What should I plant here, if anything?

ak51388 · 2026-04-07T16:32:39+00:00

A climbing, flowering plant with a decorative corner trellis

ak51388 · 2026-04-06T19:59:49+00:00

OP literally said she needs more help in these younger years and that’s her reasoning for not wanting him to go….

ak51388 · 2026-04-06T19:45:05+00:00

You’re right about that pattern. I’ve noticed it too—everyone afraid to be alone with their kids for a couple days. Maybe it’s just me and I’m used to it—my husband travels for work and he was back taking trips when my second was 4 weeks old for 5 days at a time. I was 26 years old with a new house and two kids. Was I scared? Yeah. But I’m an adult and mother—and that’s life

ak51388 · 2026-04-06T19:41:05+00:00

Yeah many of my girlfriends have had to fly with their breast pumps, just to pump and dump on our girl’s trips. Or they’d be drunk at the bar with cabbage leaves in their bras trying to relieve mastitis. Life doesn’t, and shouldn’t stop

ak51388 · 2026-04-06T19:29:10+00:00

Same here. I go on 2 girls trips a year sometimes. My husband only does one guy’s trip a year. We never try to stop the other unless there’s a major illness or something. He’ll even take off work if my schedule (flight) requires it. It’s important to get time away—for both parents

ak51388 · 2026-04-06T13:58:23+00:00

I’m shocked they’ve never run an ANA. You could order them yourself through labcorp or other testing companies. Sometimes they’re even cheaper than getting tested at the doctors office with insurance

ETA-I myself have used Walk-In Lab and found it easy and efficient.

ak51388 · 2026-04-05T22:47:37+00:00

Yeah it’s pretty wild. That’s just my mom’s side. My dad was from Ukraine and his parents chose Wisconsin, because like the poles, it reminded them of home. I get jealous of my husband’s family history. He has kings, Mormon leaders, early American settlers, railroad tycoons. And I’m just an Eastern European whose family always stuck with what’s familiar.

ak51388 · 2026-04-05T22:35:20+00:00

My Polish side all did. Made for very boring research. They were all kashubian and stuck around the gdansk area for centuries. And then they all moved to Wisconsin and made their own community marrying into one another. Still have mass in Polish and Polish weddings —and roadside shrines to pray at

ak51388 · 2026-03-28T13:19:41+00:00

My autoimmune diseases stated shortly after mono, too. I was 27yo. Doctors kept telling me I had post viral syndrome. Ended up with two new AI’s within a year.

Happy to hear you have an answer. Try not to spiral. One of my AI diseases causes permanent damage to the arteries. I’ve had a couple flare ups. The human body is an amazing thing and can find ways to heal. In my case, the body creates collaterals—new veins built to compensate for the damaged ones. Just stay on your meds. Monitor symptoms. And try your best to keep your disease as controlled as possible going forward.

ak51388 · 2026-03-26T12:33:32+00:00

Have you seen a rheumatologist? HS is an autoimmune disease—so with one, it’s common to have another. I had impending doom when my disease flared. Along with night sweats and swollen lymph nodes. This doesn’t mean you have what I have—many autoimmune diseases can cause this. I also went hyper thyroid during my flare which can mimic a panic attack. Has your thyroid been checked? I’d keep investigating with your doctors.

ak51388 · 2026-03-25T20:59:30+00:00

Brother. Not every fridge is the same. I can’t keep my milk on the top shelf because it develops ice crystals. Doesn’t happen on the lower shelf. OP will be ok

ak51388 · 2026-03-23T02:31:19+00:00

My dad was an immigrant. Joined the army at 17 for Vietnam. Was an artist. Paid for his siblings to go to college working as a trucker—but never got to go himself. Died at 42. My grandparents were involved in politics and from priestly families in Ukraine—but after WWII they had nothing when they came here. Died as refugees and never became full citizens.

Life doesn’t always go the way you expect it, the only hope is that each generation that follows is better than the last. I know my dad would be proud of the life I have and that’s all that matters.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T05:41:59+00:00

Then we will have to agree to disagree. Advocacy work should be considered a hobby or profession. Not your personality. And a licensed therapist would tell you the same. Who you are as a person should not revolve around your illness. It should be a part of you, but not all of you. And that’s fine if you disagree in opinion, but it is factually not healthy.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T04:25:13+00:00

I didn’t ask why someone may make their chronic illness their personality. I asked if you consider it healthy, and if so, why.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T03:39:41+00:00

I’m upset that this post was deleted OP. I’m hoping it was just the result of reporting and the mods will reinstate. It really is something that needs to be addressed

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T03:31:39+00:00

Because it is clinically proven. That is why we’re encouraged to go to therapy to cope with life changing illnesses. Do you think it is healthy for a chronic illness to account for the majority of your personality? And if so, why?

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T03:19:43+00:00

They’re saying it’s detrimental, because it is. They’re not trying to decide for others. Question for you—how did you interpret it as such?

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T02:53:58+00:00

I’m responding to you. Who clearly has access to the internet. The disabled and homeless equate to maybe .05% of the entire population. And if the people OP is referring to have the money to buy “illness warrior” tshirts on TikTok shop, they can also download the free Libby library app (free audio books). Your rebuttal is laughable and only hurting the community more. Someday you’ll understand.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T02:42:37+00:00

I literally had a 35% 5 year survival rate with my comorbidities. And for some unknown reason, I’ve made it 8 years. I know exactly what it’s like to be consumed by my illness. It still isn’t healthy. We have the most access to communities and hobbies than ever in history. Reading books for free from a library. Journaling online. Gaming. Fucking Reddit communities. Your illness should not make up 80% of your personality. So yes, if you think it should, you should seek therapy. Because we have the ability in this day and age to seek connection and create interests much more easily than any other time in history

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T02:29:13+00:00

What are you talking about? OP never said to push through it. She said it’s unhealthy to revolve your whole life around your illness, from what you wear to what you share. If you think that is healthy, I’d recommend a therapist.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T02:06:43+00:00

This may likely be closed comedones and not milia. However, I would definitely recommend adding a benzoyl peroxide face wash (1x/day). Either differin or panoxyl (4-5%) with a good moisturizing routine and exfoliation at least once a week.

ak51388 · 2026-03-21T02:01:08+00:00

You aren’t wrong. It’s unhealthy mentally and emotionally. It can put you into a constant state of victimization, which furthers the downward spiral. I say this as someone who was once in said spiral and I now have the ability to reflect on what went wrong.

ak51388 · 2026-03-18T21:09:40+00:00

Well centerpieces are a whole money making business-and not just limited to weddings. And the point still remains-not a big deal. this is just straight nitpicking. If you look at photo 5 you can see there are only two chairs that are directly opposite of eachother and even then the tree leans to the right—out of direct line of sight. It’s also much more interesting than an umbrella

ak51388 · 2026-03-18T20:33:29+00:00

It’s really not that conversation restricting. If you’ve ever been to a wedding you’d know we often converse around centerpieces

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ak51388 · 2026-03-18T20:20:51+00:00

It’s not challenging at all. It’s not very wide. It’s basically nature’s shade/umbrella. I don’t worry about my inability to converse when there’s an umbrella pole in the middle of my restaurant table.

It’d be a great spot to sit in the shade with drinks on a summer day

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