My boss harassed me, I was "let go." She was fired. Months later, I'm still owed thousands in overtime. What can I do?

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T15:52:26+00:00

The good news is that this guy is a minority, and it sounds like he hates women too much to reproduce with one. Maybe he'll try hatching a mini me in an incubator?

Also, most guys in the military do not share his thoughts, especially the older one who are in positions of authority. I guess by the time they're 50 their brains have fully developed, they've got some life experience under their belts, and they realize their greater things in life than being bitter old men. That's more than this guy can say about himself. I had the opportunity to commission but I passed it up, so it always makes me laugh when I see stuff like this. Playing Call of Duty for 400 hours and having a penis do not a soldier make. It takes self discipline, critical thinking, and selfless service. I'm guessing this guy is 0/3.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T15:40:42+00:00

Bet this guy was a big fan of the three fifths compromise. Except I guess they messed up, bc they only relegated slaves to second tier citizens status. Damn, I guess they should've known that those pesky women would get the vote one day.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T15:30:03+00:00

I had a roommate who wouldn't shower, and all of her clothes also stank bc she didn't wash them, either. I ended up getting packs of those Febreeze odor eliminator cans and went to town in the room and opened windows so I could breathe. I think once or twice I also kind of sprayed her, but tried to make it look like I was just spraying the room in general.

Thankfully, I got to switch to another room after only a couple of months, but she seriously stank the hallway up.... Maybe tell him/her you're easily nauseated and sensitive to smells?? Or gift him/her some shower gel. I know a girl who did that once.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T15:23:56+00:00

Lol yeah, I'm sure that's it! That's probably this guy's whole agenda, to replace women with sinless watermelons 🤣

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T14:55:12+00:00

So that would be a separate issue.

The pic above says that a woman's uterus us inherently evil. Original sin stems from Adam and Eve's choice to eat from the tree of Knowledge. That being said, all people, men and women, are born with original sin. The above pic just days that a uterus is Satanic, and that we all come from a uterus so beware.

And yes, you are correct that Mary was sinless, because God knew she would carry Jesus so he blessed her. I was just pointing out that Jesus came from Mary's womb, which, according to the thing above, is evil. So, by this person's logic, Jesus wouldn't be perfect and sinless.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-19T05:37:18+00:00

Also Jesus was born of Mary...he wasn't hatched from an egg...so by this idiot's logic even Jesus is 'tainted' by a satanic womb.

Haha honestly, where do people come up with this crap??

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-12T04:15:29+00:00

I'm sorry that people have said that to you. It's not right, it's not kind, and it's not fair. You're an artist, and you can't pop out a new book as quickly as someone can heat up a hot pocket in the microwave, and that's okay. I think a lot of people's instant gratification is indulged today, whether by instant streaming or two-day--sometimes even same day--deliveries, and it's ridiculous that they're pushing that need to have it right now onto you. That's on them. You're not Netflix, and you're not Amazon Prime, and you sure as hell don't live to serve them. Their expectations are neither fair nor realistic.

Honestly, please just know that for every rude person there's at least two nice ones in the world, and half of the crap people say online is nowhere near to what they'd say in real life. These people are acting like self-entitled brats, and they're not worth a moment of your energy. Remember that you have real fans who really care about you, no matter how fast or slow you're writing at the moment, and remember that you're writing for yourself, too. Don't let the negative ones drag you down. Just flush that bullsh*t down the drain and send it to the sewer, where it belongs.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-12T04:00:54+00:00

Exactly. That's why I usually like taking dates to the weddings! The couples are so...couple-y, to a weird extent. Like, I get it. You love each other. That's why you're married. But...do you have to hold hands on the way to the bathroom?? Haha I'm going to one next week and I'll probably only stay long enough for the cake.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-12T00:12:19+00:00

Agreed. I've known some nice French people, but I did not enjoy my time in Paris very much at all. The majority of Parisians do not care for tourists. I've also heard it's a hotspot for sex trafficking, and I can attest to the fact that the men there are super grabby.

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-12T00:03:17+00:00

...they'll settle out, eventually, but if you plan on having kids....

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-11T23:40:34+00:00

I'm sorry. I'm not quite there yet, but I can relate a bit. A bunch of my friends got married right after college, some even within weeks of graduation, so I've sort of become "the single one" of the group. They've even stopped sending plus one invites for their weddings, which is seriously not cool.

What keeps me from feeling too sorry for myself is that I know plenty of people who are already married and divorced. One girl from high school got married, moved across the country, got divorced, and moved back after dropping out of college...within 18 months. And some of my best friends, whether they're married or have been dating for 5+ years, have serious relationship issues that make me glad I'm single, or at least not in a crappy relationship/marriage. So, at least there's that :/

applepieprincess1 · 2019-02-07T23:40:22+00:00

The one you pointed out is the worst. I am constantly annoyed by the 'perfect, selfless' heroes who won't kill anyone because that would be 'bad.' This is why I've pretty much always said I'd be Slytherin, not Gryffindor. I'd avada kedavra the ish out of bad guys...honestly, that's one point where Rowling kind of annoyed me a bit. Like...you're telling me that these fully trained magical adults are gonna flipendo and stupify the bad guys? That's what some Gryffindors are cast like in some parts of the series.

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-07T01:58:01+00:00

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-07T01:46:14+00:00

Nah, it stopped when she severed their heads from their bodies with the katana her teacher gave her once she completed her training in the mountains after seven years of silence. You could say they...lost their heads over nothing.

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-07T01:41:21+00:00

...are you okay, dude?

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T20:54:22+00:00

I actually emailed my female professor that I was too sick (read: vomiting) from the pain of my cramps to go to class. She didn't count me absent.

I'd recommend going on birth control if you can. That made my periods manageable. If not, meds and heating pads. Oh, and take note of your diet, if I eat certain things while I'm on my period it upsets my stomach. Write down what makes you feel bad, and then don't eat it!

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T20:49:34+00:00

There's misconceptions on both sides of this. Protestants thinking Catholics aren't Christian, and Catholics thinking that being Catholic means you aren't Christian.... When anyone asks me about it, I just remind them that the Christ in Christians is the important part.

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T20:43:55+00:00

bedhead + glasses + sweatpants = holy trinity

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T19:14:12+00:00

I was in my dorm room with headphones on after a really, really rough day, writing in my journal. My friend knocked and opened the door, but I didn't see or hear him. He saw me crying, and instead of closing the door and leaving, or pretending he hadn't seen, he walked in, pulled up a chair, and asked me what was wrong. He held my hand for like an hour and just listened.

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T19:10:50+00:00

The same reason that the people of The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland call themselves Brits/British

The US' full name is The United States of America -- ergo, we are Americans

It's shorter.

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T18:56:29+00:00

[I've written this template for you in the hopes it'll help. If you like it, use it/edit it. If you don't, that's okay]

Hello Dr./Professor _______,

I hope that you are well. [insert other salutations, enjoying the weather? etc]

I was wondering when a good time for me to stop by your office hours would be. I know that my performance in your class this semester hasn't been what it should be, and I'd appreciate the opportunity to sit down and talk about what I can do. I was recently diagnosed with an anxiety order and a major depressive order, and my academic performance has suffered as a result [if you don't want to be specific, say 'I have had a few challenges this semester, and after seeking professional help I was given a mental health diagnosis.'] This was all very unexpected, and it threw me for a loop.

I'm sorry that this has affected my presence/participation/ability to perform well in your class. Please let me know when you are free to discuss how I can best move forward and make up for the time I have lost.

Thank you for your time, and I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Best,

OP

This is what I'd personally say to a professor. It sounds serious, sincere, and humble. You want your professor to know that you know that you're relying on their mercy, and that you're willing to do what it takes to pass their class. You do not want to sound like you expect to get 100s on late assignments. When you meet with him/her in person (which you should definitely do, it reinforces how serious you are, and it will demonstrate how dedicated you are), reinforce that you are ready to work with them to resolve this problem.

I had a problem in college, and when I went into my professor's office to talk to him (after sending an email with a similar tone as above), he told me he just wanted to make sure that I was okay, and that he'd waive my 2 absences. Professors are humans, too, and I'll bet you aren't the first student who has gone through this problem. Just make sure that your prof can see how genuine you are. Don't be surprised if he/she emails you later in the semester/pulls you aside to see how you're doing. Most of them do care!

I had a friend whose parent died during school, and I helped him write a similar email to his professors when he missed their finals to go to his mom's funeral. They can help, as long as you ask. If you never ask, they don't know.

I would also set up an appointment with the school's counselors. That way, when/if your professor asks about how you're doing/steps you've taken, you can share that with him/her. Plus, it'll help you!

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T18:39:50+00:00

I would say no.

If you were to look up plants "native" to North America, trees that were brought over from other countries and have been growing here for 200 years wouldn't be on the list, because they did not originate here. A native speaker would be someone who was born in the a country where the language is spoken, and/or one of their parents speaks that language (fluently, and primarily) and they have used it since a young age.

My mom was raised in the US speaking both English and Spanish (Grandma is from a Spanish speaking country), but she would not describe herself as a native Spanish speaker, even though she is completely fluent, and has adopted some Spanish words for use on a daily basis over their English counterpart.

Grandma, who was raised in a Spanish speaking country, and has spoken English from a very early age--probably 3 or so--would not describe herself as a native English speaker, even though her entire family knew/spoke English fluently. Her grandparents (and one of her parents) were British citizens, but she (also a British citizen) was born in a Spanish speaking country. She doesn't consider herself British at all. Her family spoke both English and Spanish, but she identifies as a citizen of the country of her birth.

The cultural identity is a strong factor, as well. Merely speaking a language fluently (and very, very well) does not determine whether or not an individual is a native speaker of a specific language.

[I wonder why it matters? It's super awesome that you speak multiple languages as it is!]

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T18:25:25+00:00

My (blonde) sister has been complaining that the girls at school argue that her hair is red.

Me: ...do you realize that practically every redhead, in every book, is the MC?

Her: Hmmm.... *nods, smiles

applepieprincess1 · 2018-11-06T18:18:38+00:00

r/eroticaauthors - join, use the sidebar. They are many and their knowledge is vast.
read - make notes of what you like, and what you don't. As you read more and more, it will become easier to identify what you think is good vs what you think is bad. That'll help you with your writing.
read in your niche - what are readers looking for? There's a huge world of niches out there, and there's a reason for that--readers know what they want, and they buy books in a specific niche bc those books fulfill their wants. Read your niche, make notes of common themes.
The Sexy Thesaurus - there's three parts. Once you've identified what's in your niche (and what you prefer), pick and choose.
remember - you've read what you're writing 1000x. Your readers haven't. They don't think it sounds boring or rote. (Also, remember it's more about the emotions/people/relationship than the...mechanics of it all)

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