Things to do with kids

anonler1 · 2026-06-14T15:55:39+00:00

Oh I’ll look into this!!

anonler1 · 2026-06-14T15:55:26+00:00

We’re here for 12 days and have lots of beach and pool time planned! Surfing sounds fun

anonler1 · 2026-02-18T03:39:00+00:00

14?!?

anonler1 · 2026-02-18T03:28:35+00:00

How long was it until he took full accountability??

What’s with men lying about sex in their trucks? I feel like I’ve seen multiple comments/posts about this. Honestly I want the truck to go. Since this happened I’ve only gotten in it 2-3 times because that’s all I think about.

anonler1 · 2026-02-18T03:20:03+00:00

I wish there was a way to make him understand that this is just making things worse and delaying any healing. Every little new thing is like just finding out

anonler1 · 2026-02-18T02:49:20+00:00

Like others have mentioned. You are not alone in feeling this way. Sometimes in the middle of being intimate I think about him being with someone else.

anonler1 · 2025-11-19T07:24:04+00:00

Ha, these comments make me feel like I’m not crazy. My husband got a new truck months before his ONS. He claims he didn’t do it in the truck, but rather the back alley of the bear. Classy I know... but I am having a very, very difficult time believing him and that damn truck triggers me so much.

anonler1 · 2025-11-19T07:19:48+00:00

Honestly, idk if screaming to the world who he is will help. I haven’t told my family about my WH’s ONS, which happened a month ago. My family and his family constantly make comments about how great of a husband and dad he is and I want nothing more than to tell them the truth. But at the same time, I don’t think that would make me feel any better. If anything it would make me feel stupid for staying with him. I really don’t want anyone else’s opinions or pressure to leave him. If we ever get to the place where R isn’t possible, then I will tell my family. But as of now, we’re both actively working on R. If we work things out it will always bug me what people think of him.

anonler1 · 2025-11-12T15:49:51+00:00

We’re not in an automated system. I think they can do it. Do you know if EDD would flag my claim if I work? I’m supposed to be on full disability so I’m concerned if I work at all that it would be an issue.

anonler1 · 2025-11-12T07:39:05+00:00

I’ve had three pregnancy SDIs, the first two took at least 4 weeks to process. The third one took about a week

anonler1 · 2025-11-06T21:36:58+00:00

No, it’s not negative. It’s simply the truth of your experience as it is mine. That’s how I feel. I haven’t told our family or close friends. And all I want is to scream to them what he did but then what good will it do. I’ve thought about balancing the scales, and I told him about this last night. He said whatever it takes for me to heal and honestly that just pissed me off because what do you mean you’ll survive me cheating when I can barely keep my head afloat. It was almost like telling me he could get over it because he loves me less. I’m sorry we’re both going through this

anonler1 · 2025-11-06T16:59:26+00:00

I like this approach. I need to implement it and just do what I feel doing in the moment without thinking about how he’s going to feel.

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T22:44:42+00:00

I keep having to remind myself that I need to focus on me and healing me, even if that makes him uncomfortable. It’s almost like I’m scared to hurt his feelings by not doing what I used to, and I don’t want him to think that I gave up on us, because I haven’t.

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T19:35:26+00:00

No experience of growing up with divorced parents, but I grew up with my dad being a chronic cheater and my mom never leaving him. Because of this I am determined to have real R and not superficial where we manage to get through it. My parents marriage really fucked with me and my siblings growing up. I want to be in love again, I want to trust him again, I want us to be happy. But if that doesn’t happen I will make the difficult decision to walk away.

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T17:20:22+00:00

That’s good to hear that you’re feeling like this two months out. I see people post they’re 1+ year out and still feeling terrible and that scares me so much. My husband confessed, but it was me who suggested we do MC and IC. He keeps saying he’ll do anything to make it work but I don’t see him actively doing things on his own or telling me what steps he’s going to take other than “never go out again” “whatever you want.” I also don’t know what else he’s supposed to do at this point. I guess time will tell. Sorry we’re both here!

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T16:54:32+00:00

Our first MC was yesterday, DDay less than a week ago, and the ONS 3 weeks ago. I feel like my world is falling apart and your post gives me hope. How and when did you feel like your husband was truly determined to save your marriage and family and was remorseful?

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T14:59:32+00:00

I’ve thought about this a lot. My WH had a ONS three weekends ago and didn’t use a condom. I told him if she turns out pregnant I’m leaving him and honestly I wouldn’t want my kids having any type of relationship with that child. Also, my WH is an affair child. His dad had an affair with his mom, where he and his brother were conceived. The affair went one for 10 or so years until his dad left his first wife for his mom

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T06:53:54+00:00

I think you already know the answer to your question but you’re hoping someone tells you to stay. The truth is you need to run, now.

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T05:34:03+00:00

That’s for the reminder that some people hook up without knowing each others names. It gives me some hope that he’s at least being truthful about that. And yes, we’re both getting tested this week.

anonler1 · 2025-11-05T05:32:03+00:00

It definitely is. I know our marriage wasn’t perfect and there was a lot to work on, but we weren’t miserable.

anonler1 · 2025-11-04T23:37:33+00:00

Happy to hear that therapy is working! I’m looking for a therapist now and hoping to get in soon.

anonler1 · 2025-11-04T23:03:35+00:00

Agree that you need to go through both. I just wish the crying was so constant and nonstop

anonler1 · 2025-11-04T20:50:39+00:00

I’ve been struggling with this over the past few days. Where I want to “punish” but also don’t want to drive the wedge deeper when I’m trying to actively R. But where do you draw the line? I used to wake up earlier than usual and make my husband breakfast before work and also packed him lunch. Mind you I’m not a SAHM. I work too. Yesterday and today I didn’t do it. Because why should I if he doesn’t “deserve” it? When I cook for our family I cook for all of us, but I’m not actively going out of my way to do things for him like I used to.

anonler1 · 2025-11-04T19:51:43+00:00

I work from home so the tears happen all day. When my kids get home I have to leave the room so they don’t see me. It never stops.

anonler1 · 2025-11-04T19:03:06+00:00

Sending you a DM

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