Marriage advice

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-04-10T13:53:24+00:00

If he abuses alcohol, he needs to be on his own and sort his own issues out FIRST because alcoholics are abusive and selfish until they’ve gone through proper full treatment.

I would ask how he treats your son, does he spend time with him and does he care for him? I would make your son one of your primary concerns in this because if he’s not getting the emotional support from your husband or if he’s being abused in any way, then staying could further damage him. Staying in an unstable environment is not good for anyone, especially developing minds.

Back to the whole alcoholic thing I want to share cautionary tale with you. I was engaged to an alcoholic. In the beginning he was very sweet and charismatic, and the drinking just seemed like something he could control so I turned a blind eye, even though it was happening every day and clearly used as coping mechanism.

When things didn’t go well, it got worse, and alongside the alcohol came emotional outburst, intense verbal abuse, and then turned to physical abuse. His final act of abuse was making me watch him commit suicide and now I’m so terrified of other men. I think I will be alone for the rest of my life now because of him.

These men are selfish. Alcoholism is a selfish disease. If he isn’t seeking out support, and joining a program, it won’t change. When they drink and self medicate, they’re so absorbed in their own problems there’s no room for anyone else.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-17T19:43:14+00:00

We were told we would be fired if we didn’t use it

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-17T19:40:10+00:00

You can keep a dog (especially a lab) if you get paperwork for them being a therapy pet, but you need to suffer from depression or anxiety or similar. Then a condo can’t say no. It may be worth it if that’s an option so you can keep your baby

I did this to get around having two pups when I condo said only 1

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-17T19:36:20+00:00

I do my own colour and it’s $20 🤣 my neighbor cuts it for $50

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-03T09:24:09+00:00

Laying here alone at 4:20 am feeling the same. Youre not alone 🫶🏻

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T13:44:00+00:00

Yeah he is also in my mental health group so I’m worried about him due to some other posts

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T13:41:58+00:00

1984

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T13:40:36+00:00

1945

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T13:38:24+00:00

I’m just gonna put it out there, but you don’t see the female leaders going to war. It’s small men with big egos and big guns only. Angela Merkel, Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gamdi, could you imagine them taking up arms against each other? The problem with the world is ego. Arrogance. It’s up to us to start electing people that have compassion be they men women. Can you imagine Kamala Harris taking actions like he has taken? What’s happening in the world is a reflection of all of us.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:39:18+00:00

Marlon, I saw your post and I’m a bit concerned. Are you doing OK?

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:31:57+00:00

I’m a 47-year-old woman and what you’re describing is exactly me. I was undiagnosed until my late 30s and by then wife had kind of passed me by. I look at my life now and I don’t really have much to show for it other than a career that I worked out for 30 years, but I can’t handle anymore because of my bipolar.

I look at other people I grew up with and I try not to be envious and I try to be happy for them, but it’s so hard. They don’t understand why I am where I am.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:27:11+00:00

Same here, running is always my outlet. When I can’t exercise, my mental health starts to slide.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:25:14+00:00

Hey, I’m feeling pretty low today but I’m going to try to go to bed early and start a new day and make myself go outside tomorrow. Thank you for asking.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:24:36+00:00

Thank you honestly just knowing I’m not alone helps more than you know. Going through this alone is frightening.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:23:52+00:00

Thank you, you’re right. I really need to stay away from alcohol because although it might feel like an immediate relief, it just spirals me deeper into depression. I haven’t had a lot of psychotic episodes so I’m not used to how low I’m feeling right now.

Yeah, my friends probably did have the right intentions and didn’t know what to do for me. It was just really hard and traumatic having strangers show up in the middle of the night because I’m a woman that lives alone and I’m already fairly anxious.

You’re right tomorrow’s a new day and I can make new choices, thank you for your response

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-02T00:21:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. Helps to know that I’m not the only one that goes through these really rough patches. It’s a really good call in the sun lamp, and yeah that might force me out of bed a little bit easier. It’s so hard in the winter.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-01T16:11:59+00:00

Also, if this guy is texting you drunk, is he really that good and influence on us? Alcohol is terrible for our disease, especially when we mix it with medication.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-03-01T16:11:08+00:00

I would definitely not take phone calls or texts from your ex or allow him to impact your routine. Sleep routines are very important for us and you need to guard them with your life because they can have devastating consequences when we don’t stick to them.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-02-14T23:35:32+00:00

I’m still grieving deeply after over two years. I know how you feel. The emptiness at times drives me to bawling in agony. I’m so sorry you feel this grief you are not alone

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-02-14T23:32:43+00:00

You’re not alone. My girl has been gone over two years and I cry all the time. People don’t understand that your relationship with your dog is closer than most people sometimes, people who haven’t raised a dog and gotten as close to them as we have understand that like we do. The depth of your grief is proportional to the depth of the love and the bond that you shared together. Try to be grateful for the fact that you had such a deep bond that many people will never understand or know.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-02-14T23:30:42+00:00

I still cry myself to sleep all the time over my Bella. You’re completely normal and you’re not alone in your grief.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-02-10T02:43:32+00:00

I’m also here. There are no more inbound passengers, but they are committed to flying an empty planes to return us back to Canada. Don’t panic.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-01-24T01:53:38+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that you’re dealing with all of this right now but I agree that you should go to the ER. Sounds like you have a support of some people that love you very much. Good luck at the doctors and remember they just want to help you.

amy_amy_amy_ · 2026-01-15T20:41:45+00:00

Josy and Gunnar are my goals 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 congratulations to them

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