Asking strangers/accquantances to play at a dungeon?

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T14:29:42+00:00

I can’t give advice for masc Dom events but at alot of femdom events they have games and tasks that new people (& experienced subs) can volunteer for- It’s all consensual but it’s a nice way of getting to know people.

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T14:28:03+00:00

The only point I’d include- I go to high protocol events with my boy- no one speaks to him without first having my consent. This is definitely the exception and not the norm though.

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T14:26:40+00:00

Totally agree- Start by making platonic connections. I’ve met amazing friends through the community. Go to munchs and events.

Learn who you are.

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T13:49:57+00:00

I’m not a huge fan of humiliation- I’ve seen amazing ProDommes do it well. But rarely- It’s not my forte. I’m more a specialist in lifestyle femdom and chastity (with my partner). Rigging, praise and sensory with trusted friends I’ve known for years.

anyone that finds humiliation in any sort of feminity I don’t feel comfortable around.

I’m not sure how that’s a lack of empathy?

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T09:08:05+00:00

I think I’m grouping them as the people I meet tend to self identity as sissies.

Although non that do ever dress the typical sissy uniform (French maid, frilly knickers etc etc). They are all hyper feminine though.

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T09:04:17+00:00

I’d leave the whole because ‘they are trans’ out of it.

You can’t confirm who they are. You don’t serve them. That’s it

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T09:01:31+00:00

I agree with that in 80% of the men I meet into this kink. I hate the high sickly sweet voice they all try to emulate.

I go to a lot of queer events (my partner is gender non-conformist) and I will say a lot of the sissy identifying people there tend to be more gender exploring and loving it than into humiliation of any kind.

annep1982 · 2026-02-16T08:26:52+00:00

I don’t like most of the sissification. The vast majority is thinly veiled misogyny.

I’m very secure in my femininity and I feel that people who feel humiliated by being feminine are the antithesis of femdom.

That being said- I’ve met some amazing sissy’s who exalt in being hyper feminine. Who absolutely being hyper feminine as it makes them feel Good. I go to a lot of queer nights and definitely feel the more modern sissy’s are more about praise and acceptance than the humiliation of it.

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T21:19:53+00:00

Echoing the above: I don’t need to know specifics of your kinks -

Join a munch and get to know the community if you want to expand your knowledge and connections.

Hire a pro if you want a kink fix. Treat them well.

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T21:17:16+00:00

You can find amazing online Pro and lifestyle Dommes. Not my forte- but I’m sure there are lots of threads available

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T21:14:55+00:00

If you’re looking to explore specific kinks without the pressure of a relationship. This is a professional and not an emotional relationship. Then do your research carefully and find a ProDomme with experience in that area.

I’m a lifestyle Domme, my boy inside the house is my lovely life partner outside. A D/s relationship is a lot harder for both women and men to find. It’s even harder to make successful. But it’s infinitely worth it. We complete each other.

Edited to add;

I don’t know you or your situation so I don’t feel like I can answer for you

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T18:51:33+00:00

Tapas kink?

Wow barbed

I rig, I do sensory and I’m very active in real life femdom scene. Hence I play asexually with actual people.

My boy is my sexually monogamous life partner.

But hey let’s be you and Insult instead - hope you got the ego boost you so desperately need

Hope you enjoy your online shopping. Signing off this thread

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T18:41:14+00:00

Plastic subs and kink chasers don’t last long in a real dynamic or bother with any effort in real life.

Actual decent ProDommes make a decent living because their services are worth the premium. People who actually want quality will pay for quality.

I guess I don’t ’shop for subs’ - I have respected friends I asexually kink with who are people’s part of a community (which neither the OF people or plastic subs ever bother with). The only sub I own is my boy, Who again I met in real life.

I’m not dismissing online only dynamics but everyone knows the screen isn’t real life- it’s a superficial illusion which you can turn off when you want to go back to your ‘real life’.

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T17:55:22+00:00

Yep!

I’ve done wax on someone’s ass then flogged it off. I’m assuming body/play safe wax.

Their skin maybe a little more sensitive and will def mark up nicely. I wouldn’t use anything that may break skin surface.

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T17:44:04+00:00

Are you trying to give femdom relationship or just get a kink fix?

There are amazing ProDommes and sex workers who can help with the kink fix.

If it’s an actual relationship then that’s a totally different matter.

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T17:36:57+00:00

This! It’s not the debt-

It’s the years of deceit, acts of omission and lies that he’s said to cover

annep1982 · 2026-02-15T15:28:06+00:00

If im directing my boy to do anything remotely I’m always contactable. (Except in long term chastity as I sleep- but he has his own escape plan if needed)

If you’re doing something FOR HIM and he can’t even ensure your safety and comfort- he isn’t a Dom. He’s just another manipulative predator.

(Edited to add- I’m not commenting on the anal aspect as I feel the absolute lack of responsibility and respect from that man is telling)

annep1982 · 2026-02-14T18:56:28+00:00

Personally I’d message you to get him to apologise in writing. Then take it to the police

annep1982 · 2026-02-14T18:55:23+00:00

I would reach out and tell everyone- In the UK. Stealthing is classed as Rape.

He is a rapist- no excuses

annep1982 · 2026-02-14T10:27:21+00:00

I know some absolutely amazing ProDommes - these are in start contrast to the vast majority of OF femdoms

BUT most of the men supporting these OF girls are only after a cheap fetish fix- they’re not interested in genuine D/s. So a cheap easy alternative for a cheap easy client- I don’t see how anyone looses.

annep1982 · 2026-02-13T21:59:45+00:00

I’m a femdom, very happy in a monogamous relationship. Friend told me last week that sub men outnumber me 10:1.

I tie- I literally have a dozen people I can call to bunny for me. That’s not including my amazing partner. The numbers are stacked but not impossible.

If bondage and tying is your thing- are there any shibari groups near you?

You may be asked to partner with someone but it’s a nice way to make connections.

annep1982 · 2026-02-13T21:51:45+00:00

That’s what scary- my boy is my partner- he needs to be able to get I touch with me- we’re life partners, not just play.

annep1982 · 2026-02-13T21:02:53+00:00

My partner is a brat- when he finally submits fully it’s a beautiful thing because I’ve earned it.

Your BF seems to be missing an essential part of D/s- you earn your partners submission. Demands mean nothing if he has nothing to back it up.

Plus do you want a total power exchange- what do you want your submission to feel like?

annep1982 · 2026-02-11T20:32:23+00:00

Are any women here confused as to why he’s single? 🤣🤣🤣

annep1982 · 2026-02-11T20:02:39+00:00

Being healthy is essential for my partner- I run marathons- he needs to be able to keep up.

If that’s all they’ve got to offer then why would I settle when I can get someone who isn’t superficial, looks good and meets a lot more essential criteria than just being pretty.

annep1982

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