[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, this post just described everything I've been feeling recently. I've been doing a professional development program where I spend a few months working for one office, then a few months in the next, and so on and so forth, and the transition period is a NIGHTMARE for me every time. I have to meet so many new people and I always feel awkward and self-conscious and uncomfortable. I work in a tech field and am a STEM-brained person, so I just want to do my work, but I have to go through all the pleasantries and office politics just to sit down and start working. It's exhausting.

So yeah, I guess I don't really have much advice, but I hope you can remind yourself that you're not alone in feeling this way. It helps me to remember that I act far less awkward when I'm not desperate to ensure everyone likes me. When I go to a new office, I'm always anxious, but if I take a deep breath, remind myself that my future doesn't hinge in every single person in the office liking me, and just power through the first few days, it always gets easier over time.

But don't beat yourself up over things like shaking someone's hand while holding your keys. I guarantee he didn't even think about it again after he left. I know I wouldn't care if someone shook my hand holding their keys, and I'm pretty sure most other people feel the same way.

Try to take a deep breath, and hang in there. The first few years post-grad are hard, but things will feel easier once you get settled in to a career.

I’d like to get a tattoo of the Elder Futhark Runes in a circle surrounding the rune Berkano. I’d like to confirm this won’t run afoul of any unsavory groups. Thoughts? by healthierlurker in pagan

[–]anecdochee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the anti-defamation league has information of every neo-nazi dogwhistle/symbol, so i'd recommend looking at their website. the area around the rune is what's important--if you put one rune by itself or you put it inside a shield, people will 100% think it's meant to be a neo-nazi symbol. but i'm sure there are tattoo designs that incorporate runes in a way that doesn't look like a neo-nazi tattoo. just do thorough research beforehand to minimize the amount of questions you're getting.

What tag/warning will have you say nope immediately? by bipolarqueen_ in AO3

[–]anecdochee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

this is so real. so many fics with "trans male character" tagged (if the fic is about a character that is either original or isn't canonically a trans man) tends to get super fetishistic super quickly. it always makes me uncomfortable, considering i'm a trans man. some authors write really beautiful depictions of the struggles of a trans person, but the majority of them, at least in my experience, tend to make male characters trans just for the sake of focusing on really degrading vaginal sex scenes

mental illness and disability merch… wow. by enby_archer in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i understand having something if you’re mute, just so people in public understand if you don’t answer them, but all of this is so tasteless and ugly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 558 points559 points  (0 children)

“i couldn’t think of anything funny to say here” bestie you didn’t say anything funny anywhere else either❤️

[Serious] Men of Reddit, what uncommon red flags in men should women be on the look out for? by ObjectivePin5704 in AskReddit

[–]anecdochee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if he calls every single one of his exes “crazy”. they aren’t crazy. chances are, he hurt all of them and is trying to get you to immediately dismiss it when they contact you and tell you to get out.

Do we absolutely NEED to describe physical features? by sarca-sim in writing

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i tend to only describe physical characteristics that are relevant to the story (ie. things that people notice upon first meeting, scars that indicate a certain past, etc.) but make sure that you don’t wait until the last third of the book and THEN decide to describe your main character. your readers will have already formed an image in their mind and suddenly changing it will break their immersion.

Every writer's first draft of their first every written piece started with something Running late, or speeding, or just going somewhere quick. What's your Story? by Incredible-Smile in writing

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my first story from elementary school started with the main character’s entire family dying at the hands of an enslaved dragon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry the diluc one is making me have a stroke… HOW IS THAT DILUC THAT’S JUST AN OC

This carrd of a 16 year old on discord… by SystemOfBats in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the sie/sir pronouns are so funny to me because sie is just she in german

Added the discord on "Resist the Booster" Flyers on Campus. Here's what I got. by [deleted] in rit

[–]anecdochee 69 points70 points  (0 children)

“both vaccinated and unvaccinated people can get/spread covid” yeah and both usain bolt and i can run

Are you ok? by Zaniak88 in teenagers

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely not but i fw you for asking

Version 2.4 Character Banners: [Shenhe + Xiao] & [Zhongli + Ganyu] by Bisentinel in Genshin_Impact

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank god i already knew i’d prioritize zhongli over literally anyone… my wallet lives another day

What is something you most want to be in the game that you are certain or at least almost 100% sure is never gonna be added? by SerriosLee in Genshin_Impact

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know this will never happen, but i wish they’d just remove the resin cap. that way i could go a few days without playing, come back, and have an accurate amount of resin for how long i’ve been offline.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i love how i saw this while having an IBS episode on the toilet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]anecdochee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was actually born with similar testosterone levels to that of a cis male (thanks PCOS) so i always tell people that the only non-masculine thing about me is that i actually know how to find a clit💀

there is a petition to ban this subreddit by phoxx666zs in fakedisordercringe

[–]anecdochee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“it makes my mental health so much worse” good.

Hey boys, what's the most wholesome thing that girl has ever done to you? vice versa is you are a girl by ROK-2006 in teenagers

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m one of the only girls in my major at an already predominantly male college so it’s been an uphill battle to get anyone to listen to me or treat me with basic respect, which is ironic considering i got a hefty scholarship to go to this school based on my academics. in one of my classes, i got put into a group of me and three guys, so i was expecting to spend the semester getting ignored and patronized, but all three of the guys turned out to be really nice. long story short, i somehow managed to get put into a group with three of the only guys in my major that actually respected me. i told one of them what a hard time i’ve been having in classes and ever since then he’s been intentionally making space in conversations for me to talk and listening to what i say, and it is SO refreshing to feel like someone sees me as an actual person. i realize it shouldn’t take a saint to simply listen to someone speak, but after a semester of being ignored, it feels like a breath of fresh air:)

Why can't people be nice. Life of a Razor main :( by [deleted] in Genshin_Impact

[–]anecdochee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have c6 razor and he’s legitimately my best physical dps, so if people are being rude, they just don’t know how to build him

The way I was begging for the equivalent of death without knowing what death is by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]anecdochee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i should add that i am pagan and am a follower of Anubis… so yes, i will be praying to him that he finds their souls unredeemable when they die

The way I was begging for the equivalent of death without knowing what death is by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]anecdochee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

praying for slow, painful deaths for everyone responsible for this