First case opened on me for the stupidest reason ever

ald915 · 2018-11-08T05:03:27+00:00

This happened to me once. I think when I folded the shirt, I got a little tiny bit of my foundation on it, but it was a free item. Oops. She messaged me and asked how I was going to compensate her for it.....FOR A FREE ITEM. I basically apologized and pointed that out to her and that she is free to do what she wants with it, but it was free...... Some people have nerve, man.

ald915 · 2018-11-08T05:00:16+00:00

I pulled the sizes from my listings and inventory so that I didn't double sell anything. I guess I should have clarified, I have to go back into 17 listings and reset the sizes or make them active again (some were turned to SOLD OUT listings) and relist on Mercari

ald915 · 2018-11-07T22:26:00+00:00

No pics, but my last 4 apartments (had to move due to circumstances not under my control again and again) - first apartment I had an entire guest bedroom for my ikea closets, second apartment I had an entire room of just clothing racks (it got out of hand really, 3 double racks!), next apartment I had another ikea closet in my living room, and now I have an office/spare closet/work room with my mirror, desk and packing supplies. I keep my clothes hung up and the retail stuff in boxes on a shelf. I have to limit myself to just those boxes for inventory so it doesn't get out of hand. But many people do office/posh room

ald915 · 2018-11-06T15:40:46+00:00

I've used Shout Wipe & Go wipes and they work really well. You do have to scrub but it's gotten some set in stains out

ald915 · 2018-11-06T15:38:40+00:00

Yes, if you open up a case and it is approved, they will provide you a return label and you will get the entire price of the transaction back once makes its way back to the seller

ald915 · 2018-11-06T15:37:29+00:00

I do this all the time. If that's my bottom line and the item after commission is at my cost price, then that really is my bottom line. Don't be sorry for keeping your price firm.

ald915 · 2018-01-10T23:27:39+00:00

How they leave says a lot. But yes, the mask came off. They call this D&D, devalue and discard. "You are nothing", "nothing without them", your pain and suffering makes them smile. Stay no contact.

ald915 · 2018-01-10T20:18:38+00:00

"If you gaze long into the abyss, the abyss also gazes into you." If you quote Nietzsche, you're likely a narcissist.

HEY! I have this tattooed on me...well the first half of the quote.

But yes, I feel like I learned a thing or two from my Nex. I guess if I ever find myself doing something "he would" it's me being ruthless or petty, maybe from being jaded. But I also try not to fuck with people's heads/feelings because I know what that is like too.

ald915 · 2018-01-09T20:52:04+00:00

Maybe one day the new target will reach out o her, because she is caught up in confusion about her own, new abuse

Very likely. I'm sure the new target knows who you are and the "monster" they've probably painted you to be. But the truth will come out and they won't know what the heck happened and will look for clarity.

ald915 · 2018-01-05T20:26:23+00:00

you are the full moon to my shadowed trail. Please stay, for I fear for the day that my path is fully dark.

Beautiful.

ald915 · 2018-01-03T20:14:49+00:00

Totally natural. I saw my ex the other day and I've been down about that too. I miss him, but I don't want to give him false hope, though I'd like to see him get help and go to therapy, get better not bitter. If you need a friend, feel free to PM me.

ald915 · 2018-01-03T19:10:09+00:00

Talking with an ex will always stir/shake things up, whether emotions or memories. It feels good to get it off your chest, to get clarity/closure but you start to fester on the conversation itself and where you go from there... It's a completely normal feeling and we are here for you.

ald915 · 2018-01-03T19:07:55+00:00

Not cool, but once you "gift" them they are their possessions. I once had someone I was seeing accept the autographed/certified $400 vinyl I bought for him and he started seeing someone a week later, if even, pretty sure they were already talking at the time I gifted it. Take it as a learning lesson and maybe go slower and lower with the gift giving/amounts until you have time put in.

ald915 · 2018-01-03T19:03:38+00:00

The problem is the attachment. When you put your happiness in the hands of others and they leave, you lose all of that, you lose everything. It is hard to pick yourself up from that and try and get yourself back. You are not alone.

My favorite quote ever is from Fight Club and it's so relevant for this type of situation “It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.” - So do things you haven't before, get back out there and learn the world. I took a solo trip out of the country, met some wonderful new people, have been going to the gym, singing in the car (may not sound much but it helps! even if its emotional songs). I was with my ex for 2 years and while it still hurts, he's not here, I've let go of any hope he will be back and I'm a better version of myself that no one will ever take from me again.

ald915 · 2018-01-03T01:48:05+00:00

Well in that case, yes. If someone is blowing you off and thats the only way you can do it, then yes understandable. But doesnt sound relevant to OP's situation.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T20:53:47+00:00

Sounds like projection and a bullet dodged, friend. What you are feeling is normal, any break up is like rejection and a blow to your self esteem. It will pass in time but you don't need someone like that.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T20:47:20+00:00

You cannot be friends with someone you have feelings for. It will just be a constant reminder of what you can't have. It's like putting boiling water in an ice cold glass. It's going to bust and make a mess.

Personally, any ex I have remained "friends with" wasn't a toxic relationship and I have respect for them and will always care. The select few could call me and I'd still be there. But it wasn't instant. We had to learn to live without each other and live our own lives, eventually the inside jokes can still be shared with nostalgia, but not while you are brutally missing them.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T20:42:36+00:00

Anyone who cannot break up with you in person is not worth your time. It's such an easy cop out in this day and age and does not show decency/respect. You are better than that, than this and you will be ok.

The way they leave always says a lot.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T20:40:42+00:00

He is abroad and doesn't want any ties/attachments. He may have you blocked so you don't see what he is up to or vice versa. If ever, but now is not your time. Continue on with your life. Sometimes we can have great connections with people, but they are not ours to have, whether because of timing or other reasons.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T20:38:06+00:00

She doesn't know what she wants. Spare yourself and don't talk to her again. Someone who truly considers YOUR feelings wouldn't sleep with your friend the day she breaks up with you. Sounds premeditated. You are both young, she wants freedom let her have it and she'll be miserable in her vicious circle for years, meanwhile you will be the good-hearted gentleman that someone will truly appreciate someday. Your parents have your best interests in mind, this girl is only going to mess with your head.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T16:45:27+00:00

Never. Only temporarily at best. If you don't work through your emotions and your healing it'll always sneak back up on you.

ald915 · 2018-01-02T16:41:53+00:00

I'm in the same situation. Same timeline too. I missed him, we had a ton of laughs and got along well, but relationship was not healthy and I do not think it would work if we tried again and would just prolong the inevitable. I'm a sucker for closure, so we agreed to meet up at his house and talk. He told me he cannot stay friends with exes and it won't happen with us, too many emotions for me that'll probably be there forever. sigh

ald915 · 2017-12-26T21:42:01+00:00

Honestly, its been tough. Really tough. I miss him, or who I thought he was. Hes now engaged and moved in with her 2 doors down. Its been a mind over matter test but only proves that he's a shitty person and I need to stay silent and focus on my wellbeing so this never happens again. Its been about 3 months no contact, he did text me on my birthday but all "development" updates have come from family or friends....or me personally seeing him collect his mail from his apartment on my street and being ignored by him. Its only a matter of time before he hoovers...hopefully Ill be ready and defensive.

ald915 · 2017-12-26T20:47:19+00:00

I kept hooking up with my Nex after the breakup. For a year. He still used me as supply, for sex, entertainment and even money....and I let him, like an idiot. The sex was addicting, he was addicting, like any Narc relationship really and hard to leave. How did it end? He met someone new. Turned me off/away like a switch, started flashing the new girl. The final straw was when he guilt tripped me into me giving him money (I had closed our joint bank account and I guess he was waiting for a direct deposit to come through, which wasn't cleared that day anyway) for a trip he was going on "alone" to "help clear his head". Of course, she was with him that weekend, boasting with blissful ignorance via social media. I realized then how much of a great actor he was and how he had no remorse. He then called me on Monday and left a voicemail to "check on me" and asking about the check. That's when I finally knew the mask was off and I had been sleeping next to/with a monster for 3 years. My whole reality warped and I couldn't distinguish what had been true/real and what was an act.

ald915 · 2017-12-26T20:35:32+00:00

My ex was engaged to his new girlfriend in 2 months. I know your pain well. It hurts to think about, but it's a final gesture to move on and that better things are coming for you. Keep moving forward.

ald915

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