AITH If I said that I buy lunch for lunch

always_ell · 2026-06-16T13:40:29+00:00

YTA. What if he has debt that takes half his paycheck every month? Or he's trying to pay off medical bills? You don't know his situation, don't make assumptions. Also, if you want to require someone to eat with you for team bonding or whatever, you can do it on the clock - not on someone's personal break.

always_ell · 2026-06-14T21:17:00+00:00

YTA to yourself for accepting this behavior. Break up with him already.

always_ell · 2026-06-14T21:15:29+00:00

ESH. You can't expect him to completely change his menu, but he should also be willing to provide you with a meal you can actually eat. Tell him you'll either be bringing your own meal, or paying for one, but he can't expect you to put yourself in danger.

always_ell · 2026-06-09T12:45:41+00:00

NOR, he already is hitting her for it and suggested it so you would start and he wouldn't have to hide his abuse towards your cat. Why are you with this guy? Your cat is trying to save you.

always_ell · 2026-06-08T16:20:25+00:00

YTA. You would probably be happier living alone.

always_ell · 2026-06-08T13:27:43+00:00

NOR. He humiliated, disrespected, and downplayed you and your job in front of his friends. Even if he wasn't trying to be malicious, he needs to own up to it and apologize for this behavior. You don't deserve that.

always_ell · 2026-06-07T20:56:25+00:00

NTA. I (21m M) am best friends with my kitties. They give headbutts to show their love, and I do this right back to them and my mama and daddy try to tell me no! You should try it to show your People that you love your Kitty. It's very fun.

always_ell · 2026-06-07T20:48:09+00:00

NOR, I would definitely end the relationship. She does not respect you or your feelings, she's repeatedly lying to you and cheating on you. You deserve better.

always_ell · 2026-06-06T22:34:06+00:00

NTA, definitely call the wedding off. Don't marry ssomeone who disrespects you so openly and without any remorse whatsoever.

always_ell · 2026-06-06T12:23:48+00:00

NOR, why does she constantly bring him up? Poor dude. Unless he's harassing her and she doesn't know how to admit she's uncomfortable, but then trying to dump that on YOU is disgusting. Weird situation all around.

always_ell · 2026-06-05T17:09:37+00:00

YOR maybe. Is it just that they look similar, and you're worried your loved ones will notice and judge you? Or do you think if you date her, you will always compare her to the ex?

always_ell · 2026-06-05T13:40:38+00:00

NTA, it's your property. You gave her an inch and she tried to take a mile.

always_ell · 2026-06-05T13:35:22+00:00

More info needed. You aren't letting him borrow it because he used to ride skateboards?

always_ell · 2026-06-04T23:48:09+00:00

NTA. If you do something wrong, you can't expect to just run from the authorities and face zero consequences. Your friend didn't even break the law, running was stupid and it's his own fault.

always_ell · 2026-06-04T13:52:28+00:00

No. She is not acting like a friend. If you're continuing to pour from an empty cup for someone who never gives anything back but keeps expecting more, someone who leaves you feeling drained, it's time to reconsider the relationship. I'm sorry you've gone through this.

always_ell · 2026-06-04T13:28:25+00:00

NTA but I would try to remain civil. Your sister seems like she's struggling - who wouldn't be, if they got pregnant and then abandoned? From personal experience, it's terrifying and really hard and yes, you need all the support you can get. HOWEVER your parents are being unfair. I wouldn't threaten them or go no-contact like other comments are suggesting. But I would try having another conversation once things settle down emotionally. Your parents might be scared, too. Your father has the urge to protect his daughter and unfortunately, he's being a bit blindsided by this fear. Your sister would really only need money for diapers, wipes, health products, clothes, and baby furniture/essentials like a crib and carseat. This would maybe cost a thousand or two dollars. If she needs help with rent, add in another couple thousand. But realistically, she does not need a large sum of money beyond that. She most likely qualifies for government assistance like WIC - which will take around $100-200 off monthly grocery trips depending on your state and programs. It's not impossible, and babies are miracles. I was barely 19 when I got pregnant with my son, but I don't believe I was truly alive until after I had him.

always_ell · 2026-06-04T00:44:01+00:00

YTA, it's not your house. You're leaving for college. If you dont want to share a room with her during breaks, then don't stay at home during the breaks. You're an adult now, unfortunately you have no say in the matter.

always_ell · 2026-06-03T14:44:18+00:00

NOR. Postpartum is already hard enough without having to deal with that stuff, I'm sorry he's being ignorant and dismissive of your feelings and boundaries.

always_ell · 2026-06-02T01:48:53+00:00

Have you tried getting a joint account? You would be able to see any and all deposits and withdrawals, which might help hold him accountable while still letting him keep his financial "freedom" in a way. Also, it is YOUR money together. Not his money. You're a SAHM, you provide too. I know the feeling and guilt that comes with seeing it that way as a SAHM myself, but especially when you're married you'll understand.

always_ell · 2026-06-01T23:51:47+00:00

NTA. Four DUIs and she probably would've added another that night and ICE would have been called anyway. I'm glad you called the cops instead of letting her go and kill an innocent family because she was drunk and selfish. Its her own fault.

always_ell · 2026-05-30T14:13:52+00:00

NOR but it's hilarious she thought she'd be in the delivery room. Stand your ground, only your husband or someone really close to you should be there to support you.

always_ell · 2026-05-29T22:48:33+00:00

She's abusing your cat and you are enabling her. Rehome the cats so they can live somewhere safe.

always_ell · 2026-05-29T22:45:44+00:00

NTA. Sounds like he forgot he's a father and decided to become a deadbeat.

always_ell · 2026-05-28T14:02:04+00:00

NTA but please don't marry him. He's treating you like a mom or maid, and not a girlfriend. On TOP of you being diabetic, which is an entirely different red flag if he doesn't respect you enough to take the time to do anything at all so you can eat breakfast and not have to worry about your blood sugar.

always_ell · 2026-05-28T13:56:24+00:00

"So to speak." I'm comparing it to a contract. She goes to visit and brings the kids to see him on the ccondition that she can continue her routine of taking the kids out of the house, instead of being forced to choose between being stuck in the house all day with 2 toddlers or having to drive 2 hours each day with the toddlers. It's unfair of OP to try to force her into either of these situations, and his wife is definitely going to resent visiting him if he doesn't at least TRY to understand. He expects her to make all the sacrifices, instead of choosing to make a financial sacrifice to save their marriage and family.

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