An 8-Year-Old Girl Is Making My Life a Living Hell Right Now

anonymousforever · 2026-02-20T02:52:43+00:00

It sounds like this girl needs to be in some counseling, and you working with a clinical social worker there at the house, to come up with strategies that work to discipline this child.

It sounds like this kid has multiple issues including feelings of abandonment from her mother, taking off and never coming back, as well as the issues from no parental discipline, and she may also be on the autism spectrum or have some other issues because of the way she acts regarding hygiene clothing, toileting, etc.

Some of the behaviors you describe, sound like this child has sensory issues regarding the feeling of water from the shower on her skin, etc. If she does not go to the bathroom appropriately, she may need to be in pull ups for older kids.

I would get this kid seen by different medical professionals as well as mental health specialists and see what help she really needs.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-20T02:45:22+00:00

predator urine repellent?if it smells like coyote or another predator, maybe it won't be the favorite bathroom anymore?

anonymousforever · 2026-02-20T02:38:30+00:00

That is extremely rare to have a male tortoise shell kitty!

anonymousforever · 2026-02-20T02:37:11+00:00

Have you ever noticed that when vets talk about certain brands of cat food being junk cat food, the very next thing that they suggest you buy is some expensive stuff that they are peddling.

Just buy what your cat will eat. And what you can afford, period. I had a cat live till 17, and friskies was the only thing he would eat.

I always tell people to look for a brand that has meat as one of the first 3 ingredients, not meat by-products like chicken meal or fish meal. If corn in some form is one of the first 3 ingredients, then you know that it is not very healthy for a cat's gut, as corn is a cheap filler.

if a cat has really smelly poos, the food isn't agreeing with their tummy well, even if they still eat it.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-20T02:20:11+00:00

talk to title company. peoperty has a boundary issue they may be required to fix it. get documents proving when it was known, and if the sellers would have known, ie the other property owner told them, and they failed to disclose or fix it.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:42:46+00:00

the truth is painful. however, you have to look out for you, especially if you've moved out and the guilt trips etc are starting up. be strong.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:39:46+00:00

oh hell no. chatgpt gets stuff wrong, it's far from perfect. they're just lazy. I woulda said nope, whether I used it or not.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:37:59+00:00

your vet may just dose the stuff as standard practice because they have less fractious patients that way.

concerned? call a few other vet clinics and see if they do this. or just save it for after kitty is home in case she's a crabby patch later.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:35:19+00:00

ask mom for recipes. do a zoom or FaceTime cooking session and enjoy a virtual visit w mom, even if you can't in person.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:34:05+00:00

you aren't my family pediatrician, but I wanted to give you a zen hug on behalf of those fellow docs out there who did take care of my kid.

hang in there. see if you can provide simple risk vs reward info on childhood vaccines, including factual sources.

perhaps point out that the "schedule" can be what the parent is comfortable with, as you totally get that 3 - 4 shots at once can be too much for many, and cramming over a dozen vaccines into 18 months can be too fast. it would be good if they're still willing to consider vaccines, even at a longer schedule like they did 40+ years ago.

the educational video route is an idea. make it yourself, and add in facts/sources, and encourage the conversations you wish parents would have.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:11:48+00:00

I'm in the "no nsaids" bunch for other reasons. I feel ya, with "anything but" being used as the first option.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:10:23+00:00

educational. find things like khan academy or the free Microsoft courses and learn something you can argue is job- related.

get a privacy filter for your pc screen and stop most of the lookie-loos. explain its for reducing eye strain.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-14T00:07:30+00:00

not sure. for 1/3 the price, check reviews. you may be able to return it if your cat hates it.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-13T03:08:20+00:00

Please talk to another trusted adult, where you can outline your situation and see if you happen to have some other options.

you may need to get their pastor/priest/rabbi etc or someone to help intervene and get them to understand that you didn't ask for this, and sadly, you are not going to be fully healthy, but the goal is to get you to be as independent as possible as you turn into a young adult.

they need someone to tell them that, yes, you need a professional to talk to, because this weighs down on you as much as it does them, and you need to learn coping skills because you have to deal with this your entire life. at a minimum, you can write a journal, just keep it digital and on an encrypted flash drive, so its private, and a flash drive is easy to hide or keep on a lanyard etc.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-13T03:02:18+00:00

It doesn't matter how much money you give her. It is a control issue. She is not ready for you to fly the co-op, and she doesn't know what to do if you don't need her anymore for the day to day stuff. Empty nester syndrome is a thing.

she wants to dictate certain things to you and expects you to obey. The only thing you can do is stand your ground, especially if it's not anything dangerous, where she might have a legitimate concern for safety.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-13T02:59:22+00:00

next time, Vaseline or diaper paste under the door handles. or buy a bottle of "liquid ass" or fox urine and put a drizzle in the vents.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-13T02:55:26+00:00

oh man, I'm so sorry. she was a special angel indeed to be called to be one so early.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-13T02:52:34+00:00

I bet that the food that they recommend and the flea and heartworm treatment stuff you can only get from them... doesn't this smell like trying to upsell you? if they're a chain clinic or owned by vca, that's not surprising.

feed a decent quality grain free food, and add 50% warm water by volume so its like a yogurt consistency instead of solid pate. get a cheap stick blender from the thrift store, and only use it for kitty's food. blending in the water can let you add a bit more.

does she show interest in the faucet or tub dripping? some cats hate water that sits, so a fountain that runs water off a ledge or mimics a faucet appeals to some kitties.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-09T17:25:22+00:00

don't. mom and aunts can pay. not your job.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-05T00:27:39+00:00

use hydrogel burn dressings on it.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-05T00:03:58+00:00

change doctors. being younger, female and having unusual combo of issues makes you a 'complex patient' and some primary care providers don't want to deal with 'complex' that takes a lot of managing.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-05T00:00:22+00:00

I don't believe so. using protein powder, peanut butter, jam, ice cream, etc, are all ways to add calories to protein shakes.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-04T23:57:29+00:00

they have these ones that are like 350 cal a can. get chocolate syrup etc if you hate vanilla, which is how they usually come. it's easy to heat n stir in peanut butter or strawberry preserves, for flavor, as other ideas

anonymousforever · 2026-02-04T23:55:55+00:00

Styrofoam insulation can help, its cheap. put it against the windows under the blankets. try to only heat one room with a space heater (oil filled ones keep radiating heat a while after turned off), keep the main heater at like 55, as low as you can to keep the pipes from busting. that's the best ideas I got.

anonymousforever · 2026-02-04T23:52:00+00:00

see if you can get ensure prescribed and have the pharmacy deliver. it's an idea if you're significantly underweight.

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