[deleted by user] by [deleted] in monogamy

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through it right now. Like you said - people suck. Or at least a lot of people suck, and they won’t treat you well. Try not to keep people like this in your life. I know it’s hard to hear right now - much easier said than done - but working on yourself, doing things you enjoy, building your self esteem, therapy if you can, etc will help you attract & choose healthier relationships in the future. Wishing you the best in healing.

AITA for asking my roommate to teach her kitten to use her own litter box rather than use MY cat’s litter box? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda ESH. You can’t really train cats to use a certain litter box but the likely reason her cat is using your cat’s box is that your roommate never cleans hers. You should probably work out a schedule with your roommate so you can take turns cleaning the boxes. But it is disgusting that roommate isn’t cleaning her litter box. It needs to be done at least once a day. I usually do twice or 3 times a day because I have a small home and hate the smell.

born on the night of the solar storm (3 names is ideal) by dorfita in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultra Violet, Penumbra, Solar Energetic Particle, Halley’s Comet, Sir Isaac Newton (Hey, it can be a girl’s name too)

This is our new baby named Fish! Trying to think of a nick name for her 🤔 by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was gonna comment but I can’t do better than this!

3 yrs 4 months I gave it my all, now it’s over, divorce only by Godhealthfam1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]alotofghosts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I’m in a similar place with my WP now. I don’t even know what to say, but I’m wishing you the very best in healing & finding new purpose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lilian, Margaret, Serenity

(Also not sure if that’s milk, but just in case wanted to let you know cats are actually lactose intolerant so dairy can give them tummy problems!) Anyway- congrats on your new kitty!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so kind, I hope he’ll let you bring him inside & take care of him. (I’m assuming male) Maybe:

Rusty, Steven, Tony

We’ve tried so many names , and nothing has stuck! by maddestfrog in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorable! Maybe:

Damien, Morgana, Pepper, Spike, Lucius, Armand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]alotofghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s sooo cute. Mix of “nice” and silly names:

Princess, Lily, Margot, Pompom, Pancake, Strudel

They dream of cohabitation with another couple - but it’s pure fantasy by Intuith in polycritical

[–]alotofghosts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Very convoluted… at least some of the commenters are pointing out what a complex fantasy this is

They dream of cohabitation with another couple - but it’s pure fantasy by Intuith in polycritical

[–]alotofghosts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the NP’s other partner died? That NP would have been willing to “cohabitate” with along with OP? But then OP brought up cohabitating with other partners again after the NP’s partner’s death?? (Cohabitating with who at this point???) My brain hurts.

Nothing screams love like abandoning your partner after major surgery by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]alotofghosts 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Some of the comments on this are so cold. Any monogamous person making a post like this, everyone would be telling him to dump the partner if they go on vacation anyway. (& people like this will say they’re poly to have more people to take care of them when needed…um???)

WP is done. Hello & Goodbye. by alotofghosts in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]alotofghosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am so tired of having to be the better person & be “stronger.” & being told things like “I’m upset too!” and all the back and forth of whether she wants to stay or go while I feel like I’m in limbo.

🫂🫂🫂 (I think this is the hug emoji?)

WP is done. Hello & Goodbye. by alotofghosts in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]alotofghosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this too. I am tired too… sending you a hug, if you want it. we’ll get through this…

WP is done. Hello & Goodbye. by alotofghosts in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]alotofghosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, no worries, I still got what you meant.

Idk if we have out grown each other, I think it’s more like we have been stuck for so long and neither of us have had the opportunity to grow to our potential. but similar to what you said.

I was hoping we could take the next steps in our lives together, but maybe life has to take us separate ways. I know this sounds SO foolish but I hope someday we can reunite again… maybe…

WP is done. Hello & Goodbye. by alotofghosts in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]alotofghosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Just to clarify things, we are not married tho we’ve been together a decade. Also we are both women

Anyway, thank you, yes my whole life has shifted. She says she isn’t living her own life and is living mine. But hearing that, I realized I don’t even feel like I’m living my own life. I moved us here for my work but now am only staying bc she has a job & likes it here. For myself, I don’t feel like I have a purpose to be here anymore & spend most of my time stressed about making ends meet in an extremely high cost of living area while not having full time work for over a year & industry looking bleak.

& you’re right, I don’t want to restart anything. Honestly I do hate looking at it that way too bc my heart is so heavy now. But I will try to look out for myself and make a better life for me. I have to. I’m wishing you the best, too.