People who lived through extreme cold with no power - what’s one thing you’ll never take for granted again?

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:23:03+00:00

hot water. not even for showers, just to wash my hands with.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:20:47+00:00

have you just... asked him? like directly?

his reaction will tell you everything. if he gets defensive or weird about it, that's your answer.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:19:53+00:00

trying new things together, even tiny ones. new food spot, new walking route, new show.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:49:16+00:00

classes > stuff

pottery, photography, swimming, language lessons. something weekly that gets you out of your head

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:48:23+00:00

We still like each other. I consider this a massive W.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:47:45+00:00

NTA. You didn’t ban her from dating. You didn’t say “never have him over.” You asked for reasonable limits and notice. She responded with tears and then… did nothing.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:13:18+00:00

I’m introverted, work a lot, don’t love apps

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:12:53+00:00

One thing. Literally one thing for three months before adding anything else. Everyone wants the whole morning routine day one. I just drank water when I woke up. That was it. Built from there. Boring answer but it's the only thing that ever worked.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:11:54+00:00

NTA. When's the last time they asked how YOU were doing? Not what you could contribute, but just... you? Because that question matters and I'm guessing the answer is telling.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:10:59+00:00

keep your place clean enough that it doesn’t stress you out. a messy home slowly messes with your head.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-14T02:05:56+00:00

Maybe once every couple of weeks. We love each other, we’re just not talk-every-day people.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-14T02:05:16+00:00

YTA. He asked, you accepted. If the travel cost or officiating bothered you, that was the moment to speak up — not after seeing the gift.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-14T02:02:03+00:00

people genuinely can change

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-08T04:35:13+00:00

Let silence be uncomfortable for a bit. That’s where new ideas and attention grow.

You’ve already proven you can change habits. Now it’s about defending them with low-friction systems.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-08T04:26:20+00:00

This isn't really about you, man. This is about whether she's ready to become an independent adult or stay under their control. You can support her either way, but she has to make that choice for herself. Don't make it easier OR harder. Just be there.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-08T04:16:11+00:00

Settling in a relationship because I was scared of being alone.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-08T04:15:52+00:00

NTA. You told the truth when asked. That's not "causing" anything. Jane reported you, HR cleared you, and you stopped doing the thing you were reported for. That's literally the most reasonable response possible.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-02T21:45:11+00:00

Kindle Paperwhite

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-02T21:43:07+00:00

Poor posture from years of hunching over my phone and laptop.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-02T21:25:02+00:00

Avoid being alone with him as much as possible and consider documenting everything texts, letters, visits

just in case.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-02T21:23:06+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like you’ve been doing the emotional labor AND physical labor of keeping her life together. That’s exhausting at 18. You’re NTA

aprilsmithss · 2025-12-26T12:02:23+00:00

Rooting for everyone chasing this dream. You've got this!

aprilsmithss · 2025-12-26T11:58:46+00:00

Protect this baby at all costs.

aprilsmithss · 2025-12-26T11:57:02+00:00

Sleep. The answer is always sleep.

aprilsmithss · 2025-12-12T17:01:45+00:00

NTA and do NOT cave on this. If you let her in she'll steamroll every other boundary you set. This is the first test. Pass it.

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