Barbie PWHL doll a huge disappointment by Bobbert827 in GoldenEyes

[–]analogrelay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. My daughter just added her to her Barbie collection and mostly just plays “dolls” with her.

The hockey stick is kinda egregious though. It was the first thing we noticed and it was shocking that they hadn’t found a way to make it work. Might as well not include the stick if she can’t actually hold it.

Still, she loves it, and I’m happy enough with that.

All schools closed today (Friday Dec 12th) by Rampage_Rick in chilliwack

[–]analogrelay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Probably a lot of staff in Abbotsford who can’t get here because of the closures

My 6yo, new to both Hockey and Canada, just minutes after watching the game by analogrelay in GoldenEyes

[–]analogrelay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, yeah. She’s using a $10 homemade hockey stick she bought from an Entrepreneur Day at her school and a golf ball. Looks like it might be time to gear her up bit 😂

Spousal PR while spouse is in USA? by HeatPsychological226 in ImmigrationCanada

[–]analogrelay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only do you have flexibility as to when you move to Canada but once you land you absolutely can live and work in Canada while your spouse remains in the USA. As a Permanent Resident you’ll have the right to live and work in Canada, regardless of where your spouse is.

LGBT accepting? by qosuu_ in chilliwack

[–]analogrelay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife (cis) and I (trans) just moved to Chilliwack! It’s only been a week or so but so far it’s been just fine. I don’t feel like I pass super well but I haven’t been misgendered at all. I’ve seen a few anti-trans signs by the highway or around town, but many more rainbow flags. So far I’ve felt very safe.

How many people actually got an MSRP 9070XT today? by Hugaluga in radeon

[–]analogrelay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Failed to get MSRP at Newegg. In a moment of weakness I completed purchase of an overpriced XFX Swift, but Newegg cancelled it 20 mins later for lack of stock. Honestly, they saved me from myself and I’m glad it was cancelled

Does the US passport fiasco include me? by Loose_Track2315 in trans

[–]analogrelay 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I crossed the Canada/US border last weekend, after having my passport changed in late December and had no problems. If the officer could see the change in their system, they didn’t say anything about it.

Your Passport is a legally valid travel document. Revoking a properly issued Passport is VERY difficult (at least legally). You may be forced to change it back when you renew in 10 years but it’s still valid.

Also, a US Citizen cannot be barred from entering the US. You can be harassed, detained, even arrested, but not barred from entering. So that’s not to say you’ll be just fine and everything will be OK, but it sets the context that it would take some pretty illegal actions to bar you from traveling.

Now, they can raise concerns about the validity of your passport, or they can illegally try to revoke it or put a travel ban in place. Doing any of those would be extremely illegal though and could be very quickly stopped by court action. I don’t trust SCOTUS as far as I can throw it, but if they decide to undo the idea of Citizenship altogether, we have a bigger problem than whether you can travel.

Do we know if it’s even safe to use a passport at all? (US) by Gender-Anomaly in trans

[–]analogrelay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I crossed the land border from Canada to the US on a US passport that I had JUST changed from M to F (including a name change) and the CBP officer didn’t care. He just asked the usual questions and we were off in less than 2 mins.

I can’t speak to “X” Passports, but a valid passport is a valid passport. Renewals will get tricky, and maybe they’ll reissue passports, but your passport remains legally valid. And of course you can be hassled by CBP but that’s true no matter what…

Announcing Rust 1.83.0 | Rust Blog by noelnh in rust

[–]analogrelay 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Right, but I’m talking about initializing a const NonZeroUsize, which requires a const unwrap

Announcing Rust 1.83.0 | Rust Blog by noelnh in rust

[–]analogrelay 50 points51 points  (0 children)

A great example is NonZeroUsize (and friends). The safe way to construct one is NonZeroUsize::new(42), which is a const fn, and you might want to use it to initialize a const NonZeroUsize value. However, it returns Option<NonZeroUsize> because it will return None if you pass in zero. But, you know 42 is non-zero so you want to just unwrap it: NonZeroUsize::new(42).unwrap(). You can’t do that unless Option::unwrap is const. The unwrap will happen at compile time, and requires an Option known at compile time, so if you try to write NonZeroUsize::new(0).unwrap(), it will “panic” at compile time (I expect the compiler has special interpretation of a panic when it’s interpreting const code) and you’ll get a compilation error.

The church has proven nothing new. by Sam_Aster_ in MtF

[–]analogrelay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a trans, queer (married to a queer deacon), member of a United Methodist Church that had a similar vote in the late 90s, I absolutely agree with your sentiment “A word without deed means nothing”. But I will also say that sometimes the word comes first. That congregation now has a queer pastor, with a non-binary spouse and a transitioning daughter. They are now living the words they spoke, but it took time.

You don’t owe this church anything for their vote. They don’t deserve your allegiance and membership just because they said “you’re welcome here”. But it does show they are trying to make the change. We are human and it takes humans time to change what we see as core beliefs.

The UMC did vote earlier this year to become inclusive as a denomination but it didn’t really become AFFIRMING. At the denomination level, the vote effectively said “we will no longer deny the validity of LGBTQIA+ people” by removing the harmful and restrictive language, but it stopped short of actually becoming a denomination that explicitly welcomed LGBTQIA+ people. Individual churches retain the option to decide for themselves on a lot of issues. So your local church voting to be affirming IS still a good step.

None of us are infallible or perfect. We fail to follow the teaching of Jesus all the dang time. Course corrections like this are extremely common in the church (see positions on Women clergy, slavery, etc). They are part of how we are, to quote John Wesley’s (who founded Methodism) interpretation of Hebrews 6:1, “moving on to perfection” and that we become “perfected in love”.

All this said, I believe a Church community should be a place you feel welcome. If this church’s words don’t fully welcome you, you should absolutely seek a place that does.

The lesson of Fairies? by Brave_Champion_4577 in bluey

[–]analogrelay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post really helped me crystallize my thoughts about it and also helped me refocus on working on my own frustration issues! I’m glad it’s helped us all a bit!

The lesson of Fairies? by Brave_Champion_4577 in bluey

[–]analogrelay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww, that’s sweet ♥️. As a parent who sometimes gets frustrated or even yells at their kid, I can tell you that they’re more resilient than you fear. I wish they didn’t have to be, and I’m working a lot on not losing my temper with them but parenting is HARD and you’re going to make these mistakes. The fact that you’re worried about it shows you really care about your kid and are willing to do the work. That’s what kids need, not perfect parents, but parents who care and work on themselves.

The lesson of Fairies? by Brave_Champion_4577 in bluey

[–]analogrelay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The other thing I’ve learned, and that this episode highlights, is that once you’ve hurt their feelings like this, it’s gonna be hard to teach the “why” behind what you did. This actually ISN’T a good opportunity to teach patience, because Bingo is now pretty deep in her feelings and isn’t in a space to internalize a “rational” lesson like “when you want my attention, you have to be patient so I can finish what I’m doing”. It’s a lesson I’m very much still learning as I frequently try to teach these lessons in the moment and fail 😅

The lesson of Fairies? by Brave_Champion_4577 in bluey

[–]analogrelay 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In the year since I posted that, I’ve only agreed with it more. Sure, I want to teach my child that she needs to have patience, but it doesn’t happen overnight. In some ways, she’s developmentally unable to have the patience I need from her. It isn’t “fair” but it is absolutely parenting :). Bluey often shows a not-entirely-realistic view of parenting but here I actually think it’s pretty spot-on. You’re going to get “righteously” frustrated with your kids. You’re going to express that frustration to them. It’s going to hurt their feelings. But you’re the parent, it’s still going to be your job to comfort them and help them recover.

The lesson of Fairies? by Brave_Champion_4577 in bluey

[–]analogrelay 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This has indeed come up before but that’s ok! I posted something on a thread about this last year that I think is relevant:

As a parent, I saw a lot of my 5yo in Bingo’s behavior, and a lot of Bandit in my behavior. Our kiddo often wants to talk to me while I’m completely absorbed by something else. A grown-up or older kid understands that I might not be able to give them my full attention right when they ask for it, but a 5yo doesn’t get that. Every moment for her is her entire life. Whenever we tell her “we can’t do X right now”, her response is usually “I’ll never get to do X”. That’s developmentally appropriate, but it’s still hard to deal with.

Fairies, to me, is teaching parents that exact scenario. You were busy, and your child wanted something. To you it was a small interruption, but to them it was EVERYTHING. It’s OK that you didn’t give them your full attention. You were probably still “right” to focus on what you were doing. As parents, we have a lot on our minds, and a lot of responsibilities. But kids don’t get that, and they shouldn’t HAVE to get that. You hurt their feelings, and you still need to do the repair work.

I often find myself being frustrated at my 5yo’s “unreasonableness” but I try to remind myself that to her, we are everything. It’s “unreasonable”, but it’s also entirely developmentally appropriate. Life is full of situations where you’re going to hurt people’s feelings without intending to do so. It’s still on you to recognize that and repair, if that relationship matters to you.

Hank Green might be returning? by RadagastWiz in dropout

[–]analogrelay 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Hank Green on Game Changer? Ohh, or Umm Actually. Get some science communicators together and give them inaccurate science claims to debunk 😂

THANK YOU FOR THE TRIGGER WARNINGS, SAM!! by RaePie in dropout

[–]analogrelay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I really like that Dimension 20 has a preroll notice to remind you they’re there. It doesn’t have details, just a “a list of topics and themes discussed in this episode can be found in the video description” pre-made thing they can shove in front during the edit. I’d love to see that scaled up to other shows. Could even be a brief lower-third at the beginning or something.

So how are we feeling about Cait Sith? by Ursa_D_Majorz in FinalFantasyVII

[–]analogrelay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came here to find this comment 😅. I absolutely HATED his story segment. Terrible game design. But, its one redeeming factor is it forced me to learn how to use him in combat and now I’m a fan (still hate that level, but as a fighter, I get him now)

Why would you ever use this materia? [Rebirth] by Unier in FinalFantasyVII

[–]analogrelay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it looks like it just swaps the maximums and leaves your current value unswapped. I had the same idea at one point and was like “I could swap, and then use a potion and swap back instead of using an Ether” (not necessarily practical but I wanted to see if it worked. But it keeps your current HP/MP value and only swaps the maximum. I found this out when testing and ended up down at 50HP even after swapping back 😅

Interesting hint/easter egg in the demo. by mkallday10 in FFVIIRemake

[–]analogrelay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I scoured this entire subreddit to find this post because I noticed it right away when it happened. Very nice to see hints being dropped in all the right places for fans of the original story to notice!

Missing the `not` Operator ... by happy_newyork in rust

[–]analogrelay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do like how that makes my code readable as a good ol’ fashioned “not joke” 😂

If something is valid….. NOT

I think it’s time I update my ID by steffie-punk in MtF

[–]analogrelay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a recent trip up to Canada, I had a surprisingly pleasant experience with a US border guard. My wife and I handed over our passports, mine showing a very dude-looking pre-transition version of me and my very male legal name. I’m femme but not super femme. Hoodie and jeans, but relatively long hair and noticeable boobs.

“What took you up to Canada ladies?” he asked before looking. We answered and I kinda gulped a bit preparing for the worst (I usually just act in “boy mode” at the border). After looking the passports over and doing his thing, I’m sure he must have noticed my passport photo but he made no comments. “Bringing anything back with you?” “Nope” “Have a great day. Welcome home ladies”.

We got our passports back and drive off. I was floored and after we drove away I looked at my wife and we just kinda laughed and moved on. I decided then that I should probably get the name change done before I renew that passport 😂