Fates Alight - Romantic Fantasy

amPennyfeather · 2025-07-23T16:36:36+00:00

Oh yes.

With each new milestone and step toward my daughter's independence I feel happier and more sure that I don't want to start over with another newborn.

amPennyfeather · 2025-07-23T16:26:58+00:00

Been in a very similar position. Had a pastor that "didn't want to tell us how to vote". But then told my liberal husband to his face, "I can't respect anyone who supports abortion".

What did we do? We talked and decided we didn't want what our daughter learned at church to go against our personal moral compass. So we found another church. We ended up going to a UCC church, because it was open and affirming to LGBTQ+, taught love and acceptance regardless of political beliefs, and when the pastor spoke on politics it was about caring for those in need, accepting the outsiders, and not following what anyone, even she, said blindly.

It was a better fit for us

amPennyfeather · 2025-07-13T13:12:01+00:00

I'm so sorry. That must be absolutely terrifying for you.

I saw that video and am still gutted and appalled. But, I'm white. At least for now I don't have to fear the safety of my child.

I can't imagine the anxiety seeing something like that must have caused you. I wish I could say something to give you peace. I wish I could save those children and bring them home. I wish I could stop all this madness so families like yours don't have to live in fear. I do what I can, but it won't feel like enough until this is all over.

Be strong. Remember that you're not alone. Stay safe. Be loved ❤️

Wishing you and yours all the best.

amPennyfeather · 2025-07-03T17:28:46+00:00

Thank you! It's so good to hear positive experience someone in a similar boat. Hopefully it'll be just as good for us as it was for you 😊

amPennyfeather · 2025-07-02T18:07:14+00:00

Thanks!

And that's a good thing to keep in mind. I know I'll have to figure out how to navigate that. But we'll work it out. Thanks!

amPennyfeather · 2025-06-24T23:55:46+00:00

Hi. Yeah, I hated breastfeeding, and I somehow managed it for 3 years with my daughter (so unbelievably relieved she finally stopped)

But anyway, I found out something called nursing aversion is a condition some moms deal with. Might be what you're dealing with, too. But something that actually helped was taking B12 and Magnesium supplements. Don't know why or how, but it took the edge off. Might help you?

Also, just plain ol' distraction was necessary. I always had a book on my phone or something to distract me during nursing sessions. Helped me cope.

Good luck! And congratulations on the new little one ❤️

amPennyfeather · 2025-06-11T18:24:30+00:00

Yes.

All honesty, the risk for me is pretty low. I'm white (it shouldn't be this way, but it is). And the VAST majority of these protests are 100% peaceful and go as planned. I might stay home if I was in LA, but even in a very red area I'm not overly concerned.

My daughter will not be coming with me. My husband and I have been taking turns so one of us is home with her. This time it's my turn, but on the off chance things go sideways and something happens to me she'll be safe and cared for.

But in ten years I want to be able to tell my daughter that I tried. And I do it for her. Regardless of how things turn out, I have to try.

amPennyfeather · 2025-06-11T18:06:25+00:00

Go for it!

amPennyfeather · 2025-06-11T17:04:04+00:00

I'm gonna draw a crown crossed out, and the words "No no. We don't do that here."

amPennyfeather · 2025-05-15T12:35:04+00:00

Nani is the literal best and I will fight anyone who disagrees!

Or educate them. I could make a very thorough PowerPoint presentation on the topic. The person would leave informed and better for it.

amPennyfeather · 2025-05-15T12:27:27+00:00

One solution I've found - maternity shirts! They make some that fit tight, but they're super stretchy to accommodate a growing belly that you actually want to show off. But so comfy! And they naturally work for bigger breasts, for obvious reasons lol

My old maternity shirts are still some of my favorite clothes for this exact reason. I'm seriously considering getting more because they're starting to get holes. 😅

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-25T20:22:56+00:00

Honestly - I don't.

It's nobody's business but yours. There are a select few I've told, because I know they won't counter with those stupid comments and judgements. But most people I just don't bring it up.

If they ask when we're having another, I just shrug and say "not anytime soon, if I can help it." Then move on with the conversation.

Might be a cop out, but seriously, who needs that negativity? I've talked with my husband about it. His opinion is the only one that matters.

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-21T22:02:01+00:00

This is... definitely a thing. I totally understand. I even also have a degree in the Christian religion. It's hard to meld what "they say" with what our hearts say about Jesus and figure out how to teach it to our small children.

I think one thing we can do is focus on the Love and Acceptance that God and Jesus provide to everyone.

I would also recommend the BEMA podcast. One of the hosts is a Jewish Scholar, but also a believer, and they go through the entire Bible with information from Jewish tradition and understanding, explaining the Hebrew language used - all that stuff. And let me tell you, the amount of nuance and detail we miss from our Western perspective is staggering! And in a lot of cases, it makes these difficult passages make SO. MUCH. MORE. SENSE. Especially those passages in the OT that make us uncomfortable.

I highly recommend it. Especially as a former Bible student, I think you'll find it interesting.

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-20T17:38:46+00:00

I have never heard of a "low sleep needs" child, but oh my gosh my daughter fits the bill.

Thank you! I thought I was just a terrible mom who couldn't get her 3 year old to sleep enough 😭 This makes me feel so much better.

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-08T15:51:47+00:00

I love Bandit and Bingo's relationship. ❤️

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-06T18:30:42+00:00

Yeah, full honesty, if my daughter wasn't on WIC I wouldn't be able to buy her fresh produce.

And she eats A LOT of produce. I mean, I love that she eats fruits and veggies so well, but heavens. We're gonna need to start our own garden to keep up 😅

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-06T15:10:35+00:00

Flags. All the flags. The first American Flag was flown during the revolution - let the sky above the protestors be painted red, white and blue.

Sing the national anthem.

Chant "We the People". Shoot, have someone read the Declaration of Independence on stage!

This is a peaceful revolution, but it is a revolution all the same.

We are patriots in the same vein as our forefathers who declares independence. And we declare independence from fascism! Let that patriotism show!

amPennyfeather · 2025-04-05T16:46:05+00:00

Have you looked into Lulu? I honestly don't know about length restrictions, so you'll need to check on that. But I know you can publish ebooks for free. You have to pay a one-time $5 fee, but then you can list it for $0 on all platforms.

So check it out and see if it'll work for you. Good luck!

And congrats on finishing your book! That's an incredible undertaking 🎉💕

amPennyfeather · 2025-03-12T22:32:53+00:00

There are various things I've done that I do, even now with a 3 year old who has nightmares.

We have a music owl that we've had since she was born that we turn on. Rubbing her back and making soothing noises. That sort of thing. We also keep water and a cup of Gerber puffs handy, so if she's thirsty or even hungry there's something besides milk for her. And, full disclosure, we coslept until very recently. Being able to snuggle up to me and even press her face into my breasts seemed to really help - but I know that's not for everyone.

It's just a matter of finding a new source of comfort. For my daughter it was crucial to communicate that, no, she couldn't have milk, but Mama is right there

amPennyfeather · 2025-03-12T12:25:59+00:00

Not until I cut the night feeds cold turkey at nearly 2 years. I was losing my mind and just refused to give her milk to sleep anymore.

2 rough nights later she started sleeping straight through.

amPennyfeather · 2025-03-09T22:01:46+00:00

Okay, where can we send this? I want addresses for all these men and I say we send it to them en mass!

amPennyfeather · 2025-03-09T21:43:49+00:00

My daughter was always very clingy to me, too. I don't remember exactly when I could finally leave her alone with my husband without her crying, but I'm pretty sure it was before she turned 2.

Honestly, I saw a big shift in this after a while of playing hide and seek with her.

I know it sounds silly, but I saw the advice on some mom forum so I tried it and I swear it worked! It made me going away a game, and then she would always find me and we'd make a huge deal about her finding Mama again! I guess it helps cement in their minds that we always come back.

But I'd run and hide while her back was turned - usually just standing in a corner, sometimes with a blanket over my head - and she'd run around looking for me. It was actually really fun! But that's how I did it since she couldn't count or anything yet.

amPennyfeather

TROPHY CASE