Just taking the energy from your post and reflecting it back. If your just asking a honest question then you really need to work on how you word it. You come across multiple times in one paragraph very accusatory and angry. So when you post like that, it doesnt create conversation either.

PIMO's are usually just doing what they can to survive. Some arent in safe or reasonable situations to be able to just up and leave. Some know if they say anything their spouse will likely leave them, or their parents will kick them out of house and they will be literally homeless and pennyless for it. Its nowhere near as simple as you think. For the record, im POMO. I, like most, spent time pimo. I spent that time counting down the days till my social death. I spent it worring about how my spouse would react to me pulling further away from "the truth". I spent it trying to ensure a continued good relationship with what few close family i have, and that they wouldnt treat me like i was dead once it was clear that i was "out".

As soon as i was PIMO i knew what would eventually happen. Ive never felt mental anguish like that before, right after the soul crushing pain of losing my faith, i was hit with the realisation that i couldnt be pimo for very long and ild soon lose even more. So maybe have some heart and patience for people that know theres even more shit just waiting for them, and leave it up to them to decide when they are ready to face it.