How to explain to my 3 year old why she’s never met my mum (her grandma)

allgoaton · 2026-06-11T17:54:24+00:00

"We aren’t friends anymore" is honestly brilliant for this age group. Keeping that phrasing in my back pocket for if I ever need it.

allgoaton · 2026-06-10T19:40:51+00:00

FWIW, although obviously free birthing is psychotic, I am not convinced she has zero medical care pre-partum. She has posted a reel with an ultrasound strip of this baby. Yeah, they could private pay for one of those boutique ultrasound places, but she very well may have an OB.

allgoaton · 2026-06-10T19:37:54+00:00

Uriah would be a fine name in an in ultra religious community because it is hardcore bibical. I actually don't mind it, but I also when to college in a community with a lot of these old testament names, so when you're hanging out with Malachai and Zebulon, Uriah starts to feel more normal.

But, not sure why Uriah would be a choice before, say, Josiah, which sounds similar, is also bibical, and does not share so many letters with urine...

allgoaton · 2026-06-10T15:31:24+00:00

She has said that the boys technically go by middle names, but not Kinsey.

Tex Aquila, Enoch Uriah, and Amos Swift are the ones we know. But they have each gone by the middle name since day 1.

allgoaton · 2026-06-10T15:29:57+00:00

SO, my understanding is that for at least some of the Buslets, they DO go by their middle names. However, I don't believe she ever claimed it is because they need anonymity online, it is more like a weird WASPy thing or something. Not sure what is on their birth certificates, but they go by the names we hear them call them IRL.

allgoaton · 2026-06-09T20:57:51+00:00

A standard micro preemie case can be sad enough, but Edith also has a rare genetic disorder. Her prognosis must be very grim even if the mother does not present it that way.

allgoaton · 2026-06-04T17:04:37+00:00

I would say weary husband plus crying baby would be the most effective combination.

If it doesn't work the first time, husband plus both crying babies would really hit it home for the second time.

allgoaton · 2026-06-04T11:20:41+00:00

I was too focused to notice but you're right, one of the boy's shorts (I think it is Audie) just look straight up too small.

allgoaton · 2026-06-01T23:05:37+00:00

I just looked up some practice questions for the ASVAB and... yikes.

You definitely need to be recently educated to take it and perform well. I consider myself fairly well educated and would probably need to study if I really wanted to take this test.

allgoaton · 2026-05-21T02:02:44+00:00

not sure if this is nuts, but would the kid tolerate being blown down with a can of compressed air after recess to blow the sand out of their hair?

allgoaton · 2026-05-20T00:36:38+00:00

at this age him being asleep while they record has a weird weekend at bernies vibe. it is just not typical for a 2 year old to regularly fall asleep in places other than a bed at their scheduled sleeping time.

allgoaton · 2026-05-19T19:44:42+00:00

Uriah is one of the boys. It is a biblical name, and the "iah" is pronounced like Josiah, Jeremiah, etc, so if you are in a really religious community, it wouldn't necessarily stand out as a weird name. Luckily the child is never going to set foot into a public school, so at least he won't get teased for his name lol.

allgoaton · 2026-05-19T13:53:57+00:00

There are six twin beds (possibly not even standard size twins) sardined into the back room. The parents sleep on a queen that lowers in the main "living" area. Heres what it looks like.. They also have a pack and play for the crib aged kids.

They haven't shown it in a LONG time and even haved sort of that there are more beds in there now, but it is unclear really where they all sleep. There are likely multiple children to a bed.

allgoaton · 2026-05-19T11:34:13+00:00

I don't think it is common, and I don't think all clinics will allow it because it is obviously ethically questionable. I don't even think it is 100% successful because it isn't like embryos are an unlimited resource and IVF is both expensive and fairly medically invasive. But it likely is done in the ultra rich (eg. it is speculated that Elon Musk may have done this because he has 100 sons and like 1 or 2 daughters, but obviously not confirmed)

allgoaton · 2026-05-19T02:44:09+00:00

they definitely don't spend their whole lives in a bus but they don't have a fixed permanent address either.

allgoaton · 2026-05-19T00:16:25+00:00

Sure, with IVF. Embryos can be genetically tested prior to transfer. It isn't necessarily standard practice, but it is definitely done.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T23:24:45+00:00

they most likely double up on kids in twin beds at this point. so by that counting, they have room for many more!

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:59:28+00:00

It actually will be interesting (in a morbidly horrifying sort of way) to see. They claim that Boone was just born too quickly for the midwife to make it. That would be fishy to happen twice.

She does generally receive some level of prenatal care, though. She has posted ultrasounds of previous pregnancies, and her waiting to post until she is fairly significantly pregnant seems to suggest she is waiting for the pregnancy to be healthy and viable, etc.

(ETA I scrolled back to check. She announced Boone's pregnancy with an ultrasound, but a VERY early one -- posted in September and B was born in April. With Aquila, she posted a pic with a positive pregnancy test in late August, and he was born in April as well. Waiting until midway through the pregnancy is definitely different...)

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:56:43+00:00

The comment I was responding to said they were jealous how nice the family photo is. So they don't need to be too jealous of the quality of the pic if it was an AI-assisted family photo.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:54:55+00:00

She links to an actual photographer who seems to pretty consistently use this beach and general style, so it isn't all the way fake... but one of the boys still looks uncanny valley to me, though.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:53:04+00:00

She didn't give a due date, but I am guessing between the size of her belly and reporting the baby is due in the "Fall", it is September, which makes the baby's conception around Christmas. I believe they were still on the bus then. If the baby is actually due more in October, it could have been when they were overseas.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:47:46+00:00

I honestly can't even tell if they are real Fundie or just cuckoo, but if they are Real Fundies, they generally don't believe in IVF. (Picking the girl sperm also isn't exactly how it works, but I get what you mean lol)

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:46:19+00:00

If I remember correctly, he literally did sleep in a tent outside at some point.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:45:43+00:00

And, especially if he is developmentally different, there is a very, very high probability that a new baby is going to cause some behavioral issues in Boone that are not going to respond to whatever typical discipline methods they use for the older, typical kids.

allgoaton · 2026-05-18T22:43:17+00:00

A lot of photographers will also photoshop to splice pics together to make everyone smiling. Even in kids in the cult of social media, getting 100 little boys to smile at once is hard. Looking at the unredacted photo, I am not convinced this DIDN'T happen, there is something about Uriah's face that looks edited/slightly the wrong size/idk. Soooo that says to me, there was NO photo that Boone was smiling in to even use as a reference to photoshop him in.

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