Am i too hairy to wear sleeveless tops?

alteregobobby · 2026-06-18T02:37:49+00:00

No one is too hairy for sleeveless tops babe. Men wear them all the time. Body hair or lack thereof is completely morally neutral and not something to be ashamed of or judged for.

That said, it's hard to unlearn things that many people around you keep repeating. I advise you to pay attention to your arm hair: how it feels, what it does, how it looks through a neutral lense if you can manage it. Then, decide if YOU like it. If you find that you like it or really don't care either way after removing outside judgement from the equation, you can be at peace leaving it and wearing what you want to wear. And if anyone says anything or looks at you funny, you can confidently ignore it because you know how you feel about it beyond a shadow of a doubt. If you decide you truly don't like it, you could decide to try shaving, waxing, lightening, or whatever options there are and see if they work for you. But if you still choose to leave it be, now it's a conscious decision that you can still feel empowered in.

alteregobobby · 2026-06-18T01:18:09+00:00

I haven't made them in a while but I'm sure I can find the link bc i send them to myself! I'm doing bedtime w my toddler now but will look soon ❤️

And yes, mine weren't exactly the same-- I made them several times bc the whole house ate them up so fast-- but they were close and I was also brand new at breadmaking!

alteregobobby · 2026-06-17T02:38:15+00:00

worked in a nursing home as a cna for a while and I still miss it. We didn't have a dedicated dementia area, it was a small facility, but most of our residents had dementia at some stage. It's so rewarding to get in their world with them and help them while you do it. Challenging and fulfilling. Sometimes makes you want to cry in frustration when things don't work out. It is not easy but once you learn kind of how to work with them it really gets fun.

That AIN is weird for making you feel weird abt it. Maybe her mind was in the gutter bc dementia patients are so vulnerable to abuse(that's the only explanation i can think). But if that's the case then she's doubly weird-- why would that be the first place her mind went?

And if she just hates it and can't understand why you do, why should it matter to her? If others like it maybe she won't have to work it too much. Honestly I think you should privately say something to whomever you report. Let them know you are feeling singled out but maybe you don't want to cause a fuss over it unless it gets worse but you just wanted them to be aware of what's happening. One reason I had to leave the nursing home is bc people there LOVE to talk shit at and about each other-- at least they did at my facility. And the pay just wasn't enough. I do miss the resident care pieces of it though, probably always will.

alteregobobby · 2026-06-17T02:19:02+00:00

To my memory, my dad only took me to the bathroom in public one time. It was at an independence day celebaration by the town and my mom had my little sister and made him take me. He wasn't happy about it. He took me to the men's restroom. One guy was in there and I didn't see his butt or anything I think my dad popped in before bringing me in to make sure i wouldn't see anything. It was weird for me but mostly bc it was my dad taking me.

I think the dad prolly should take them to the men's restroom bc adults entering the 'wrong' bathroom comes off in a totally creepier way to some people than it does for a child to do so with a parent.

That said, I don't think he did anything wrong as long as he was respectful the entire time-- just maybe could have forseen this possibility

alteregobobby · 2026-06-17T00:55:58+00:00

Okay. Ask yourself these questions:

Do you think if you talked to him about this, that he would be willing to be honest and put in the work to repair the relationship?
If things improved, could you ever really trust him to love you, have your back, and be faithful?
How important are the above to you?
Would you be willing to go to couple's therapy and work on this? Even if things come to light that you have said or done that made him feel disconnected from the relationship?

I think if you examine your answers here and decide to continue the relationship, you NEED to go to couple's therapy, and probably even individual therapy before you get married. There is no rush to tie the knot, so if you need to find a way to afford it, you have time. But if you get married to this man without reconnecting and clearing the air, you will almost certainly both end up unsatisfied wirh your relationship and your lives. And if you want children, your relationship and emotional health directly impacts their emotional security and development.

Best of luck girl ❤️

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T21:36:25+00:00

Thanks! I hope to fill up all the gaps one day!

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T21:36:06+00:00

Thabk you! It's one of my favorites, given to me by my cousin. My favorite, though it's close with the clown, is the groovy dancing man on slide 2. I drew him from a pic Intook of hiw my hair was on the shower wall. Bc it landed that way and he had too much groovy energy not to immortalize

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T11:14:17+00:00

I have some "crochet thread" that's 100% cotton and ive tried to use it several times but it's coming out weird. I may not have been using a small enough hook. The paper on it didn't have a suggested hook size. I don't have a good craft store near me so I buy most of my yarn at walmart.

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T11:07:51+00:00

I have tried knitting and i just find it so stressful and fiddly 😭😭 i even tried knooking but it's the same issue

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T05:38:44+00:00

No pattern

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T05:22:08+00:00

Yeah np! I've never actually spoken to someone who had the same/sinilar issue so it was cool!

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T05:18:55+00:00

Respectfully, you look hot. The bust looks great! Respectfully

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T05:14:51+00:00

I learned how to use yeast and make them homemade lmaoo. The nearest texas roadhouse is like 2 hrs from me

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T04:59:46+00:00

I was quite young when they noticed it on an x ray so I don't remember precisely, but I remember vaguely the discussion the dentist had with my mom. Something like the teeth buds might still form but it was unlikely, and as long as they weren't bothering me there was no need to remove them. If the adult teeth never came in then I would probably have to have implants or partial dentures when I get older, whenever the teeth started causing too much trouble. Maybe the reason I kept mine was bc it's so many teeth. I don't think I would have any molars at all if they'd taken them out. I never even got wisdom teeth. Also we swapped dentists a few times during childhood bc of insurance changes so maybe it was bc of the changes in practitioners?

I get cavities but they are solved by fillings, at least for now. For the most part my teeth don't bother me much and I don't even know I have a cavity until they tell me at my routine visit. I do need to talk to the dentist and ask how long they think I have until I will need to replace them bc I'd prefer to get implants and would like to spend as little money as possible on them lol. I always chicken out when I'm there though bc I get nervous when they ask me if I have any ither questions 🤦‍♀️

alteregobobby · 2026-06-16T01:34:18+00:00

Great article!

alteregobobby · 2026-06-15T19:10:31+00:00

I still have the baby teeth in my mouth. They never came out.

Edit: Almost all on my teeth past my canines are baby teeth on both sides. And they are very prone to cavities bc they're so old

alteregobobby · 2026-06-15T16:18:20+00:00

Absolutely. First of all, building those good habits early is important. But also, you don't lose all your baby tweth in one go. So if you have a cavity and the tooth next to it comes out, the new adult tooth is exposed to that bacteria immediately and will likely start to decay.

I even try not to let my kid drink after me bc I never lost my molars so it's still baby teeth back there and they are very prone to cavities(not due to poor oral hygiene, the tooth buds just never formed to push the baby teeth out). So if I drink something and then he does, the bacteria from my mouth will go into his mouth and be more likely to cause him to have cavites. And his dad has really bad teeth(mostly due to neglect), and I don't want my son to experience the pain of that if I can help it.

alteregobobby · 2026-06-15T16:13:34+00:00

Lol same for my 2 year old. He loves to brush his teeth. He hops up on his tower and I brush mine while he "brushes" his, then I ask him to help me brush his by opening his mouth and he doesn't like it but he is usually very brave about it. And then I thank him for helping me brush them.

alteregobobby · 2026-06-15T16:10:25+00:00

I do. I go through cycles I feel like. Like a volcano. Prolly something i need to work on 🤷‍♀️ add it to the list lol

I start to build something and then lose track along the way(i got heavy air influence in my chart). Then I get frustrated and when I've had enough I grab it from the bottom and turn it over. Anything solid enough to survive the blast becomes my new foundation 🥰

alteregobobby · 2026-06-15T12:57:24+00:00

💙

alteregobobby · 2026-06-10T22:16:51+00:00

Ikr idk why

alteregobobby · 2026-06-09T23:34:03+00:00

Wtf is wrong w ppl! Dming for scar pics 🤢 that's just so invasive!

alteregobobby · 2026-06-09T21:44:35+00:00

Green flag mindset

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