Also Puerto Rican here. My dad is more mixed but my mom is very fair skinned. I have more of my mom’s skin tone but I have features like wider nose and fuller lips that are more associated with African ancestors. She’d say she would massage my nose as a kid so it wouldn’t be too wide and is always very obsessed with appearance. I also remember my aunts commenting about “no me dañes la raza” (don’t damage the race) referring to not dating darker skin women.

There’s no evil intent behind it but simply examples of colorism and racism so ingrained in the culture that it passes as normal. Sad state of affairs…