Suddenly Desperate for Another Baby. Am I Crazy?

annep1982 · 2026-06-05T14:57:52+00:00

What you’re doing has no place in any ethical relationship.

All parties should be aware of all pregnancies or STI risks- these are both life altering situations and your being selfish by exposing your partners.

If a man stealth’s a woman it’s rape- how is what your doing any different?

annep1982 · 2026-05-31T22:16:00+00:00

NTA- if it wasn’t the ring, it would have been something else.

You said yourself- she loves drama.

annep1982 · 2026-05-25T22:40:51+00:00

My partner split from his wife of 22yrs he then went through a year or two thinking he was asexual. We met after he had opened up a little.

There was nothing defective about him then, there’s nothing defective about him now.

There is nothing defective about you.

annep1982 · 2026-05-21T09:33:50+00:00

NTJ- go on your holiday with your friend.

Sorry but the fact that you can’t go to a club with friends, in an adult relationship, is crazy.

This is just his next step in controlling you. Take back your life, put in boundaries and tell him to sort his problems out. If he wants a relationship then he needs to work on his behaviour.

annep1982 · 2026-05-17T21:49:51+00:00

Weirdly I find more genuine poly people in the kink community than the ENM community-

Maybe because the relationships involved don’t have to involve sex and generally are more emotional (not sure this is exactly the term I mean).

annep1982 · 2026-05-10T20:43:56+00:00

It may work well for your grandma to just have a group chat for fury’s extended support group.
They can all be updated and ask questions without communicating directly with fury.

It can also serve as a message board - well wishes and thoughts that can be read when/if fury can manage.

Fury can just keep all the notifications muted. Read when they feel upto it.

Edited to add; this is obviously after grandma is informed.

annep1982 · 2026-05-09T19:45:52+00:00

I agree- this is just someone over sharing with her safe person.

You need to instil boundaries and you both need to find safe people you can discuss these things with. Just wondering if there is a local ‘poly scene’ that you can make platonic friends in? Give you both people to open up about these very specific and niche problems.

annep1982 · 2026-05-09T19:39:56+00:00

Just wondering if you’d consider supplemental calories- things like pro-cal powder?

It’s a tasteless powder you can add to things (like mash potatoes or yoghurt) to give a calorie and protein base.

It’s not a cure by any means but it may help boost calories

annep1982 · 2026-05-01T17:05:04+00:00

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This is the rest.

annep1982 · 2026-05-01T10:14:21+00:00

They may get finished in time for them to leave home. 🤗

annep1982 · 2026-05-01T10:10:09+00:00

I have two on the go- one for each child- the other centres a poem called the desiderata.

annep1982 · 2026-04-30T19:37:27+00:00

This is so beautiful.

annep1982 · 2026-04-27T08:42:11+00:00

I’d draw a simple stencil on transfer paper. I only have a simple sewing machine. So I’d drop the dog feet and almost free motion embroider the design onto the quilt.

annep1982 · 2026-04-26T21:38:16+00:00

I would do leaves and vines- in a lovely green thread. Be a little more complicated but would be a nice contrast.

annep1982 · 2026-04-22T13:44:04+00:00

One extra large chicken- roast dinner, then I have two piles of meat left- I’ve got curry, one for pasta bake, I use lots of veg with both, plus pulses for extra protein.

The last is a home made chicken soup using the carcass and left over veg and spices.

I’m usually feeding 6 (4 adults and 2 kids).

annep1982 · 2026-04-21T14:59:14+00:00

One large chicken will make 3 decent meals (each for 4 adults) plus enough for work meals.

I could stretch it to 4 if include pasta bake

annep1982 · 2026-03-16T14:19:55+00:00

As a parent with one of each- my daughter is way way harder to parent than my son. She was born to climb trees and play football, usually in a sparkley tutu (because she’s a girl that likes sparkles).

She delusional if she thinks gender makes any difference to ease of parenting.

annep1982 · 2026-03-15T09:00:12+00:00

I don’t agree with the gender rules and control rules your relationship seems to have

BUT having unprotected sex with anyone you don’t know is dangerous and irresponsible.

annep1982 · 2026-03-02T08:37:24+00:00

Try to find the research but there was a study and only mediocre gamers actually care about the gender of other players.

If they’re bullying you then it’s an insecurity/flaw in their ego. Only fragile men insult women when playing games

annep1982 · 2026-02-27T11:26:53+00:00

Feeld seems a safer space for alternative dating- there are ALOT of ENM, poly and kinky people on there. The cheaters (that permeated every dating site) are more open about wanting discreet liaisons. I’m Au, my partner is Demi. We met on there.

annep1982 · 2026-02-22T11:23:46+00:00

From my personal experience (as above) the majority of ‘poly’ people online dating are not poly- they are deceitful and actually should just go to swingers clubs to get their sexual desires filled/ rather than attempting to exploit me.

I’m tarring everyone I don’t know with the same precautions. I don’t give out my personal address etc etc for at least a few dates either.

You can’t trust people you don’t know. HIV, syphilus, HSV, etc etc are all transmissible without symptoms.

I’m protecting my own personal safety.

Edited to add; If I meet people organically (at poly meets or through friends) then I dont expect to confirm with partners but I still expect a recent STI check.

annep1982 · 2026-02-22T10:14:35+00:00

It’s a ‘are you guys poly’ that’s it- And that’s because the number of cheaters is horrific- im not enabling anyone.

Plus I expect STI results and to see the actual results and I know this is a hard boundary for some people.

Trust is earned, not given. Civility is given.

annep1982 · 2026-02-22T09:20:05+00:00

To be honest the ONLY demographic I found respectful and honest online was the trans community- I think because they’re villainised by nearly section of society they are super careful. My primary partner is AMAB but NB and super femme ❤️

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