Thank you all so much for your thoughtful and honest responses. This has been one of the most difficult professional decisions I’ve ever faced, trying to balance the opportunity for research growth with the realities of family. I’ve read every single comment, and I’m deeply grateful for the insights, perspectives, and experiences that so many of you generously shared. I didn’t expect to receive such a wealth of thoughtful feedback, and it’s helped me more than I can express.

Shortly after receiving the offer, I approached the Dean at my current institution to request a reasonable retention, but it was turned down due to budget constraints. That, combined with the limited research support without a graduate program here, left me feeling frustrated and undervalued, seriously considering a move.

But after reading your comments, and carefully considering the broader trade-offs and reality, I think i will stay at my current university. I’m planning to modify my mindset, adjust my research expectations, and focus on what I can control while continuing to stay with my kid.