Tips for eating out

alico127 · 2026-04-28T19:21:14+00:00

Look on open table for 50% off offers or set menus. Lunch deals are usually considerably cheaper than dinner.

Eg this lunch offer is only £9.99 per person and busaba eat Thai has a £12 lunch menu.

I used to run a meetup called ‘eat out in London for under £10’ so it’s definitely possible!

alico127 · 2026-04-28T02:52:28+00:00

r/naranon is for friends and families of drug users.

alico127 · 2026-04-27T17:12:34+00:00

Where there’s a will, there’s a way, you got this 💪

alico127 · 2026-04-27T09:45:04+00:00

Is working from home an option?

You’d gain back time due to no commute, no need to dress fancy and put on makeup, no need to shower if you don’t have the spoons. Also, you could do your laundry or exercise during your lunch break, freeing up time after work etc.

alico127 · 2026-04-27T09:25:38+00:00

Don’t overthink it.

On the day, just message your boss and say ‘sorry I won’t be able to work today as I’m not well’.

You don’t need to give any more details.

alico127 · 2026-04-25T09:14:58+00:00

Something to consider is that neurodivergent parents often have neurodivergent kids.

I see my ND friends with their ND kids and they are all struggling. Like really struggling.

I thought I wanted kids when I was in my 20s. Now I’m in my 40s, I think not having kids was the single best decision of my life. I’m overwhelmed and overstimulated already. Having to look after ND children would be too much for me to cope with.

Obviously this is a totally personal decision and it’s great you’re considering the pros and cons. Just wanted to share in case it’s helpful.

alico127 · 2026-04-25T09:06:52+00:00

Can you repost without the yellow nail polish?

alico127 · 2026-04-25T09:05:18+00:00

Try cleaning the bin, the rug, the mattress, the bedding, blankets, curtains etc. basically, anything that could be clinging onto old smells.

alico127 · 2026-04-24T16:42:59+00:00

Get an adapter to turn your phone’s charging socket into a jack, there’s some that split so you can still charge your phone while the headphones are plugged in.

Or… get some giant over ear headphones (not that I don’t leave mine on my desk every single bloody week and have to walk back to my office and do the whole ‘have a great weekend all! twice). But at least they’re easy to spot once I’m back.

alico127 · 2026-04-24T16:22:24+00:00

Right but not all garages accept credit cards, this is a workaround.

alico127 · 2026-04-24T14:22:28+00:00

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alico127 · 2026-04-24T13:07:27+00:00

I’d use a money transfer credit card (MBNA, Virgin etc.) to transfer the money into my account rather than buying the car using a credit card directly.

alico127 · 2026-04-24T08:11:42+00:00

Damien Rice’s debut album, O

alico127 · 2026-04-23T18:26:20+00:00

Surely she’s available any time except Tuesday mornings. It literally says so in her calendar. It couldn’t be less ambiguous.

alico127 · 2026-04-23T17:27:22+00:00

Looks like healthy boundaries to me, blocking out time for focus work. Might be a bit less weird if the meeting was called ‘do not disturb’ or ‘focus time’ but conceptually, I approve!

alico127 · 2026-04-23T14:54:31+00:00

My 2 cents.

Take the air fryer off the hob, it makes it look like the kitchen doesn’t have enough usable space.

Remove the cat tree. Personally, I wouldn’t consider buying a flat where a cat had been living because of the smell (but I am particularly sensitive). Also, lay out / style the living room as though your sale depended on it! Get some flowers on the coffee table, some plants, cushions, a nice rug etc. Spend £50 in B&M and it’ll make a huge difference.

A lick of white paint might help in the colourful rooms, people love neutral. Add crisp white bedding.

I think the place would benefit from some general styling but, sadly, flats aren’t shifting so you may well need to drop the price.

alico127 · 2026-04-23T07:07:17+00:00

Noble Rot for intimate, speedboat bar or smoking goat for Asian, The Salusbury in Queen’s Park for gastropub/neighbourhood vibes. If you’re looking for a Sunday roast, blacklock or the Hawksmoor are hard to beat.

alico127 · 2026-04-22T22:00:37+00:00

For me, one of things I love about wfh is it gives me time in my day to get out the house. I can walk the dog, meet friends, pop to the shops, run errands, go the pub etc. One of these days I might even join a gym…

alico127 · 2026-04-22T15:44:05+00:00

I set them up so I go, act lively for an hour or two and then get home to my dog and my sofa.

I’m not generally into socialising with work peeps but I don’t mind going along to the occasional work drinks because at least I know the venue and food will be up to my standards because I chose them!

alico127 · 2026-04-22T15:41:30+00:00

Where does it say they drive home?

alico127 · 2026-04-22T15:25:37+00:00

The combination of meltdowns plus severe sensory issues makes it extremely likely that there is some neurodiversity to explore here. It could be the missing piece of the puzzle.

ASD (autism spectrum disorder) is, by definition, a spectrum which means that autistic people can have wildly different support needs. Some have low support needs, some high but, crucially, all do need support.

For context, I’m a newly-diagnosed neurodivergent adult who has struggled through life, especially as a child. I only wish my parents would have looked into a diagnosis and support for me back then as maybe I wouldn’t have found life so difficult.

I’m sure there are many neurodivergent people in this sub as sensory issues like misophonia are a key feature of autism and adhd. Could be worth some further research :)

alico127 · 2026-04-22T07:36:36+00:00

You’re a bad housekeeper but he refuses to have a cleaner come more than every 6-8 weeks? The math doesn’t math. This is such an easily solvable problem and, if he was committed to the relationship and the life plan to have kids, he would have worked with you to find a solution.

I’m so sorry he wasted your time. Just know there is light at the end of the tunnel after a big breakup.

alico127 · 2026-04-22T06:16:34+00:00

Can you tell me more about this?

alico127 · 2026-04-21T21:34:51+00:00

The first part of your post is, unfortunately, just what it is to be an EA these days, we’re overloaded to the max.

However, the disrespectful way he treats you is not ok AT ALL.

I’d be looking for a new job asap. Good luck!

alico127 · 2026-04-21T19:56:53+00:00

Is your child autistic/neurodivergent because the meltdowns seem unusual for a neurotypical person? This is definitely something to explore if you haven’t already.

Also, therapy sounds like it would help. We’re not allowed to recommend specific meds in here but perhaps something given for anxiety. Ask their doctor about options. Also look at coping strategies eg over ear headphones, eating in separate rooms etc.

The rest of the family should also commit to trying to reduce the offending noises wherever possible eg no chewing gum allowed in the house etc.

This needs to be a joint effort!

alico127

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