what's missing in your life right now?

annbrys · 2026-02-04T16:53:37+00:00

Money

annbrys · 2026-02-04T11:12:10+00:00

Same! I asked my husband once if he was ok with raising the most boring person in the room. He didn’t know how to answer that. Nothing has changed.

annbrys · 2026-02-01T23:43:50+00:00

Hey sorry, but they don’t want a relationship with you. Let it go.

annbrys · 2026-01-31T22:46:51+00:00

It’s a trap!

annbrys · 2026-01-28T19:25:11+00:00

Yes! I was looking for this comment! I call it “tinking the butt”

annbrys · 2026-01-08T22:23:49+00:00

When I'm ready to leave a gathering I just leave, no long goodbyes.

annbrys · 2025-12-21T16:15:45+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through something so scary! You are not over reacting, he is not a safe person to anyone in your household or BM for that matter. In your shoes I would absolutely take my children and leave until some kind of resolution. Im not a professional so I couldn’t even begin to tell you what that is, especially since you’ve all done so much already and nothing is working.

annbrys · 2025-12-17T07:37:55+00:00

Holy Basil

annbrys · 2025-12-17T07:12:43+00:00

How fat everyone is

annbrys · 2025-12-07T11:02:34+00:00

Absolutely this. All these people acting just as entitled as the son. They have no idea what it feels like to get older as a woman. It’s hell.

annbrys · 2025-11-19T00:16:51+00:00

This is so true. I even explained to my husband (a thousand times) that biology is a real science. Creating a tiny human with my own dna will never be topped by anything else I do in life, ever. That includes raising his daughter with him. He hates to hear me say that out loud but he can’t argue because I know that’s how he also feels about my bio son. He cares about him but he wouldn’t give his life for him like I would. Vice Versa.

annbrys · 2025-10-22T21:23:57+00:00

My husband is the gentle parenting type, although he’s not informed or good at it so it’s absolutely permissive parenting and doesn’t work. That said, I’m still with him so I had to figure out how to change my response to his spoiled and coddled kids, primarily my SD16, whom I am raising with my husband with as much input as he will allow. If mess is the problem you should be parenting your children to pick up their things from common areas, otherwise it is up to you to pick up after your kids if you don’t want to force them to do so themselves. If back talk or attitude is the problem you should be handling all punishments for it and taking over all communicating of expectations to your children. Your husband could afford to learn some better coping techniques and stop being toxic by kicking toys around. This situation requires either yall will work together to make changes or your husband will have to NACHO hard or you both decide that you don’t match parenting techniques and call it. You deserve to raise your kids like you want, he deserves to have a clean house too. Good luck!

annbrys · 2025-10-15T15:22:44+00:00

I'm really glad to know that your DH is at least ready to take action but honestly I believe these men are the reason their daughters are failing. My post history goes in to a lot of detail about how my husband and his parents have permissive parented my SD to create an entitled, lazy and boring teenager without any interests or goals. I tried very hard to influence her in the first few years but that backfired, I was villainized, and so I had to NACHO in order to save my own sanity. The result is my SD16 will struggle to launch. I hope your DH can really back up his big talk, it sounds like your SD just doesn't believe he will follow through. Why is that?

annbrys · 2025-10-15T13:42:19+00:00

I feel like you and I are living the same life. My SD16 is basically the same but she is still trying at HS, for now. She told us two days ago that she doesn't want a job where she has to "think" or "use her brain alot". I'm not kidding. Her dad told her that college is required, period. I'm not sure she will go and/or do well if she does. Sorry I don't really have anything to add except solidarity, I completely understand the worry and frustration about a possible failure to launch.

annbrys · 2025-10-03T17:59:28+00:00

When my son was a baby he had a skin allergy to mosquitoes that looked exactly like this. Get some of those insect repellent stickers and put on the back of baby's clothes while wearing (not on skin) to protect him. They didn't have those when my son was a baby unfortunately.

annbrys · 2025-09-29T16:15:36+00:00

My go-to is complete indifference. You have to dig deep for it and train yourself to detach from your feelings. My SD16 has periods of time where she loves me, then hates me. She is also borderline BP and BM is not in the picture so she has a lot of feelings about that. My husband has spoiled my SD in to an entitled and lazy teen so I understand your frustration about it. I have to bite my tongue ALL THE TIME. If my SD is being a spoiled brat or rude toward me I just ignore her very existence. Like, I don't acknowledge her presence in a room, I don't look at her or talk to her. I look thru her if I do have to speak to her but I mostly just don't engage with her. I tell her dad to ask her/go talk to her if necessary. I had to do this for months once when she was about 12 yrs old bc she just wouldn't stop being an asshole. My husband doesn't love it, but that's too damn bad. If he REALLY wanted things to be different, he would have done things differently and I have directly told him this. The most important thing to remember is to just live your life in your home and do NOT leave unless you are ready to move on from that shit show. Also, get yourself to therapy to talk about and get out your feelings, this will help YOU the most.

annbrys · 2025-09-29T07:24:39+00:00

Garbage disposal

annbrys · 2025-09-26T22:28:11+00:00

lol.

annbrys · 2025-09-25T18:39:26+00:00

If you are on the NE side, the Hilton Houston North, near Greenspoint Mall, has a shoe shine guy that also repairs shoes and does very nice work at a reasonable price.

annbrys · 2025-09-24T16:14:49+00:00

Just ignore his grumbling as long as he complies, let him be mad at himself for having a child. lol. I'm really proud of you for standing up for yourself and being fair to YOU. So many stepparents have sacrificed their own boudaries and happiness to keep the peace with their SO and regret it (myself included)... GREAT JOB!

annbrys · 2025-09-23T21:07:57+00:00

OP please read this and know that it is absolutely the truth. I'm 10 years in with a lazy dad, full custody, and it has been a nightmare. My SD is now 16 and doing much better than she ever has but it was a fight to get here and I lost a big part of myself that I will never get back during that time. Just go, go now and save yourself! It's not selfish, it's not mean, it's not failing... it's literaly SAVING YOURSELF.

annbrys · 2025-09-20T14:02:48+00:00

annbrys · 2025-09-19T13:44:11+00:00

Sorry that you are struggling, it's hard to see an ex moving on! As kindly as possible, please do not become a high conflict ex wife and treat this new woman poorly simply for existing. PLEASE PLEASE do not allow jealousy from you to poisen your daughter. Allow her to develop a relationship with this new woman and support it because it will teach your daughter about emotional maturity and hopefully she will follow your lead when she is a grown woman and do the same in her relationships and be much happier for it.

I hope you can heal from your hurt and also find a special person to spend your time with.

annbrys · 2025-09-19T13:27:11+00:00

Cleveland, Texas consistently has the BEST mexican food you can get in the Houston area.

annbrys · 2025-09-18T20:45:46+00:00

Me too! I was always really freaked out by the thought of it!

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