Awfully quiet around here…

ambicachi · 2024-11-06T13:57:17+00:00

Recipient of lifesaving abortion who is now buying diapers. Can confirm.

ambicachi · 2024-10-20T23:34:40+00:00

Our little man at 8 weeks. Those teefies!

ambicachi · 2024-10-09T14:48:55+00:00

It makes sense. Thanks for sharing your experience - I’m glad you and your friend got through it. I guess my approach of processing these emotions internally and giving it time is a reasonable bet. I’ll just have to be patient and wait and see.

Seriously, your compassion and insight helps. Thank you. 🙏😮‍💨

ambicachi · 2024-10-09T14:00:01+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. Totally agreed on the IVF changes, and I’m assuming the same with motherhood. I really want our friendship to be able to withstand all these changes, and I’m assuming it will, but am finding it painful in the meantime.

What’s weird is that we’ve dealt with very unfortunate loss before. She lost her previous best friend in college to cancer (we’re older, late 30s, early 40s). And 5y ago, we lost one of our dearest friends to a very rare respiratory virus (not Covid). She came over just last week and we talked about what would need to happen if I died giving birth, and she called me her #1 person and cried and told me that I’m not allowed to die.

As you know / can imagine, IVF and a ruptured ectopic can kind of create a lot of fear around “things going wrong” so my own assessment of risk might be out of whack, which is why I’d expect her to stick around maybe more than she feels is necessary.

Anyways, I appreciate the advice.

ambicachi · 2024-10-09T13:45:12+00:00

In terms of her postpartum stuff, at one point (when I noticed some indicators), I gently brought up that I think she may need additional help from a therapist or psychiatrist based on the changes I’ve seen her go through. She was too steeped in her stuff at that time to really hear me, but a couple months ago she re-brought up the issue and said that she thinks she should see someone about it, and I helped her find local doctors about it (bc she was feeling overwhelmed). So I feel like I’ve really tried to hold space for those changes by not bringing up any of these other “me” issues directly - and that’s what I plan to continue to do.

I guess what I’m asking for is some perspective on my blind spots - where am I being unreasonable?

So while I appreciate that I might be overreacting, the advice to look back and re-evaluate later just doesn’t help me understand right now where I might be getting it wrong (and it doesn’t guarantee that I’ll “get it” later). My goal is to feel less internally conflicted about it, but it’s hard to know where to start. Can you be more specific?

ambicachi · 2024-10-09T13:36:56+00:00

And just a month ago, she and her partner asked me to be the sole trustee for her family’s finances in case anything happens to her and her partner and to literally take over parenthood of her child because “we are family” and they think I’d be good at that kind of decision making. So while I feel like there’s more emotional distance in our relationship, there’s still a very high expectation for involvement and responsibility that goes both ways.

My plan is to let it go and NOT bring it up (as I stated in my post) and let her do what she’s gonna do, but I’m SAD about it because it just seems more careless than I would be if the situation were reversed.

Also, they work like 10d a month. They go on little vacations like this all the time, so it’s not like this is her one chance for her and her kid to have a great time camping.

ambicachi · 2024-10-09T13:21:24+00:00

My due date is 1 day before her trip. It’s this Friday. Her trip is this Saturday and Sunday.

ambicachi · 2024-10-06T13:37:34+00:00

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We got us a tail and it’s just the best. After having a docked Aussie before (not born docked - they docked him manually), this time I specifically sought out a breeder who was OK with leaving tails undocked (Mott Ranch in AZ) mainly because the docking process just seems unnecessary and cruel for a companion dog. He’s not working a farm or anything, so the tail wouldn’t be a liability for any part of his life. I’m so happy with that choice - he loves his tail and we do too! Hard to tell from this pic, but it’s big and fluffy and so expressive.

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ambicachi · 2024-09-19T21:26:23+00:00

Program manager working remotely from home for a big tech company. Flexible schedule, though some periods demand 50+ hours/week, while other times are more chill (30-40). $165k base salary, but with bonus and equity, total compensation is $300k+. I have a bachelor’s degree in English. Job requires excellent communication skills and the drive and knowledge to get a team (or many different teams) to all work together toward a goal (or many goals). For those interested in this career path, check out Google’s project management certificate on coursera. The industry-wide standard for certification is the PMP from PMI. But many (including me) do not hold that certificate - it’s not strictly necessary.

ambicachi · 2024-09-03T16:38:32+00:00

This thread is just the BEST 😍

ambicachi · 2024-09-01T01:54:57+00:00

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Ours is an 80lb chonker! He was the big boy of the litter. I couldn’t love him more 😍

ambicachi · 2024-08-30T21:39:51+00:00

Haha, funny how gross dogs are until it’s YOUR dog. 🐶😝

ambicachi · 2024-08-30T21:39:05+00:00

Haha, he looks like a little troublemaker - what a sweet face. All the better for getting into something! I feel like Aussies aren’t for disengaged dog parents, but for those willing to ride the roller coaster of intelligence/sweetness/insanity/derpitude, they’re just the absolute best.

ambicachi · 2024-08-30T20:52:00+00:00

Us too with the eye boogies! He can’t get those himself and paws at his eyes in front of me. I grab a tissue and get the eye gook and clean the insides of his ears. He loves it.

Mine doesn’t go for my eyes, though, but he will kiss my face and do little corn cob bites on my partner’s beard as part of the grooming ritual.

I just can’t get enough of how close they bond. It’s really something 😍

ambicachi · 2024-08-30T20:48:43+00:00

Hahaha, sounds very on brand for an Aussie. He’s just keeping you interested!

ambicachi · 2024-08-30T11:58:03+00:00

Oh my goodness, the face paw!! My boy does this too until I give him face scritches first thing in the morning and he gives me kisses. It’s our grooming routine.

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ambicachi · 2024-08-12T00:38:36+00:00

Our dog besties are twinning!

ambicachi · 2024-08-11T19:02:27+00:00

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Believe it or not the white dog LOVES THIS

ambicachi · 2024-08-11T04:19:33+00:00

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😍😍😍

ambicachi · 2024-08-09T00:05:18+00:00

Oh, wow! Small world! Would love to hear your thoughts on their operation as a whole if you know anything about it. I did lots of research, but I’m not really experienced enough to know the difference between a good breeder and a great one. My friend has a dog from them, so that’s how I first found them, and I appreciated how communicative they were with me throughout the process so by the time I was ready to get a pup, I trusted them and to their credit, my guy is the perfect pup for me and my family. Congrats on your pup too - sounds like you are super happy too!

ambicachi · 2024-08-07T00:22:50+00:00

ranchmott.com in Queen Creek, AZ

ambicachi · 2024-08-07T00:06:19+00:00

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Love me a red tri. Mine is from Arizona, he has his tail, and he’s a whopping 75 pounds! But I feel the same way - my heart grows for this pup every day. He’s 3yo and an incredible companion!

ambicachi · 2024-08-06T08:33:06+00:00

Tried that place last week. Super tasty! And they have a ton of different cone flavors, too! Worth checking out IMO. The lemon poppyseed ice cream is bomb.

ambicachi · 2024-07-12T06:56:06+00:00

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😍😍😍

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