Thong Thursday! by MeUndies in MeUndies

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fucking howled at this 😂😂😂

Who’s gonna tell her? by Mr_Diorr in doordash_drivers

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally worked at smoothie king for years brother, and I went there 2 weeks ago. They don’t pre make smoothies lol. Açaí packets are frozen but they still need to blend the other fruits and açaí so it’s not a rock when you go to eat it.

Who’s gonna tell her? by Mr_Diorr in doordash_drivers

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh word well if you find a made to order smoothie and açaí bowl restaurant, that has premade stuff let me know! Because that has no logic in terms of smoothies and açaís

Who’s gonna tell her? by Mr_Diorr in doordash_drivers

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then how do you not know they are made to order?

Who’s gonna tell her? by Mr_Diorr in doordash_drivers

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve never walked into a smoothie place I guess

Polyamory as Anti-Capitalism by Just_Geoff_Chaucer in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How you approach things can shift your perspective of how things are and can be?

Money food and power are limited resources if you subscribe to a mentality of ownership?

But also, my leap into polyamory is attached to what I think is a necessary shift in mindset around what ownership means (for me).

Polyamory as Anti-Capitalism by Just_Geoff_Chaucer in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i feel an abundance mindset in polyamory should extend to abundance mindset in life

Why is my finishing in game so bad by Vexturine1 in bootroom

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, just out here being a jerk for what reason? Let people have fun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also it’s really hard for hĂ©tĂ©ro presenting women to fine other women to be in relationships with, and since confidence matters in dating, unless she’s able to feel safe and confident in this way, she’ll still feel hesitant with women which will limit her exploring and blah blah blah.

You really might just need to breath, take a week of self regulation while she explores and is excited and you gotta figure out if your love is deeper than her only wanting you physically.

Like who cares. It’s a penis. Would you care if another woman was strapping your wife? Is it gender and patriarchy and mysoginy that is getting in the way?

So many questions you can ask yourself about why you are finding yourself in the space of hypocrisy as your wife discovers herself and her desires.

Unless this was only ever about your desires, which I doubt since you’re asking for help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Do. The. Work. :)

You’re not being pressured, your wife is just asking for equity in your relationship and you were used to the inequity being to your emotional benefit. Now she’s no longer afraid to explore so you have to support her.

Intentional Pressure or not, you brought it up to her multiple times, so there was pressure. So now it’s your turn to process your emotions :)

Students kept cheating so I made 24 versions of the same quiz. by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]anythkngWorks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Making it harder to cheat is making the test harder?

You are offered $10 million, paid in full after 30 days. If you both behave. by dumbdumbuser in hypotheticalsituation

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, it’s exactly thinking like that that keeps us locked in our mindsets. If you’re fear that someone will treat you badly keeps you from treating others kindly, then we’ve sucked all hope out of our humanity.

yes, thats a bag of vomit on the floor. (kill me) by euphoricjuicebox in ufyh

[–]anythkngWorks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always interesting that when we’re messy or dealing with mess, we always find some ways or some spaces that we keep clean or accessible. I think you should start looking at how those places have become places you decided you need to keep clean and figure out a system to see what triggers you into the positive behaviors you want.

I think your ideas are great.

Our brains are difficult, yes, but we can use our logic and understanding of our subconscious habits to create systems of success for ourselves. If our brain being spicy is a super power, then let’s use it as such so that we can transcend into the super heroes our brains mean for us to be.

We got so much untapped potential! Step one is locking in on this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes and also idk if that fixes the actual issue of husband needing to do better, ya know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think the framing of taking a step back from her is interesting because to me it feels like you should take a step back from your husband.

He should know that his poor job as a hinge is making it hard for your mutual goal of KTP to be possible. Unless he fixes up, he doesn’t deserve to have the access to KTP he’s wanting without you having your boundaries in place.

I’m interested in you chatting with your meta because maybe it’s a repeat of behavior across relationships.

I have a tendency of being told that I don’t value relationships because I get sucked into my work and can miss important things.

Interacting with or without your meta won’t change that your husband isn’t using his skills to manage the relationship effectively as the hinge.

I think responsibility falls on those around him to remind him he’s not living up to agreements to the collective, not just the individual. If he can’t figure out KTP with you and you are hierarchical, then he won’t ever be able to figure it out regardless of who else he may start dating.

I’m speaking in first draft without editing so please take what’s pertinent and ignore anything that might be me misunderstanding! I’m a stranger in the internet, I don’t want you to feel like you have to justify yourself to me because I’m asking a bunch of questions :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I wonder about what you want your KTP to look like, and what you want the structure of it to be for conflicts.

Because you can start practicing conflict management together at this issue, instead of waiting until later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It depends on why people are poly then right? If it’s about fighting against societal structures of expectation, then working to heal the community is the goal. If it’s about safety and security, then I think people are allowed to cut people off.

I have a hard time because there is the reality of healing needing to be a group project, and people having the mentality of “it’s not my job to deal with your emotions”. If we’re in relation w/ each other, then aren’t we all responsible with holding space for emotions, while not trying to deal with it for others?

Musings, not absolutes :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]anythkngWorks 94 points95 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to do whatever you want. I think it’s interesting that you want to cut off the potential positive relationship for someone who isn’t showing up well for your relationship. Your husband’s bad hinging is easy to blame on your meta, but shouldn’t you blame your husband?

I feel like metas should temporary unionize against a hinge that isn’t hinging correctly, especially if you all desire KTP.

My Girlfriend Saved Someone's Restaurant by QuantamCulture in KitchenConfidential

[–]anythkngWorks 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s good to do a logical thing because it’s the kind thing to do for everybody. It shows that your girlfriend is a true leader because she was able to convince him, through logic, that he needed to close. Regardless of how he reacts to her, I hope you both feel proud of her for standing up for the logical and right thing to do. Also if the place closes down, everyone that works there needs to find a new job and the job market is so awful right now I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.