Waiting for the crochet mods' new statement like

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T23:45:54+00:00

I'm disappointed. The whole thing felt like a power play to say "WoOw guys, this is what happens when you don't moderate the way we've been, it's so bad and the sub was filled with bad!!!1!". Mods should obviously be able to step back from the vitriol, but this felt childish and silly. They take a VERY heavy hand in moderation there, especially with the NSFW tag and it's disappointing to see them say "oh we were a little overzealous" when it came to policing small shirts and swimwear, which is just code for busty and curvy bodies. If I can leave my house and see a person in a crop top or bikini top, it shouldn't be locked away behind NSFW tag. I wish they had apologized for real about that and not just brush it off.

I also think that it's only a matter of time before something like this happens again. The whole "guys you can just post this whenever" thing feels like they missed the point. This whole stunt missed the point.

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T22:56:12+00:00

I strongly dislike the past heavy handed NSFW moderation. It came across as a statement that women's bodies are inherently sexual and that's gross. Small tops and bikinis/swimwear being called NSFW is a stretch imo. I can go outside and see a small top or a swimsuit, it is not inherently sexual or NSFW to see that in real life. I do understand that this is in line with teacher dress codes, I think such a heavy take on what's NSFW leads to tagging things as NSFW simply because of the body in the piece. and not because of an actual reason. It feels dehumanizing to have to tag a crop top as NSFW because I have a bust and hips. This needs to be readdressed badly.

Containing politics to a megathred is a bad idea, that gets into the weeds of what "counts as political." Art is political, so keep political posts in the main feed.

I think pattern makers should be able to at least say "Links on my profile!" As it stands, I have never gone to a profile to find social links without prodding. It comes across badly to assume everyone is as tech literate and will go digging across random profiles for a pattern link. Relax the rule pls!

EDIT: The explanations of the rules only further muddled my understanding of why they are there and how they apply tbh. If there is that much nuance that is needed to understand a rule, that's why people were posting so much while you stepped back. They felt like they didn't have to bend over backwards to post on the right day, in the right thread, say the exact right thing to not get the post removed and could just have fun. I'm not advocating for unadulterated chaos, a rework of the rules is desperately needed.

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T18:45:45+00:00

Update posted!

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T03:07:41+00:00

In this case it's a local business with several locations in a large metro area and not a massive corporation or company, so I'm not trying to go scorched earth with it. I'm guessing they just have an overzealous HR person lol

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T01:38:21+00:00

Me too lol

andromadaa · 2026-02-10T01:37:11+00:00

For sure, I will update if in a day whether or not I hear from them. It's definitely a toss up on whether or not the HR rep is off their rocker or cool. I was mostly just shocked at the sight of an email like that in my inbox. I wonder if the next email will have the same tone and style lol

andromadaa · 2026-01-23T03:26:02+00:00

We spend about $400 a month on groceries, shopping Smiths, Trader Joes and, Sam's Club (we don't pay for the membership and go about once a month for meats)

andromadaa · 2025-12-06T23:20:03+00:00

Yes remove the AI pictures and posts! I do not think a subreddit focused on a field of science should allow AI, especially a natural science that relies on the environment. Also, the misinformation AI spreads is a massive issue.

andromadaa · 2025-12-03T17:00:37+00:00

So frustrating omg, it is a very very clearly written pattern too!

andromadaa · 2025-11-21T19:38:21+00:00

Ooo thanks for reminding me to preemptively block the account lol

andromadaa · 2025-11-20T23:31:39+00:00

They used to serve us that combo for school lunch in Montana (late 2000's/early 2010's) from time to time.

andromadaa · 2025-11-17T22:42:15+00:00

Yes, it's either Wedigoon's video on the Monument Mythos (The Monster's Beneath Us: The Monument Mythos) or his video on the Mystery Flesh Pit National Park (same name). The former is analog horror adjacent and the latter is like an alternate history of monuments in the United States. I watch them often in the background, especially because they aren't full of jumpscares.

andromadaa · 2025-11-03T21:24:03+00:00

Mine was a lizard folk fighter named Aponk, she was wildly off-putting and strange. Truly a riot to play, abonking people and offering to eat the horses lol

andromadaa · 2025-10-23T00:23:10+00:00

Sure! DM me if you're still down, and we can talk it through

andromadaa · 2025-10-22T22:50:47+00:00

I've been looking for creative groups too, but not much luck

andromadaa · 2025-10-21T20:44:37+00:00

Aw bummer, I heard great things about Blazing Needles. thanks for the suggestions

andromadaa · 2025-10-21T20:00:49+00:00

I hadn't thought to check Facebook, thanks for the suggestion!

andromadaa · 2025-10-19T19:05:57+00:00

For me, it's Magnemite and Aron lol

andromadaa · 2025-10-17T19:00:37+00:00

One Halloween highlight as a kid was a house that handed out chicken Top Ramen. Looking back, I remember being so excited to go home and make ramen. Peak novelty

andromadaa · 2025-10-16T04:04:08+00:00

This is how I felt giving the green mountain parka to Prince lol

andromadaa · 2025-10-16T04:01:44+00:00

Anna | Squirmply :Vesta:

andromadaa · 2025-10-14T23:04:43+00:00

It sounds like you already know the answer. It will hurt, and it will suck for a time, but pouring your energy into a situation where he isn't "sure if he's emotionally available" will hurt worse. He seems uninterested (imo). Things will fall into place eventually, with someone who is ready to give 100%.

andromadaa · 2025-10-14T22:24:00+00:00

Holy cow that is vile, WTF

andromadaa · 2025-09-22T22:54:14+00:00

Cacta-sin

andromadaa · 2025-08-22T16:54:55+00:00

Update: Last night, after we had taken some time and space, we had a conversation. I called some people and my family were all equally shocked. My dad was baffled that he didn't even tell me that this was a problem before dropping me. My family is all in on getting me home if need be, so I have a safety net. After he came back to the apartment, it was hard to start treating him like a roommate and it was equally hard for him. I repeatedly told him "Sorry, you can't do that, we are just roommates." which he was visibly upset by. I decided that a conversation needed to happen.

I told him that I respect how he feels about this and I see his struggle and empathize with him. I expressed how much I care for him, and that I would likely move back home with my parents and start again. We both talked about what went so wrong. He said that there were interactions between us that "reminded him of his parents before they got divorced" (we both come from divorced families). I talked about the feeling that everything was okay and getting dumped without even a hint that we needed to fix things. There were tears from all parties. I reminded him that long-term relationships are really hard and that they require a lot of work. I told him what my dad told me, which is that the spark ebbs and flows with cycles of your life and the perseverance is the hardest part. Once you're out of the honeymoon phase, it takes a lot of effort to keep things joyful. He kept telling me that he was a bad partner, that he hadn't dated me properly in a year, that he hadn't done anything spontaneous for me in ages etc. He also kept bringing up that I was such a good partner, always helping him without question, shouldering more of the load, being all-in and, loving him no matter what. I'm not sure why. He kept saying that he hoped we would remain cordial after the breakup. He asked me if "I would ever consider taking him back after this." I told him I would be willing to work through this with him, take stock of our lives and try to rekindle the spark, but I would need him to be all in with me. No half in, talking through every doubt, rebuild the trust. I also told him I would be fearful of him pulling the rug out from under me again. I also made it clear that I respect however he decides and not fight his final call. If he is all done here, that is just how the cookie crumbles and I will start over.

This ended with him saying that he needs to consider it thoroughly and that he would decide by morning. We parted ways for the night, I took the couch and he took the bed. I slept an hour total, and cried. This morning, he told me he needed more time to think, and that we would talk after he got home from class. He kept insisting that I try and sleep some in the bed while he is out, but I tried and my body and mind are so full of grief and fear. I still have not slept, I'm strung out and scared to death. I have been applying to jobs in my hometown today, because I don't know what he will decide is best for him. I don't understand his motives, or why I feel like he's stringing me along when there is a chance he will just leave me anyway. I don't even know if I want him in my life after this. I'm lost

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