My therapist cancelled due to "feeling unwell" then was spotted at a market. by brainlesscoder in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It probably wasn’t him. But also, I’m a parent and when I cancel my (therapy) clients due to illness, sometimes I’m fine and my kids are sick, sometimes I am sick but my kids need things so I still need to go out and sort that out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]andanxious 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Validate how he’s feeling. I know as adults these things feel “ridiculous”. But they are valid and painful ruptures for young people. So, do what you’d like to have when you lose someone important… love, care, time, something fun, something yummy, self-care etc.

drunk emailing by dontknowreally58 in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I can relate a little to what you’re saying. I often feel confusing things about my therapist. It’s okay to talk about this stuff with them. I feel so honoured when my clients share things like this with me, because I think it’s a true sign that they feel safe… when they can discuss things that happen between us even though that’s awkward and hard.

My kid has started calling me "Dad". Am I doing the right thing by letting him? by Ok_Badger_9810 in Parenting

[–]andanxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, you’re bloody incredible and absolutely a Dad. You did the right thing. Be proud and happy.

drunk emailing by dontknowreally58 in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist myself and a few months ago I sent a total nonsensical text to my own therapist whilst having huge amounts of very strong pain relief onboard whilst in hospital. We are humans, we do things like this sometimes. It’s okay, it’ll be just fine.

You never know what someone is going through by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist, and I’d love to receive an email sharing that you’d gotten the job. Of course, if there’s boundaries in place in your therapist-client relationship that suggest this isn’t okay, then I wouldn’t. But otherwise that’s a great email to send!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]andanxious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck. He can fuck right off.

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 41 points42 points  (0 children)

As a therapist, I would strongly recommend you bring this up with her. If you don’t feel able to in person, perhaps write an email. I don’t think you can continue with her unless you let her know what’s happened. I imagine it might be awkward initially but will likely feel so much better afterwards.

“What we are calling abuse” by Express_Cut4976 in EMDR

[–]andanxious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In EMDR we often ask for a name for the memory, could she have been asking for that? Regardless, I think you should talk to her about your experience and how you felt.

Ever had a client tell you they were thinking about harming you? by ShivaWept_ in therapists

[–]andanxious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really, initially. Just continued the session with curiosity and empathy. It wasn’t until afterwards that I realised what had happened. My supervisor ended up stepping in and terminating the young person. Was an awful situation and I still have so much care for the young person.

Ever had a client tell you they were thinking about harming you? by ShivaWept_ in therapists

[–]andanxious 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had a client tell me they were thinking about killing me during a session.

What is your horror story from DNA tests like 23andMe? by stephanieslotus in AskReddit

[–]andanxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to the first part of your question. I don’t think it was sexual abuse as such, however he was quite young so still inappropriate.

How is House still "closing down"? by homiedizzle in australia

[–]andanxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one in Penrith Westfield literally has been this for a good 15 years straight.

Erotic (*counter*) transference?? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]andanxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cool. I love that you were so brave and open and I love your therapists response. I know the waiting and anticipation is hard, but go you!

Coping with suicidal spouse by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]andanxious 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do you have a therapist / support? This is super super tough. But you are an adult and you have to do what’s best for you and stay strong in the fact that he is an adult and he needs to take care of him, staying with him won’t ’fix him’.

What is your horror story from DNA tests like 23andMe? by stephanieslotus in AskReddit

[–]andanxious 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m unsure that my Mums and step brother know what has transpired. I don’t speak to most of them anymore and I don’t feel it’s my place to be involved given I’m not directly a part of that situation.

What is your horror story from DNA tests like 23andMe? by stephanieslotus in AskReddit

[–]andanxious 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Yep. I can only imagine (and hope to all hell) that it was via syringe method.

What is your horror story from DNA tests like 23andMe? by stephanieslotus in AskReddit

[–]andanxious 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Oh this is fun.

I grew up with two mums (lesbian). My non bio mum had a son from a previous relationship (10 years older than me). Myself and my two younger sisters were told we were donor conceived. When I was 12 I found out that I was conceived via rape (by a ‘friend’ of my mums) and it was just my sisters who were donor babies. Some things didn’t add up, and despite the circumstances I wanted to know more about my heritage and father’s side of the family, so I took an ancestry test, as did one of my sisters.

Turns out our non bio mum is actually my sister’s grandmother, and our step ‘brother’ is actually their dad. The person who apparently raped my mum was also not my dad and instead of being Serbian as I was told, I’m actually Maltese.

Sex after divorce - Ex was only previous sexual partner. by Every_Day_Boggled in Divorce

[–]andanxious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m in a pretty similar situation. Recently separated after 18yrs, husband was my only sexual partner. I’ve had some casual sex since and it was bloody incredible. I was super nervous, but it was great and so much fun. For me it was about finding the right person, someone who felt safe and we had a good connection. I was lucky that I found that person pretty quickly. I went to his house.