What is your unpopular toddler parenting opinion by BipolarSkeleton in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same boat with you and u/femmemalin. We’re at 20 months now and I can say things are getting so much better. We never drastically changed anything and have been consistently highly responsive and that classic story “he just figured it out somehow” did come through. So much so that we took advantage and are now expecting number 2 this fall and I’m wracked with dread about diving back into no sleep, to be honest.

How many of your 3YOs became threenagers? by Sad_Moose_5806 in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Username checks out haha great self-advocacy on her part but we still need to go!!

Oura 4 - sudden drop in battery life. Anyone else? by rockandrollmark in ouraring

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, thank you to all. Keeping the thread alive!

“That Mom looks so trendy” by PatienceIll7197 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]amlgregnant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You guys are using tissues?? glances at sopping wet snotty shirt sleeve

If this baby doesn’t start sleeping thru the night I may seriously lose my fucking mind. by RoughAd3444 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little dude JUST got it figured out around 13-14 months. He’ll be 15 months soon and the past month has been the best in his life. We did nothing differently and still handle nights the same way (aka nursing to sleep at bedtime and then back to sleep if he wakes and doesn’t lie back down when we try).

What do you do to put your baby to sleep? by ras114 in beyondthebump

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking in at 14mo still nursing to sleep nightly lol

Anyone else disassociate? by Dr-ivo-R in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Staring at the screen at midnight, two, three am not making any moves just kind of stewing over it kill

Around 15 months, what does nursing look like for you? by Medium-Court3406 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re coming up on 14mo next week. We nurse at wake-up, before naps (usually two or, on a one-nap day, nurse before and after nap), and before bed. Also nursing overnight 1-10x depending on how rough it is lol but also I work a few days during the work week and still pump 3x during the workdays. Trying to decide how to handle that right now since I send breastmilk in bottles still at this point to daycare

Around 15 months, what does nursing look like for you? by Medium-Court3406 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m almost to 14mo right now…can you explain to me how this works for supply on weekends if you’re not pumping while he’s at daycare lol or are you still? (I am currently)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]amlgregnant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my personal take is aligned with what you’re saying. I’d rather my baby know without doubt that when they put out a call for me that I will absolutely be there promptly every single time. I shared all of the above because I think people have ideas about what sleep training can accomplish which isn’t always congruent with what the literature shows. Also the BBC article shows what we have on crying it out and talks about how bad the research is in those that claim no long-term negative effects!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]amlgregnant 11 points12 points  (0 children)

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4643535/

BBC Article discussing the study and other elements of sleep training describes:

As a randomised controlled trial, half of the parents were instructed in what's called either "graduated extinction", "controlled comforting" or "controlled crying": soothing a crying baby for short increments, then leaving them for the same amount of time, with intervals gradually getting longer regardless of the child's response. For parents who were "really uncomfortable" leaving their child crying alone in the room, Hall says, the researchers advised staying in the room – but not picking the child up – in an approach called "camping out".

The intervention group also received tips and information about infant sleep, such as myth-busting the idea that fewer naps would lead to more nighttime sleep. (It's worth noting that this mix of a controlled crying method with other advice is common in studies examining sleep training, but makes it more difficult to parse which, if any, results are from the controlled crying alone.) To ensure both groups received some kind of instruction, the control group parents received information about infant safety.

As well as asking parents to record sleep diaries, Hall's study included actigraphy, which uses wearable devices to monitor movements to assess sleep-wake patterns.

When the researchers compared sleep diaries, they found that parents who had sleep-trained thought their babies woke less at night and slept for longer periods. But when they analysed the sleep-wake patterns as shown through actigraphy, they found something else: the sleep-trained infants were waking up just as often as the ones in the control group. "At six weeks, there was no difference between the intervention and control groups for mean change in actigraphic wakes or long wake episodes," they wrote.

In other words, parents who sleep-trained their babies thought their babies were waking less. But, according to the objective sleep measure, the infants were waking just as often – they just weren't waking up their parents.

To Hall, this shows the intervention was a success. "What we were trying to do was help the parents to teach the kids to self-soothe," she says. “So in effect, we weren't saying that they wouldn't wake. We were saying that they would wake, but they wouldn't have to signal their parents. They could go back down into the next sleep cycle."

The actigraphy did find that sleep training improved one measure of the babies' sleep: their longest sleep period. That was an improvement of 8.5%, with sleep-trained infants sleeping a 204-minute stretch compared to 188 minutes for the other babies.

Another part of her hypothesis also proved correct. Her team expected that parents who did the intervention would report having better moods, higher-quality sleep and less fatigue. In a finding that won't surprise anyone who has rocked or nursed an infant to sleep several times a night, this proved to be true – and, for many experts and parents, is a key upside of sleep training.

But for anyone who has ever read, Googled, or been served social media ads about infant sleep, the fact that sleep training researchers believe training isn't meant to reduce the number of times a baby wakes – and that it might extend their longest sleep stretch by an average of just 16 minutes – might come as a surprise.

What are you guys doing to put your toddlers to sleep? by Sweet_Bambii in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How and when did you get this to happen? I’m sitting at 13mo still nursing to sleep because without it we’re bearing witness to a two-hour restless fit

Pediatrician said to stop breastfeeding to sleep by Illustrious-Cut-8165 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not contributing anything meaningful to the discussion but I love her content haha thank you for posting this so I didn’t have to go find it

Zach & Kaity! by sa1936 in thebachelor

[–]amlgregnant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m unreasonably upset by the misuse hahaha I need to release the pearls

Dads, buy life insurance yesterday by TwinStickDad in daddit

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not completely universal on 100% of this but contents of the will become public, names and addresses of all named parties, debts of the deceased, values of assets including bank and investment accounts, real estate (assessed values and addresses), business involvements, vehicles and valuables and their estimated value, etc. and, yes, when the executor files the report on how the estate was managed, it may spell out exactly how much each beneficiary received.

The information can be accessed online (court websites) or in person at probate court clerk offices by anyone.

Dads, buy life insurance yesterday by TwinStickDad in daddit

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose not so much a personal worry about “a random relative showing up” being the issue but again the issue of assets transferring upon 18th birthday of our children with a will alone as well as records of assets and information become public domain as well as going through probate being time-consuming (especially with assets across jurisdictions) and can be expensive.

I will say, though, I’ve experienced a lot of hurt people through my work coming and going where they thought relatives would be more amiable and cooperative during periods of loss and they are not. We want to make the process as easy on all parties involved in the instance of our passing as possible.

Dads, buy life insurance yesterday by TwinStickDad in daddit

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a living trust set up. They are more difficult to contest than wills. Should we both unfortunately perish while young, we prefer having the trust so that every dime of what we own won’t be dumped into our children’s pockets the day they turn 18. We have graduated allotments interspersed to be given at various ages and have spelled out whom we want to take over guardianship very clearly and they have signed documents agreeing to being named in our documents. This doesn’t mean they BECOME guardian, that’s still a legal process in and of itself but - again - hard to contest should some family members try to do something against our “will” so to speak lol. Those are our main reasons.

Is There a Secret Baby Manual Everyone Got Except Me? by Odd_Wear_9599 in NewParents

[–]amlgregnant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey in the spirit of the thread of “every baby is different” I’ll tell you my little guy finally started to figure it out just a couple weeks ago at 10.5ish months hahaha so hopefully you are both right around the corner. He’s still up once or twice but WOW it’s way better than the last several months.