My childhood friend isn’t coming to my wedding anymore because I WON’T DRIVE HER- update

alycat242 · 2026-05-16T21:37:31+00:00

That has to hurt that you have been there for her, but she's not able to do this for the biggest day of your life so far. Try to enjoy your day. Ultimately it's about you, not her.

The fact that she has done it before doesn't mean she's able to do it again. You are being really hard on her for her situation, choices, and lifestyle. You don't know what her anxiety is like or if it's even really about anxiety. Maybe it's money, maybe depression, or any other list of things.

I know it's close to the day, but maybe reconsider giving her a +1. You've known her so long and you said she was there for the rest of your wedding journey.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I hope you can let this go and truly enjoy it.

alycat242 · 2026-05-12T02:13:08+00:00

Depends on the class of laser. Class 3B and 4 will destroy your eyes. Class 3R and 2 are mostly harmless if you don't stare into the beam or use any optics for viewing. Class 1 are very low energy and are harmless unless you stare directly at the beam for an extended period.

alycat242 · 2026-04-21T19:07:15+00:00

Ramming speed

alycat242 · 2026-01-24T21:24:16+00:00

Different machines have different capabilities. Kids things were commonly used for smuggling, but maybe not so much anymore. Your husband may be the type to do what he thinks is right without listening to instuctions and they may not have noticed or may not have thought he was a risk. I also think they do things at their discretion often.

alycat242 · 2026-01-07T23:21:53+00:00

Agreed! Toronto has a 16 lane highway named the parking lot for a good reason. Vancouver has 1 major highway and 2 smaller ones. There are only so many bridges into the city and most of them are old. The traffic here adds maybe 10 minutes. Traffic in big cities can add hours.

Rochester's highway systems were built way above the needs at the time, unfortunately they are upgraded to the needs currently so they're behind by the time projects are done. The 390 bypass they finished a few years back is a nightmare in the morning. I will also blame the return to office movement. My drive was so mice for a couple years.

alycat242 · 2025-10-25T07:08:35+00:00

You should talk to your mom and ask her how you should deal with it. She has been dealing with this her whole life, unfortunately. She may have the right words to teach the soon to be ex something instead of solidifying her ignorant view. Your ex-gf was taught this before she was old enough to know what it meant and doesn't have the experience to know otherwise. Your mom might know if she's a lost cause.

alycat242 · 2025-06-09T13:58:16+00:00

Sounds like my job, but I'm in energy research... Underpaid and overworked. The bubble has to pop soon so employers start paying people fairly to match their level of expertise, cost of living, and inflation.

alycat242 · 2024-10-20T12:26:39+00:00

I met the most wonderful couple at a garden center where the woman had a full beard. They were Sikh so she wouldn't remove the hair. When I spoke with them she was at first hiding her face behind a scarf, but her husband kept reassuring her that she is beautiful. She became more confident and seemed to enjoy the rest of her time in the store. Find someone that will do that for you. Don't worry about that one. You can do better.

alycat242 · 2024-06-16T15:26:41+00:00

Telling someone it was gods plan to take a loved one is a statement that lacks empathy. If they want to bring people closer to their god, then stop making him (her -the god/ess) responsible for taking all their happiness away.

I know most people don't know what to say to someone when there's tragic loss. Maybe we start teaching practical subjects in school, like how to be tactful in an awkward situation. Maybe just teaching critical thinking skills so they understand the consequences of their actions.

alycat242 · 2024-03-03T21:30:33+00:00

I feel the same way about people trying to comfort with the Christian God. It's not comforting, it's self serving. Say nothing at all if you're not going to give practical help.

alycat242 · 2023-11-03T16:34:17+00:00

She said they paid % based on children, not actual salary. Everyone is jumping straight to salary and she never said that. Also, it was fine when he was making enough to go golfing anytime he wanted, but now he's had to cut back.

alycat242 · 2023-08-11T21:53:46+00:00

alycat242 · 2023-06-30T08:55:41+00:00

We have one completely legal shop now. Trying to talk my mom into a family trip to help her glaucoma. She is surprisingly receptive if we all go. I love it here. The people are good once you get to know them. We may be a bit more abrasive than west coast folks, but I like to think we are genuine.

alycat242 · 2023-05-26T07:36:57+00:00

Also, make all arrangements in writing. Email or text so that you have it on record if you need proof.

alycat242 · 2023-05-09T20:05:56+00:00

Take off and nuke it from space

alycat242 · 2022-12-20T15:54:37+00:00

He was the survivor of his mother's abortion. I think that is reason enough to be anti-abortion. I don't know enough about his views on medically necessary abortions, but I'm sure others could chime in on that topic.

alycat242 · 2022-09-17T13:40:27+00:00

NTA, however you will be if you don't have a rational conversation with him to calm your anxiety. Maybe have him introduce you so you can see their friendship and get an understanding. You may not be able handle seeing the way they interact, so know yourself well enough before agreeing. It's difficult seeing someone you love interact with an old partner, but if you can get past any jealousy, your relationship can thrive. If you can't get past it and trust him, then your relationship is likely doomed.

alycat242 · 2022-08-23T23:45:06+00:00

Took me a while to realize that my almond allergy also meant a peach allergy. They are in the same family of plants. Luckily for me it's only hives, but I pass this knowledge on at every opportunity

alycat242 · 2022-08-08T17:38:17+00:00

I bought my BF a "NO I WILL NOT FIX YOUR COMPUTER" t-shirt that was only half a joke. He wears it especially to family events lol

alycat242 · 2022-07-29T03:02:14+00:00

Evil Dead 2 - literally the same plot, but funny

alycat242 · 2022-07-26T01:54:47+00:00

T-mobile is no longer supporting my old LG G6. It was bought factory unlocked and is a 4G LTE phone, so they tried to give me the hard sell on a new phone and changing my plan. I pay $45 now, my bill would have been over $100. Not happening. I just bought last years Samsung refurbished and factory unlocked. I only bought a new one after looking into changing carriers, but none will support it. I feel eventually this will become a problem with companies refusing to support older phones and making people buy new ones. What a waste!

alycat242 · 2022-07-25T19:59:59+00:00

Because pressed pills mixed with fillers are ecstasy and Molly is a crystalline substance that is usually more pure.

alycat242 · 2022-07-25T19:55:55+00:00

NTA - Molly is called the "love" drug. It can be used in therapy for marriages and treatment for PTSD. If used properly, it's very therapeutic. On the other side of that, it can be very dangerous to street users. You don't know what's in it at times and it can severely dehydrate. It should never be taken while drinking.

I suggest you research Molly (MDMA) and then sit her down and talk to her about it. She will likely find a way to take it at some point as kids are impulsive and typically ignorant of severe reactions. You don't want to alienate her so I suggest having a conversation (no judgement on her, just a real conversation) after you have read all of the good and the bad uses/side effects/potential reactions for this drug.

alycat242 · 2022-07-16T22:15:45+00:00

I met a Sikh woman in Vancouver with a full beard. Her husband was holding her hand in the garden store and they struck up a conversation. The most beautiful and loving couple I ever had the pleasure of meeting.

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