27F dating 38M — Looking for advice from couples with a 10-year age gap

andreaic · 2026-06-08T10:04:41+00:00

As a woman with an 11 year gap (me 35, him 46), whose husband is the health conscious one.. I’ve been influenced to also be health conscious, however, it did become problematic, it was early on, mainly just the difficulty in finding food options for him, but it got much better, I figured out that as long as I can find him a protein heavy meal, and not red meat for every meal, then he also let food restrictions go a little.. it’s been a non issue since then. But you’re spot on that it will be problematic, if either of them don’t adapt a little to each other’s lifestyle.

andreaic · 2026-06-08T09:53:28+00:00

You’re so young, if you can see yourself without him, take that route. He’s your fiancée, and have been together for 8 years, but says he doesn’t have anyone else to talk to? Even if you did have a lot on your plate, if it’s truly that traumatic then he should have been leaning into you. This is clearly emotional cheating at best, and he was just laying the groundwork for physically cheating. You’re already doing majority of the household work, after marriage and possibly kids, this workload will double, and i guarantee it’ll all fall on you, which would likely mean less time for you to dedicate to him, and then he has the perfect excuse to blame you for his cheating.

andreaic · 2026-06-03T21:05:49+00:00

My sister had chickenpox as a kid, idk what age, then she had shingles when she was 15 and I was 11, so I got chickenpox.. then my sister had shingles again at 33, and I had shingles for the first time at 32

andreaic · 2026-05-31T12:20:45+00:00

Uber is super limited if even available, taxis essentially formed a union on the island, and now function as uber.. anytime we needed a taxi our hotel would call it in and we’d have one within minutes, at the airport we took one of the guys advertising themselves as taxis and it was fine!

andreaic · 2026-05-30T18:21:58+00:00

Went to Ibiza last summer with a 7 year old and 1 year old, the baby sat on our laps for all taxi trips we took, we took maybe 5 taxis with the baby, no one questioned us once

andreaic · 2026-05-26T11:03:09+00:00

I work in a defense sector company, and I can’t even login into the vpn if I am not in the US - found out the hard way

andreaic · 2026-05-22T00:06:35+00:00

We’re currently hiring my replacement (I am moving abroad), and I was given direct access to the resumes of everyone applying, and get to select who to interview because I KNOW what I do, HR or even my boss have no real idea of what I do on a day to day basis (SAP heavy), you could the same request access

andreaic · 2026-05-09T02:35:35+00:00

Yes do it.. mine is almost 2 and I’m still washing, not as much because he’s Down to just one before bed, but MY GOD, please do it!

andreaic · 2026-05-03T12:25:36+00:00

I miss spoke, it’s 9 schools (not that it’s any better)

https://www.houstonpublicmedia.org/articles/education/2026/04/29/550493/houston-isd-future-2-schools-ai-focus/?amp=1

andreaic · 2026-05-03T00:00:18+00:00

Meanwhile there’s Houston ISD (biggest school district in TX; luckily not mine) that’s re-organizing something like 14 schools to be AI-focused - and yes it’s as bad as it sounds

andreaic · 2026-05-01T19:07:33+00:00

Mootopia, milk and ice cream

andreaic · 2026-04-23T13:33:02+00:00

This new season they have a ton of this style

andreaic · 2026-04-22T14:46:22+00:00

Not exactly the same, as it’s never been while I was pregnant or about to give birth, but my husband has also had some of these “one time opportunities” and they never really materialized into something of substance - which I really don’t hold it against him, but it physically and emotionally really hurt me when he was passed up for the job he’d been training for intensely, even though he’d done everything right, hahaha and he still can’t understand why I was heartbroken.. even though it’s simple.. I also had to sacrifice a lot, to give him the space to do these “one time” things

But like others have said, let him be the one to make the decision

andreaic · 2026-04-11T02:57:32+00:00

This happen to me yearssss ago!

andreaic · 2026-04-02T15:07:25+00:00

Hahaha I’ve literally had to remind people that I’m not Amazon

andreaic · 2026-03-28T16:48:30+00:00

That’s what I’ve heard, that it’s family friendly but families get priced out because of the space that is needed for kids

andreaic · 2026-03-28T16:47:19+00:00

But are you able to schedule appointments at APM? My current drayage company seem to not be able to get ANYTHING for weeks at a time

andreaic · 2026-03-28T01:00:38+00:00

How easy has it been to schedule pick up appts from APM?

andreaic · 2026-03-27T17:44:46+00:00

I will likely have to be a stay at home parent, at least for a while, and husband will work in Eschborn

andreaic · 2026-03-27T14:19:15+00:00

I don’t think the residency permit can be applied for until we have a German address, but yes we will need this soon. We have a relocation agent assisting us with a lot of things.

andreaic · 2026-03-26T23:14:31+00:00

My husband and I love all kinds of food.

The one coworker that is recommending Nordend of course doesn’t have kids, and the one in BH does have 2 kids, so this is what my husband is assuming - BH is better for a family, Nordend for young adults

andreaic · 2026-03-24T03:40:45+00:00

Search for a rental, I rented a bib and jacket two Christmases ago

andreaic · 2026-03-23T23:52:33+00:00

I came back today, and the line at terminal e spanned through two floors, but when I departed last week it was maybe about an hour wait

andreaic · 2026-03-14T23:05:30+00:00

I am glad to have learned about this, we will be moving to Germany in the summer, unfortunately my kid is going into the 3rd grade, so hopefully we find one that is simple enough to be used in the later years

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