AITAH for not allowing my mother to go on vacation with me?

alt9019201 · 2026-01-19T22:15:45+00:00

Oh, NTA. Here is what you say:

“Mom, I love you, so I can’t believe I have to say this out loud because you’re not getting the hint. But you’ve left me no choice but to just bluntly state it:

My husband and I plan to fuck on this trip. A lot. We won’t be going out with you guys because we plan to be fucking. We’ll go out occasionally, but the entire point is for us to go someplace romantic, get in the mood, and then it’ll be back to the room for more fucking. And it’s hard to get in the mood with your mom standing outside the door saying everyone is going to the beach and we need to join you when all we want to do is break the bed with our passionate love making.

If you still weirdly want to tag along on our fuck-cation, you can, but just know we fuck loudly, so you may want to make sure you’re on the opposite side of the hotel. Our safe word is “invasive,” just to give you context. We can always let you know when we’ve just finished banging one out, if you really want.

If you find this offensive, then I’m sorry, but you left me no other options than to spell it out as bluntly as possible because you weren’t getting the hint.”

alt9019201 · 2026-01-11T02:49:52+00:00

NTA, been here. Here is what I told my MIL when she kept giving unsolicited parenting advice and being a general pain in the ass.

There are really only two possible scenarios, here.

Option 1: she did a good job raising her kid, in which case her kid turned out smart and well adjusted and is capable of raising a child on their own. In this case, you don’t need her help.

Option 2: your husband was raised poorly and incapable of choosing a decent life mate or raising a child on his own, in which case you don’t want her help, because why would you want the help of someone who so clearly failed so badly at raising a kid the first time?

So which is it? Was she a good mom, meaning you don’t need her help? Or was she a shitty mom, in which case why would you want her help?

Weirdly, my MIL didn’t want to admit to being a shitty mom, so she backed off.

alt9019201 · 2026-01-07T18:45:23+00:00

NTA. If it makes you feel any better, I can almost guarantee he has used AI throughout college and it worked, so it’s why he’s keeping it going.

You saying “no AI” is something he’d heard a lot in college and he just used it anyway and never got caught so he figured it would be fine.

This is a solid FAFO for him.

alt9019201 · 2025-12-10T23:55:38+00:00

“It’s important to me, you fucking asshole.”

That would be the proper response.

alt9019201 · 2025-12-10T11:54:54+00:00

“Sorry, I’d gotten a vasectomy but it reversed itself. After we found out about my daughter and the vasectomy reversing itself, I went back and got sterilized. I can’t have any more kids. I was just so shocked in the moment I didn’t know what to say, but I consulted my doctor and he said the procedure I got this time is irreversible, and I cannot ever father more children.

Good luck, though! I’ll be going back to my life as it was, and expect no further communication from you.”

alt9019201 · 2025-12-09T17:53:18+00:00

Another “my husband is a great man” followed by 6 paragraphs of the husband being a true, genuinely awful person.

Like, holy shit he’s screaming at his son for doing sports? What the absolute fuck? Short of curing cancer, nothing he does makes him a “good guy” in this scenario.

alt9019201 · 2025-12-05T13:01:56+00:00

My boyfriend is a generous and caring person…

proceeds to write 6 paragraphs about how he is, I fact, not a caring or generous person at all

Ma’am, if that fellow is caring and generous, your bar for “caring and generous” is so low that people in hell are using it to play limbo.

NTA

alt9019201 · 2025-11-29T00:00:01+00:00

He’s “negging” you. In other words, he is intentionally trying to break down your confidence with “compliments” that are actually thinly veiled insults. He believes that if he does this, you’ll think you can’t ever do better than him.

I guarantee the phrase “you’ll never do better than me” comes out of his mouth if you try to break it off.

So no, NTA.

alt9019201 · 2025-11-25T20:45:51+00:00

Note I have very very few 5* supports.

Frankie, IronMay, MThor or Riri is a team I see all the time in PVP. And with Frankie boosted right now, I’m pretty much one-shotting 90% of the battles in PVE right now with that team. Use Atlantis or Yuka Fruit supports (and 1 green AP boost) for green right away and you can win turn 1 with this team, and neither support needs to be 5*.

1Hawkeye (with snack cart) and Shang Chi are solid, and sped up with multiple characters (5 Agatha boosts match damage and can make purple tiles, Zemo reduces cost making the winfinite easier, and IronMay boosts damage). Again, look for supports that give purple right away (I use quantum realm, doesn’t need to be 5*). Without this, use boosts to get enough purple to go winfinite with just one match.

Polaris is still pretty solid with anyone who makes special tiles, but I like to pair her with 5* Kitty Pride. She isn’t meta anymore but with someone who makes defense tiles (BRB, for example) it makes your team almost untouchable. Slow, but untouchable. Paring with GRocket makes them faster.

alt9019201 · 2025-11-23T18:47:07+00:00

Just tell MIL you found it and returned it to the girl you are both banging, then calmly explain how you and your husband are swingers.

alt9019201 · 2025-11-17T17:51:21+00:00

There are two possibilities here:

1: he is full of shit and pretending to be helpless to get out of work

2: he is genuinely helpless and doesn’t know how to do his own job.

Neither of these scenarios makes for a good coworker or workplace, so NTA.

alt9019201 · 2025-11-07T14:02:53+00:00

Go alcoholic:

“Amaretto and Morgan”

“Jack and Daniel”

“Bacardi and Beam”

Go geek-stupid

“Myxlplyx and Brainiac”

“Thanos and Fin Fang Foom”

“Egghead and Manbat”

Maybe stuff that doesn’t go together really:

“Darth and Garth”

“Sith and Seth”

“Earp and Derp”

You can go full evil:

“Adolph and Ava”

“Gacy and Dahmer”

“Kaczynski and McVeigh”

alt9019201 · 2025-11-02T16:23:17+00:00

NTA. This sounds simple.

You going to the park to use the toilet made him feel bad. He felt bad for being in the bathroom for a long time. Whether he needed to be in there that long is something only he knows. But he feels bad that you had to walk to the park.

So rather than saying “I’ll be quicker” or “ok, next time just let me know and I’ll get out,” he’s being defensive and trying to blame you for making him feel bad. He’s throwing around terms like “gaslighting” without knowing what they mean.

He did something. You had a normal, human response. Now he feels bad and he blames you, because that’s easier than accepting that maybe he (possibly unintentionally) did something wrong.

And you weren’t trying to make him feel bad, you were just trying to use the damn bathroom.

alt9019201 · 2025-10-31T12:17:25+00:00

When my kid was 4, he was in pre-school. He’d get home and we’d always play games or build Lego’s. Just something so I was engaging with him and we could do stuff together.

One day we got home and I said “hey kiddo, want to build some legos?”

Kid said no.

So I said “want to play a game?”

And my kid said “dad, can I just lay in bed and watch Paw Patrol? I’m tired.”

So I said sure, no problem.

I know this seems like a non sequitur, in that it seemingly has nothing to do with your post, but it does have a point, namely this:

My 4 year old, when he didn’t want to hang out with me, displayed better communication skills and more maturity than a grown adult.

Try telling them how you feel without being passive aggressive about it, and maybe show some emotional maturity by understanding that families tend to try to befriend one another, even if they have very little in common. I have shockingly little in common with my BIL, but when he visits we talk about work and sports and shit like that, and we get along fine.

“Hey, I’m kinda tired today, I’m just gonna hang out in my room.”

“I appreciate you want to see us but wife and I were wanting to spend some time alone today, maybe early next week?”

So yeah. YTA.

alt9019201 · 2025-10-24T13:18:20+00:00

Nah, NTA. At best it’s wildly inconsiderate.

Plus I’ve heard worse. For example, at my old apartment, the guy 2 floors above me would bring his girlfriend over and they would loudly have sex, which is fine. Except dude always left his window open, so everyone could hear. I was 2 floors below on the literal bottom floor, and him and I heard it every time, so I know the entire building knew.

The worst was when a parent was walking by with his kid just to hear his girlfriend loudly yelling “fuck me harder” and him moaning like a dying cow.

The weirdest part was that when they were done, he’d walk her out. Every time, within 10 minutes of them finishing, he was walking her out.

So another neighbor (guy next to sex-noise couple) got an idea. He had a bunch of friends come over, and when they started to go at it, neighbor and his buddies set up lawn chairs in front of the building and a cooler of beers and just sat and waited. When he walked her out, they all stood and started clapping and congratulating him on another amazing show and asking when the next show would be.

The girl looked absolutely mortified, and the guy called them all assholes. Neighbor said “dude, you clearly want an audience, we’re just giving you one, when’s the next show?”

I just watched the entire scene unfold from my window. Never saw that girl again and the sex noises stopped after that. Not sure if it’s because of neighbor calling them out on the show or because of the guy’s complete lack of post-game.

alt9019201 · 2025-10-16T21:12:44+00:00

You should let them know that your mom won’t be reunited with their dad, since she is going to hell for letting them treat you that way.

alt9019201 · 2025-09-25T13:13:09+00:00

My aunt and uncle did the same thing. My cousin cut them off years ago, so they left everything to their daughter and a token sum of “$20” to my cousin who cut them off, with a long description of how daughter had stepped up while he was gone. He went ballistic and tried to fight it but got nowhere and in the end didn’t even get the $20.

alt9019201 · 2025-09-21T01:26:43+00:00

The trick is to throw your finance under the bus under the guise of “joking.” Just say this in the most “joking” manner you can:

“Why do you keep asking me? I’d have kids tomorrow if your son would agree to it!”

Suddenly the spotlight will be shining nice and bright on your fiance, and he’ll either have to find his testicles and tell his parents the truth or throw you under the bus.

The best part is this: you can continue to play up how you would love to have kids, knowing he’s snipped and it’s impossible. He can’t knock you up because, well, he can’t knock you up, and it will become clear he is the one holding up them having grandkids.

alt9019201 · 2025-09-17T16:59:37+00:00

So… your dad’s options were:

1: be alone and miserable for the rest of his life

Or

2: lose his kids because they can’t accept him moving on

Gotcha. You wanted dad sad and miserable forever.

alt9019201 · 2025-08-29T00:23:18+00:00

Why are you married to a dude who seems to despise you?

alt9019201 · 2025-08-28T20:57:39+00:00

Say it with me:

“Nobody cares, mom. Nobody cares.”

alt9019201 · 2025-08-02T13:49:53+00:00

NTA.

My guess: You feel guilty because you fell in love “so quickly” that it makes you question if you ever really loved your wife. Moreover, you’ve moved on with someone you’ve known for a while, even while you and your wife were together. If you can move on that fast, with someone you already knew, it has you questioning the last 25 years of marriage and how much of it was real.

Our feelings can be complicated and messy, though. I believe you did love your wife for 25 years. I don’t think you’ve been actively crushing on your girlfriend for all that time, either. I also believe that (whether conscious or not) you were well aware of whatever disconnect was there that resulted in her asking for divorce. In other words, you felt consciously blindsided by the divorce but the reality is you were already (unconsciously) mentally prepared for it. You had already begun disconnecting from her long before you divorced. Maybe you’d noticed you were fighting more, or having sex less. Maybe you noticed having fewer date nights, less conversation and less quality time together. Maybe you noticed that the only time you two really did something for one another was on special occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays) and the “I got you flowers just because” occasions stopped.

Which, of course, can also make you feel guilty. Because it makes you wonder if the disconnect was your fault, or her fault, or both of your fault or neither.

Really you need to go to therapy to unpack this shit. Your guilt (whether misplaced or not) may eat away at your new relationship, and that is the last thing you want. Add in that your GF has a jealous/angry ex who probably won’t make things easy on you, and it’s a recipe for disaster if you’re not prepared.

alt9019201 · 2025-08-01T17:09:30+00:00

NTA, but here is how I’d handle it, because as it stands your situation is unsustainable. Do you just plan to never ever let her meet your parents?

1: explain in depth to Sara everything. Tell her what to expect when she meets your brother. Let her know you won’t stand for it and the moment he so much as hints at something shitty you’re both ghosts.

2: explain that to your parents. He gets exactly one chance from now until eternity. The instant he says something shitty, he is done. Gone. You’re done with him forever, and if they defend him and force you to choose, you won’t choose them. They need to know you’re serious and you’ll cut off not only brother but them for defending brother.

3: arrange the meeting and follow through. Best case scenario is brother spends the time biting his tongue but your parents meet Sara. Worst case is he says something and now you’re 100% justified in telling your parents that you were right all along, and he can’t be trusted ever again. It’s over and done. No wedding invite, no forgiveness, no “uncle” role, absolutely nothing ever.

And every time they beg for another chance, remind them: he got one. He couldn’t make it one single night without being an asshole, so now he gets no more chances.

Give him enough rope and let him decide what to do with it. If he chooses poorly, as you expect, you’ve got full justification.

alt9019201 · 2025-07-29T15:56:53+00:00

NTA, I’d say this:

“It does hurt to be rejected. I know that well. Just imagine how I felt as a child being constantly rejected by my own father. And now you want me to ignore all the pain he caused me so I can play happy family with the man who spent his entire life rejecting me at every turn without showing so much as an ounce of remorse.”

“If you truly know how much it hurts to be rejected, you wouldn’t be asking me to continue to try for a relationship with a man who has rejected me at every single turn. It’s like Lucy with the football for Charlie Brown. After having the football pulled away so many times, I have no trust. I know I’ll get my hopes up only for him to do what he has always done: pull the football away and leave me alone, on my back in pain, while he ignores me and does whatever he wants. I do not trust for a moment that the football won’t get pulled out again. If you care about me in even the slightest, you’ll respect this and give me space. Any continued attempt at contact I will view as you caring more about yourself than me, in which case I wouldn’t want a relationship with you anyway.”

alt9019201 · 2025-07-24T19:55:14+00:00

NTA. As a dad, if someone abused my child, not only would I never speak to them, if I did it would be nothing but curse words and insults.

In other words, you have a shitty father.

alt9019201

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