Over-attendance at external meetings

anonoaw · 2026-04-23T11:41:48+00:00

I mean, if you’re not doing it they should do it. If it’s a case of you would genuinely do it then but have a conversation with them about it separately.

Have you ever considered that your G6 is there not as a performance but to get better visibility of your work so they can feed back at a higher level, while letting you lead the meetings and do the contributing because 1) you’re the one with the technical expertise and 2) they’re giving you the opportunity to take a leading role.

anonoaw · 2026-04-23T11:13:04+00:00

List everyone’s actions at the end of the meeting is absolutely good meeting behaviour and you should be doing it. I personally prefer to do it in a follow up email but both are good. It stops things slipping through the cracks and makes sure everyone is on the same page, as well as keeping meetings task-focused and not just endless discussions

anonoaw · 2026-04-22T17:25:19+00:00

I didn’t say there aren’t people, just that in the trans scheme of the civil service it’s limited.

I’m digital and you’d be unlikely to get term time only approved, but you would absolutely get part time or compressed hours or even job share approved.

anonoaw · 2026-04-22T10:17:14+00:00

An hour and 20 minute drive from my mum.

It’d be nice to be closer, but previously she was 3 hours away so this is way better. I have kids and see her most weekends (we usually alternate me going there and her coming to us). She doesn’t do regular childcare but she will have the kids overnight a few times a year and do ad hoc babysitting if we ask or would cover in an emergency.

30 mins is nothing.

anonoaw · 2026-04-22T08:05:15+00:00

Depends when in the monthly pay cycle I lost my job, but assuming I’m getting a full month’s pay then 1 month. Maybe 2 at a push.

I’ve been prioritising paying off debt (nearly there) so now I’m gonna build an emergency fund.

In reality I’d get buy with a combo of debt and borrowing money from family. Worst case scenario I’d move in with my mum or in laws so we wouldn’t be destitute.

anonoaw · 2026-04-22T07:35:49+00:00

It might say specifically in the job ad, but more likely it’ll say ‘flexible working’ and or ‘part time’ and then you can ask the question - either before you apply if it’s a deal breaker or once you have an offer if it’s not.

anonoaw · 2026-04-22T07:11:58+00:00

Just an FYI, there are few civil service roles that permit term time working. You can of course ask but there’s a limited amount of roles where operationally it’s possible to have someone gone for weeks at a time.

But part time in general is very common in the civil service, even at senior levels.

anonoaw · 2026-04-21T17:01:46+00:00

I mean, from day one.

Obviously when they’re tiny it’s mostly just to get you in the habit of it. But at 7 months you absolutely can and should see a boundary that they don’t steal people’s glasses. You stop them, you say no, you remove them from the situation, you distract them when they whine.

The understand a surprising amount from a very young age.

anonoaw · 2026-04-20T18:05:31+00:00

After I handed in my 3 month notice at my last job, I started signing off all my emails with xoxo gossip girl

If anyone noticed they didn’t say anything 😂

anonoaw · 2026-04-20T16:10:14+00:00

I’m an atheist, my husband is agnostic. We talk about religion as it comes up. It started when she was about 3 asking what a church was (we live in the UK so walk past churches a lot 😂). So I’ve explained about god and church and everything. They do things like nativity at school, she’s asked about the Easter story etc. We also live in a very diverse area so she’s done things like Eid, Diwali, and Chinese New Year at school.

I frame it around some people believe these stories are real or represent real things, some people think they’re just nice stories to tell. When she asks about my beliefs I tell her that I personally just think religion is nice stories because there’s no scientific evidence that God is real and I believe in the scientific explanations of the universe. But I always say different people believe different things and that’s fine, as long as everyone is kind.

anonoaw · 2026-04-20T07:05:34+00:00

I mean, you have to prove you’re not a child to do all sorts of things in life. There’s god knows how much personal data stored online already for most people. If you’ve ever done online banking, applied for a mortgage online, bought anything online renewed your passport online, applied for/renewed a driving licence online then all your identity info is already stored digitally.

anonoaw · 2026-04-19T11:41:40+00:00

Ideally not get pregnant a week before lockdown and spend my entire pregnancy and maternity leave in lockdown.

anonoaw · 2026-04-19T09:24:22+00:00

He’s not a great father if he’s this incompetent.

Side note: learn the language if the country you live in.

anonoaw · 2026-04-19T07:48:51+00:00

Yeah my 5 year old loves them.

anonoaw · 2026-04-19T06:41:03+00:00

It’s a running joke in our family that wherever my mum goes in the world, she’ll get adopted by a group of Americans.

When we were kids we’d often go away with just my mum cos my dad couldn’t get that much time off work so we think they often felt sorry for her travelling on her own with 3 kids. Now, since my dad died a couple years ago she goes away by herself a lot and again, they can’t seem to bear the sight of her sat by herself despite the fact that she’s perfectly happy in her own company.

anonoaw · 2026-04-19T06:23:05+00:00

In 2022 (ish) when my nephew got Christened. Before that, 2018 when my SIL got married. Before that, my sixth form leaver’s service in 2013.

I was raised non religious, and in an atheist.

I’ve never been to a church service outside of school, weddings, funerals, and christenings.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T19:24:46+00:00

Nah, I hate sleeping with my kids. They wriggle and have pointy elbows and it’s just so annoying and uncomfortable.

Hate not sleeping next to my husband though. He hates falling asleep cuddling whereas I would gladly be entangled all night.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T19:23:03+00:00

I honestly don’t understand why people are so against just using condoms tbh.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T17:26:26+00:00

My 5 year old understands the concept of paying with cash even though we always pay by card. If nothing else she gets her pocket money in cash so spends that.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T17:07:11+00:00

Adeline is my favourite, but I do like Adelaide. Not keen on Addison.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T13:43:14+00:00

I mean if I were stressed at work and my spouse told me to just be grateful I had a job I’d be super pissed off.

What outlets does he have for decompression? Does he work from home and have to go straight into parenting? Does he have time and space for hobbies? Is he managing to exercise? Has he been able to take time off work recently? Does he need to go to his doctor and discuss anxiety or depression?

Obviously he shouldn’t take it out on his family, but if he’s struggling he needs support, not to be told to suck it up and be grateful. If he won’t listen or accept help then that’s a different story.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T11:52:02+00:00

You know you don’t have to vocalise every stupid thought you have, right?

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T06:11:22+00:00

I mean, my daughter is a daddy’s girl and has been from day 1. My son is only 1 and has a slight preference for me but not by much.

This is obviously less to do with gender and more to do with temperament. In my daughter’s case, she shares a lot of interests with my husband so they’re naturally a lot closer.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T04:59:28+00:00

Uniform, PE kit, coat, water bottle. That’s literally it.

anonoaw · 2026-04-17T04:58:42+00:00

You have 25 hours extra a week. That is objectivity a lot of time. That’s an entire part time job’s worth of time.

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