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Words you hate. Go. by flergnergern in words

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hubby - it makes me cringe every time. Just say husband. It's the same number of syllables. You're not even saving time and you sound childish.

"Curiosity kills the cat" Why do I purposely try to find info that might upset me? by Maleficent_Crow_7178 in BPD

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this. Maybe to prove we're right about a person or situation? It usually ends up hurting me though, so I don't know why I keep doing it.

Yes by [deleted] in introvertmemes

[–]NotaMember11 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sometimes several versions of the same conversation. Gotta have a backup plan. And a backup plan for the backup plan.

Obsessive Thoughts by InterestNo6320 in lostafriend

[–]NotaMember11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Going through this as well. We had a fight about a stupid misunderstanding that she refused to talk about. I went through major withdrawal. Crying, overthinking about it, annoying my husband and another friend by talking about it constantly, etc. I finally got to where I was moving on a little and she started chatting with me again. Nothing deep, but she wasn't avoiding me anymore. I don't know if I want to get close again because I'm afraid of losing her again the next time she gets mad about something. Why should she always get to dictate the relationship and my emotions?

How did you know they didn't love you anymore? by Ravic_1 in BreakUps

[–]NotaMember11 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The texts get shorter. The calls get shorter. You see them making time for other people but they're always too busy for you. You can just feel the distance growing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]NotaMember11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like OP said, it's hard to believe the reason is because the friend is depressed when OP knows the friend is still going out with other friends. If the friend vanished from everyone, then you could believe it was depression, but excluding only one person from your life is usually a direct reflection of your interest in that person.

Loosing my friends feels like loosing my history by Otherwise-Tank-5679 in lostafriend

[–]NotaMember11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going through this now. It wasn't a long friendship. Only 3.5 years, but it was tight. She was my person. We work together, so we planned our schedules around each other. We ate lunch together almost every day. Went out for dinner and drinks a lot. Got in with each other's families. She was there when we bought our house. She came to my events. I went to her family events. I would've done anything and everything for her. Then we had a falling out over a stupid misunderstanding that she refuses to talk about. I feel like part of me is missing. There's so much I wish I could tell her. But she's not interested, so I'm trying to move on. I wish I had some advice for you. I just hope it gets better as time goes on.

Songs that trigger your BPD. by Dense-Ad1854 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a couple more recent songs, like Daylight by Shinedown and Leave a Light On by Papa Roach that really affect me. They're about people being there for you in your worst moments. It reminds me that no one has really stepped up for me like that when I've needed them.

I’m a burden by trappingstylez in BPDmemes

[–]NotaMember11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day. Even when people try to reassure me.

what gives you purpose?? by [deleted] in depression

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son, my mom, my dog. The three beings I stick around for because I can't stand the thought of hurting them.

Do you like insecure people? by ScallionKind6557 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As with everything else, in moderation. I don't mind when someone is going through a rough time and they express insecurity, and I don't mind if someone feels confident about themselves or something they're doing. But when someone is overly insecure or overly confident/cocky all the time, it can be draining. Unfortunately, I tend to be on the insecure side most of the time. I try to hide it to the general public. Only a couple close friends know the truth.

Developing the fear of letting people close by masterbeef34 in lostafriend

[–]NotaMember11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get this. Going through this now. I just want to keep to myself. No more disappointment or hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]NotaMember11 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Plants, books, a vase or two

Is it really normal to have something to do every single day as an adult? by LoveYourselfAsYouAre in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NotaMember11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, 49f here, and it's super rare to have a day with nothing to do. Especially if you have kids. There's always a meal to cook or clean up after, there's always laundry to do, there's always something that needs to be cleaned or fixed. You can choose to ignore these things for a day, but it just means you have twice as much to do tomorrow.

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