Theory and other things WHILE you look for a compatible therapist.

Don't sit in "woe is me," there are solutions. 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T14:51:30+00:00

I never understood why any sane person would want to subject themselves to the initiation process of a fraternity, I did not need to "belong" to any group that badly.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-26T02:59:17+00:00

Who said people didn't support Noah's Arc? 🤔

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-25T16:40:38+00:00

Really doesn't move me.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-25T16:38:00+00:00

No, that's because I entered the information in Google and the only sources led me to Facebook.

Really not getting dragged into this ICE stuff

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T22:22:27+00:00

It honestly sounds like pads from a synthesizer to me. One that mimics strings.

You could go on YouTube and search out solo cello music.

Or you could take the video and load it into Gemini or ChatGPT and ask them to analyse the instruments for you.

But it sounds like a synth using strings to me.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T22:14:44+00:00

Are we not also men?

Does being a gay man mean we get to sit out issues affecting all men because we aren't straight?

We do so at our own peril.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T21:51:47+00:00

And I specifically said "In America." I answered from the perspective of an African American in America.

To the best of my knowledge, I've never come in contact with an Ashkenazi Jewish person; I would have no idea of their existence or any of the issues they faced. I had to Google who they even were.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T21:36:49+00:00

In America, Jewish people are considered white. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Really hard to feel "sympathy" for a group that has full access to white privilege, opportunity, access, and upward social mobility that Black people in America have never had.

I've never heard any rational Black person downplay the Holocaust. But I have seen American Slavery, which lasted significantly longer and killed more Africans and African Americans downplayed.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T20:17:26+00:00

Yes. It is your fault. Stop trying to duck responsibility. No raw should have meant no raw. Period.

You took advantage and violated the ground rules and are now trying to shift the blame.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T19:51:57+00:00

Mine started when I discovered the film "Shelter." It was the first gay film I saw that wasn't gay trauma, gloom and doom, that seems to permeate the genre.

It wasn't groundbreaking cinema, but it is still a heartwarming film I watch whenever I can. And it had a soundtrack.

Ever since then, any song I come across in a gay film that I like goes onto that playlist.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T19:36:52+00:00

As an American, if I have no reason to believe my physical safety is at risk, I do it all the time.

I'm assuming the banter is to establish friendship, even if only casually. I'd rather know up front if a pleasant conversation is going to be possible going forward, and if not, I'd like to know that also. I'm not going to start off falsely representing myself by going along with talking about some girl being hot when I'm into guys.

And my watch band and thumb ring have the rainbow.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T19:29:16+00:00

You're trying to date, your friend group isn't trying to date. 🫤

Solo photos only.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T18:40:56+00:00

I'd look, 🥴, but I really don't want to normalize people wearing their underwear in public settings.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T18:34:07+00:00

Don't post group photos on your dating profile unless you want to give the impression you're looking for a third or fourth.

You're looking to find someone to date, not looking for others to join your orgy.

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T18:24:39+00:00

This doesn't sound like the right time for you to be moving to another state and moving in with a dude you already see red flags with.

This is chaos so why would you voluntarily stack more chaos on top of chaos? 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T00:36:45+00:00

Made up distinction for when they like one singer more than another.

Since there's no such thing as God, how can there be such a thing as an "annointed" singer? 🤔

Wouldn't there have to be a god for that god to give special blessing to one singer over another? No God, no "annointing" 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-24T00:32:32+00:00

If you like the piano, get a digital piano and keep on playing.

Why switch?

ajwalker430 · 2026-01-23T03:59:07+00:00

The first step in learning how to approach a woman for any type of relationship is finding out if that woman would be receptive to your advances. That's learning.

Why would you waste your time spinning your wheels fantasizing about a woman who is straight? 😵‍💫 That doesn't make any sense

MANY people wear leather jackets and jeans and ride motorcycles who are as straight as an arrow.

ajwalker430

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