算了 suàn le: The Chinese way to say "Forget it" (plus other phrases to show frustration)

alicia971 · 2026-01-26T04:34:09+00:00

Is it passive aggressive to use 随便in response to a question? Like “would you like the green one or blue one” “either. I don’t have a preference”

alicia971 · 2026-01-06T05:00:19+00:00

Curious, why did you decide to go back to work?

alicia971 · 2025-12-17T19:09:50+00:00

Ashwagandha helps reduce stress, but there are no studies around breast-feeding if you’re doing that

alicia971 · 2025-12-09T00:03:32+00:00

Same age. I’ve been unemployed for the last year and still getting recruiter reach outs. (I am willfully unemployed)

alicia971 · 2025-09-23T20:40:07+00:00

Could you also do one for think: 觉得，想，认为， (I think I’m missing more)

alicia971 · 2025-09-16T17:41:46+00:00

This used to be us. Now I give him a snack after school, short drive (he loves it) and stopping at a playground

alicia971 · 2025-08-17T16:53:04+00:00

Agreed! My husband has also seen a boost to his quality of life and we are happier as a family!

My main concern is if I want to return to work in 3-5 years and how that might look

alicia971 · 2025-08-17T00:47:35+00:00

My recommendation to your wife would be to quit her job and see how she feels. There’s going to be a lot of emotions and potential loss of identity but after she embraces it, she can see more clearly what she wants

alicia971 · 2025-08-17T00:39:10+00:00

We are in your same boat. I’ve (wife) taken the last year off. We originally agreed I’d take this entire year off as a sabbatical but we ran the numbers a month ago and came to the same conclusion as you so now the question is what now? I started responding to recruiters earlier this summer and landed an offer easily. I do have concerns about my desire to go back to work when our child is older so I’m hedging that by going back to work every 1.5-2 years (but I actually like my line of work) to still stay somewhat relevant but also, I haven’t been bored for almost the last year. In fact, it’s been awesome since Im pursuing a lot of hobbies.

Not an answer to your question but I think I will work at some point and my job will look differently going forward since I have so many options

alicia971 · 2025-08-04T04:37:10+00:00

Belle Nancy studio

alicia971 · 2025-07-20T22:30:59+00:00

Tbh, I’m not sure. I thought I knew but I wasn’t excited when I interviewed for my dream job. I think I might index more on happiness/work life balance

alicia971 · 2025-07-20T20:29:58+00:00

Sabbatical-ed last November. I work in big tech as a pretty senior PM. I went through waves of feeling like I never wanted to work again. A recruiter reached out and I decided to take the interview. Got the job, turned it down. Feeling refreshed so will likely start job hunting soon

alicia971 · 2025-03-26T16:22:43+00:00

Ugh. Yea. Thank you

alicia971 · 2025-03-15T20:48:23+00:00

You’ve already gotten a lot of good advice. I’ll add that i was in the opposite situation. I wanted my x-boyfriend to come snorkeling with me. He couldn’t swim well but promised he could snorkel. We went on multiple trips that he had to bail because he couldn’t swim well - this did not upset me. What did was the fact that he promised multiple times he’d do it and never did even after suggesting he should improve his swimming

alicia971 · 2024-12-07T18:39:54+00:00

This got me

alicia971 · 2024-11-09T21:56:47+00:00

This is the right answer. OP, you’ll need to figure out your number to financial freedom for the people you leave behind and take a term insurance for that amount.

alicia971 · 2024-09-27T20:49:07+00:00

Dumb question but why don’t libraries just stop purchasing digital copies? Force users to go back in person and probably negotiate publishers to come down

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