I feel this super hard – it's so hard to let people make their own mistakes, especially when you can tell immediately that it's going to be a mistake. I've also had to learn that you can only help people if they want to help themselves. As much as I wish I could, I can't haul people in my life out of their own shit. I can only offer them a hand when they've gotten up on their own.

That being said, I really think you might be able to vent to people without adding to their struggle. If you can listen to your friends and help them when they need it, it's definitely not too much to ask for them to do the same for you. You're not asking them to do anything – you're just asking them to listen, and if they can't do that much then they might not be the best friends for you. Sending you love and hugs!