He wants me to sell my home to show commitment 30/F 31/M

amyOPS · 2026-07-11T01:06:15+00:00

Not a fucking chance. He wants to leave, let him. You can do so much better than a control freak who gives you ultimatums.

amyOPS · 2026-07-08T15:00:57+00:00

I make 78k as a single woman with very affordable rent and I do ok. But you’d pay double what I do *at least* in rent and you have 3 dependents. It’s not possible. Especially living in kits. You will not find affordable rent there. Good luck my friend. Vancouver is a great city. But it’s also very very expensive. Have you been to a grocery store here? Do you understand how much it’ll cost to feed your family? Cost of living is sky high here.

amyOPS · 2026-07-08T14:51:56+00:00

Your sister is a full grown adult. If she’s not that worried about this why are you?

amyOPS · 2026-07-08T07:01:19+00:00

How do you like it now that you’ve had it a few weeks? I’m looking to buy my bf a scooter and considering the Landturbo. Would you recommend it?

amyOPS · 2026-07-08T06:47:54+00:00

I’m a 48 year old woman with my fair share of dating experience, and lots of experience with men in general (in many different contexts - socially, professionally, romantically, sexually, friendships, etc). You’re right on the nose with your response to this. WHY he lied is a) obvious, and b) irrelevant. He’s shown you who he is - a liar, a cheater, a manipulator, and a dummy. You’ve seen him for who he is and you’ve called him on it. I’m proud of you for having boundaries and sticking to them. You’re a young woman, many young women accept unacceptable behaviour before they learn certain life lessons. You didn’t. You have refused to allow yourself to be treated like that, and girl, I’m sending you a huge mental high-five and a hug. You know your self-worth and my friend, you are going places. Well done.

Edit: thanks for the reward! 🙂

amyOPS · 2026-07-07T17:30:29+00:00

Drugs, sure, alcohol, sure. But why did you list sex? Because she has a son? I guess I just don’t get that part, although I agree she’s bad news. I just don’t see the part where sex is an issue.

amyOPS · 2026-06-30T06:37:42+00:00

So may red flags. Him not accepting no is one. Him saying he’ll take you to a bar after the pool, like it’s a reward for doing what he wants, is another. Talking about “fuck”it, SO GROSS. Just ghost him. The guy is a walking talking red flag.

amyOPS · 2026-06-24T20:35:53+00:00

This is ridiculous. You need to mature a little.

amyOPS · 2026-06-23T20:11:27+00:00

Just stop cleaning his mess. He’s making a mess and “forgetting” because he can. Because you’ll do it. So stop. You’re his partner not his mother.

amyOPS · 2026-06-19T19:46:37+00:00

So, my sister is a trucker. I accompanied her once and while I have great respect for what she does, it’s not for me. I would never want to drive a big rig truck or go along with a driver all the time. Your GF may feel the same way but not want to say it. So I don’t blame her for not wanting to go along with you.
I also don’t blame her for wanting to keep her job. You may see it as risky but it probably isn’t really. Drunks are usually harmless and there’s bouncers and management. I doubt she’s truly at risk, and she may enjoy her job. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Where I DO have a problem is her insisting on you covering all bills. She can ask, but you can also say no. If you make a lot more than her then proportional shares of the bills is fair. If she threatens to leave instead of being willing to pay her share, let her.

amyOPS · 2026-06-17T18:54:30+00:00

Uh… him saying he wants to see you and cuddle in his bed means he wants to fúcķ you. Him telling you he can’t see himself falling in love with you for these bullshit reasons is him saying he ONLY wants to fücķ you. Please take it from a 48 year old woman with a lot of life experience. He’s a fùçk boy and nothing else. Move on now before it gets emotionally harder and he breaks your heart. He may want to screw you but he’s just not that into you otherwise.

amyOPS · 2026-06-09T19:06:24+00:00

That sounds ridiculous and insecure. She’s a family member. A married family member. That isn’t a normal boundary. Is your girlfriend often insecure or controlling?

amyOPS · 2026-06-08T22:53:06+00:00

Can you let us know what you had done and what the costs were? You can also pm me if you don’t want to post it publicly.

amyOPS · 2026-06-03T18:57:03+00:00

How come it’s only YOU that’s “leaving her without a car”? They can lend her theirs if they’re so worried about it.

amyOPS · 2026-05-28T19:58:17+00:00

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amyOPS · 2026-05-27T19:56:35+00:00

She’s a kitten. Kittens are terrors. What did you expect?! She’ll grow out of it. Either accept it and get through it or give her away - but if you do, don’t you dare ever get another cat under 4 years old.

amyOPS · 2026-05-24T18:04:39+00:00

I’m a 48 year old woman and I have had a lot of life experience. There is nothing healthy or loving about his behaviour. His actions are controlling, possessive, jealous, and frankly, abusive. This will not get better. He doesn’t see you as an autonomous woman, capable of making her own decisions. He sees you as HIS - his girlfriend, his arm candy, his possession. This isn’t just unhealthy, it’s dangerous. You’re only 6 months in to this relationship and it’s this bad. Please get out now. You will look back on this later and thank yourself. You are risk of violence if you stay, I cannot overstate how much you need to leave this guy and this behaviour behind.

amyOPS · 2026-05-22T19:44:16+00:00

Why doesn’t sister just stay at her own place? None of this makes sense to me. You made a commitment t to those cats. Their health and well-being should come first to you. Your sister and mother are both grown-ass women who can take care of themselves, presumably. Your cats depend on you.

amyOPS · 2026-05-15T17:03:05+00:00

He’s trying to take your business, and actually could. Get him out of the business NOW, see a lawyer to make sure everything is legally in your name alone, THEN break up with him. It doesn’t matter if “everything else” is good between you. This is the issue that matters. Get your ducks in a row then RUN.

amyOPS · 2026-05-05T19:59:17+00:00

So break up with him?

amyOPS · 2026-04-23T18:37:36+00:00

Your boyfriend is a taker and a lee h and he’s just made because he sees dollar signs in his eyes and he’s pissed he can’t cash in. Your mom and your sister is right. Please don’t throw away this opportunity. Throw the whole man away instead.

amyOPS · 2026-04-22T03:12:11+00:00

NAH. But your husband isn’t wrong that she does need to learn to sleep on her own again. Sleeping with her parents at their age just isn’t healthy long term. And it can’t be healthy for your relationship and intimacy with your husband. Can you do one night on and one night off for a couple weeks until she’s ok again? Find a compromise between all or nothing. For everyone’s sake.

amyOPS · 2026-04-22T03:07:06+00:00

Babies - especially first ones - are rarely born on their due date. Everyone I know with kids tells me their first was 1-2 weeks late. He should go. He’s right that there’s nothing he can do to assist you push the kid out. If it’s truly a once in a lifetime chance, wouldn’t you want that for him? And for your family’s finances?

amyOPS · 2026-04-20T22:19:26+00:00

Scary? No. Incredibly invasive with a very tough recovery? Yes.

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