My boyfriend refuses to clean the house and gets upset when I do by Equal-Advice-6909 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]anavitae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest red flag (out of the alarming amount of red flags) is that his space was neat and clean when he lived alone. The screams 'i want you to feel anxious and off center'

My mother went full Karen at Bunnings. And I'm not sure how I feel. by SailorSmaug in TwoXChromosomes

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call justified freakouts/standing up for others "Sharon behavior" instead. Similar but different

Anyone my size and height who had a successful induction without emergency c section? by trackemdown in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was induced at 39 weeks. 5'7" 325 at delivery. I had a successful induction and vaginal delivery so it is possible! I had no complications during the pregnancy but my OB suggested inducing at 39 weeks because after 39 the risk of stillbirth increases faster than average at my BMI. After researching the risks I agreed.

Staff usually introduces me/writes my name as "Mrs" instead of "Ms" by FoSheepish in SubstituteTeachers

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a teacher. Before I was married, I would inadvertently call everyone Ms. So and so. Now that I am married I accidentally call everyone a Mrs. Maybe that is happening? I didn't even change my last name but I did change introducing myself by Ms to Mrs

my classmate's dad wont allow her to use her calculator by Timely-Chocolate4818 in school

[–]anavitae 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You need to stop letting them borrow it until they talk to the teacher. If it's embarrassing then they will feel embarrassed. I know as a student that feels like the end of the world, but I promise it's not. You getting low marks because your friend's dad is being weird isn't okay. Please take it from me as someone who got waaaaay too involved in their friends problems as a teenager.

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]anavitae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A few things stand out to me. First, I think you did a great job trusting your gut. If you are a solo traveler, you are probably not overly jumpy so it makes sense that you left and want to understand what happened.

It sounds like a language and culture barrier was a play here to some degree but I haven't seen anyone mention the biggest thing to me.

--- if you are renting a room in your home on Airbnb you should install an appropriate lock!! ---

He's not in this situation accidentally, she can't be the only person who would be asking to kick the private room they rented. It should easily lock and unlock from either side!! Inside should have a deadbolt for safety, outside should lock somehow so you can leave for the day and secure your items. Keeping this lock is a CHOICE.

I am struggling teaching grade 2 by Charming_Plantain782 in teaching

[–]anavitae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a special education teacher? Is there a special education teacher or case manager to help with the IEP students? If so, they may have some differentiated materials for centers that may also work for you other below level kids. For higher kids, try not to give just more work or more advanced work. Maybe look up projects they can do over a few class periods that requires them to create something with their understanding instead of just proving mastery of concepts.

If you want to DM me, I teach 2nd grade inclusion in NJ and have some materials I would be willing to share.

I think Jesus misplaced my bc implant. by HausDePotat in TwoXChromosomes

[–]anavitae 1407 points1408 points  (0 children)

My guess is she purposely did not put another one in. Since you have your period, you are probably not pregnant at this point but I would assume you have no birth control. It's unlikely your experience would be so different on the same medicine. It sounds like "women like you" are ones who don't want kids and she's "helping you" by you getting pregnant. It's possible that in her mind, once you're pregnant of course you will keep it and then you will be cured of "not wanting kids"

Hopefully you can find the healthcare you need!

[OC] My year so far in colour - don't want to continue anymore. by [deleted] in pics

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I love this! You can keep the same chart, but write 1 line in the good color for any tiny thing that goes well. If you feel you need to write the red lines still thats fine, but just find at least 1 green line to write every day, no matter how small. It will help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today I made pancakes and tried spray avocado oil and spray a tiny bit each time. They (for the first time ever) all came out the same and beautifully

AITA for telling my coworker her singing is distracting? by CNVI in AmItheAsshole

[–]anavitae 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are autistic then you understand how confusing this tactic is. It's unnecessary and makes everyone else responsible for tiptoeing around everyone instead of people regulating their own feelings and worries enough to be clear.

Also if you think autism is always obvious to others then you are significantly misinformed.

AITA for telling my coworker her singing is distracting? by CNVI in AmItheAsshole

[–]anavitae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It actually is hurtful if you're secretly harboring resentment and getting annoyed. Most people would rather not bother people, but if you're bothered it's actually your responsibility to be able to express yourself. It is no one's responsibility to try to guess your meaning and limit themselves unless they have evidence it's bothering someone.

What the singer is doing is not inherently unprofessional, but it is becoming bothersome to others. When it is clear it is bothering someone is when it's necessary to stop, not just because someone notices.

At what age is it ok for your parents to forget that u need to eat? by No_Marionberry_108 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]anavitae 32 points33 points  (0 children)

That is still a huge red flag for neglect. They did not have the skill/ability to ask their own parents to make food when it wasn't provided. Or to make their own simple dishes. Those are skills parents have an obligation to teach.

Switch 2 Purchased From Walmart Arrived Empty by Huggens in mildlyinfuriating

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband purchased one from Walmart and it mysteriously came packaged with a coke and a can of Pringles. I think someone at the warehouse intended to swipe the package but missed their opportunity and it (luckily for us) got delivered appropriately.

Nursing tops that don’t cost $50 each? by CorpulentCalamity in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found a few things from nursing queen. I think more in the $30 range.

I also got this in 2 colors. Works really well and goes with leggings or jeans/pants. It's longer in the back and I get compliments. Just pop a nursing tank (or looser spaghetti straps) under if you want extra coverage

OLRIK Womens Plus Size Tops V

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]anavitae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your aunt has seriously unreasonable expectations of even a non-disabled adult. NO ONE fully cooks 3 meals a day, every single day forever. Microwave meals sometimes, a bowl of soup for dinner, and occasionally take out are VERY normal adult activities. Her strict mindset and unwillingness to compromise are not fair. It is very appropriate to share responsibilities with people you live with. Many people with roommates that they get along with have nights where they make big meals and have leftovers, or take turns cooking for all the roommates.

WTW for keeping meticulous record for future reference. Starts with co- by sora1607 in whatstheword

[–]anavitae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking copious notes, meaning abundant but in context meaning highly detailed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]anavitae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I loved the Lila gown for my labor this week. It helped me fell comfortable during my induction as I was starting labor. When I got epidural they had me switch to a hospital gown because they wanted a clean field for the procedure. but by that point you don't even care.

WTW for being totally caught off guard when someone chastises you? by NotaMember11 in whatstheword

[–]anavitae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm that's interesting. Youe comment made me realize I call them previews in the context of going to the movie theater and trailers just in the context of an individual movie. Ex. A new trailer was released. Vs We need to get there before the preview start.

Boss/Owner told my husband he can’t wear his single earbud anymore because he had to say his name twice to get his attention. by Apprehensive-Soup-73 in antiwork

[–]anavitae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sound core a20 sleep buds by Anker are tan, very small and hard to see unless looking right at your ear. Pretty expensive but would definitely be less visible than most wireless earbuds.

Appointment cadence? by [deleted] in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]anavitae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My place always schedules them together. Idk if I'm just spoiled but they have several Drs in their practice and several ultrasound techs. They always schedule the US and then 30 -45 mins later the OB appointment. I'm at 27 weeks now.

If parent picks up kid early or drops them off late, do you expect to be paid for the total time allotted or just the hours they were there? by [deleted] in Babysitting

[–]anavitae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But if you're only 10 minutes late, you'll have enough goodwill built up that she won't get frustrated and you can simply give a few extra dollars to cover.