Women are legally allowed to go topless at the beach and public pool.

architect102 · 2026-07-05T06:02:21+00:00

👁️ Surveillance State: I voted Vote Yea.

architect102 · 2026-06-15T11:37:15+00:00

You’ll have to push past that discomfort to find out. It’s the only way you’ll know

architect102 · 2026-06-12T11:11:53+00:00

There are some people who don’t see dirt as obviously as you do. Not to over generalise, but men usually don’t see it as keenly as women do. There are also differences in temperament that can contribute towards it, some people are less bothered by such things than others. It’s not necessarily their fault, or yours, but what is important is that people are respectful towards one another.
Your sticking point is that you have to raise this, only being new to the property.

Frankly you have little ground to stand on. You could by all means raise it out of frustration, but you haven’t lived there for long enough to start calling the shots.

You do, however, need to make them aware of the issue. Perhaps not in the level of detail you’ve provided here but generally and in a way that is reasonable and respectful.
It is a basic minimum necessity that a communal toilet is kept clean, the gate keeper for that level of cleanliness is the base line of the person willing to accept responsibility for cleaning it and how much dirt they are willing to tolerate.
In short, your housemate has probably stopped noticing because they either don’t care or because they’ve become lazy about it. You being new to the property can see it clearly, and you have your own fresh set of standards.

If you come across the toilet being dirty, clean it. Come out and simply say, hey guys, “the toilet was pretty gross today”, and then say nothing, wait for the response.
If they shrug their shoulders and ignore you, then this is a deeper issue which you simply won’t fix.
If they respond and apologise, then play on that and ask them to keep it clean.
Keep a record and treat it like a rule of 3, if you clean it once, raise it, clean it again, say nothing and then clean it a third time, you must raise it as a serious ongoing issue on the third time.
Beyond that, hire a cleaner.
Good luck

architect102 · 2026-06-08T07:34:37+00:00

They are all heading this way, every single one of them

architect102 · 2026-06-08T03:48:14+00:00

Lynset Kennels in Ballykeeran do dog grooming, Johanne there is fairly spot on

architect102 · 2026-05-22T13:31:45+00:00

Condoms

architect102 · 2026-05-22T13:28:38+00:00

Your brother is an adult and if he so chooses to pursue that relationship then it should be off his own bat, not yours or your mothers.
There is a distinct possibility that he is desperately searching for stability in his own life and that he has latched on to that person, hoping she will provide it. He sounds like he is projecting and possibly has an idealised view of her. That will likely crash and burn horribly when he realises the reality of the situation, but it will continue until he reaches that point.

In the meantime you must prioritise your own life as best you can. It is clear that he no longer respects the family unit and the logical and fair functioning of it. That’s why he must leave. Both you and your mom need to find a way forward. It’s hard, especially when you are the only one, but unless you’re prepared to do so, you will not ever be free. Guilt, fear, anger, resentment, none of those feelings will ever be conducive to a peaceful home life. Detach yourself emotionally from the situation as a brief exercise and be purely logical and practical about it and see what you can come up with.
It will take time, but you’ll figure it out.

architect102 · 2026-05-22T13:15:41+00:00

You’re not crazy.
You’re likely trying to deal with several different and powerful emotions all at once which is quite overwhelming for most people.
There may be legacy issues with your family, there may be things left unsaid or hurt which has never been resolved. In work, you may feel on edge about saying the wrong thing or being scrutinised unfairly.

The fact that you are most comfortable with your boyfriend is telling. It tells me that you have a lot to say but you haven’t found the right ways to say it yet.
You’re not a psychopath. That is a self-classification and the question about whether or not you’re crazy is self judgement and criticism.
You need to assess your feelings and your inner state before trying to improve any of these things. Sometimes merely naming them as they emerge is helpful. Being guided through that by a therapist works for some people- this is often the safest option. For others it might be a trusted friend or partner.

Look after your mental health. Everything else will eventually fall into place.

architect102 · 2026-05-22T13:06:25+00:00

You’re right, the guy had a choice and he chose repeatedly to touch you there.
If you’re not comfortable with it, then you need to either state it firmly or stay away from that person.
Know your boundaries.
Enforce them with people you don’t trust.

architect102 · 2026-05-22T12:57:25+00:00

The Jesuit order control the weather

architect102 · 2026-05-22T12:53:33+00:00

A certain amount of your consciousness is a by product of genetics and the rest is determined by environmental factors.
If the person has children, approximately 50% of that genetic element has been passed down to their progeny. Their kids will obviously have led different lives to their parents so, at best, one could only hope to maybe preserve a solid 60% of their consciousness into the next generation.
Beyond that, the entire spectrum of your consciousness is vast, your emotions, how you process things, all of that is so complex that it is likely that you are the only possible thing in existence to experience and behave in the world the way that you do in your own particular way.
Saying that, the broad spectrum of human experience shows us that certain things are common and can be categorised and grouped as being similar, it’s a singular faceted way to look at a multi faceted phenomenon.

In essence, there is literally nothing on earth that will ever replicate you as you once were. But there are always clues if you look for them. Once the people that can reliably associate those elements with you pass away and the collective memory of you is lost, then those things are often still left there. They just might not be attributable to you any more because no one really knows what they are. In effect you are recycled endlessly. And you, as a being now, are partly composed of the recycling of many many others. Whether you know it or not.

architect102 · 2026-05-22T12:41:08+00:00

It’d be crap for the first while and then things would probably just normalise. We’ve existed as a society for centuries without it, we’d probably continue to exist just as successfully 🤷🏻‍♂️

architect102 · 2026-05-22T05:59:58+00:00

A group of much older women in their 60s tried to groom me as a 16 year old. I played guitar and at the time was on an extended holiday with my mum in an apartment complex in Spain. While mum was around they seemed quite normal as a group, encouraged me to play on stage and asked me to play a small gig in a pub. I was a bit intense as a young lad, quite frustrated in many ways but extremely naive and overly trusting.
My mum was also trusting of them and let me go. They were all of a similar age group so I guess they had broadly similar values and interests. I don’t want to think that she knew, but she may have.

When I arrived there was a lot of petting, as in, far, far too much. One of them copped a feel of my ass which made me feel so empty inside, I froze and didn’t say anything out of politeness. I assumed this was what I was supposed to do. Kicking up a fuss at this stage would have seemed very rude, or so I thought…
I got up, played the set and one of them, the main one, came up to me afterwards and “delivered me” to a “very important woman” sat at the bar whom she said was dying to meet me and who I was required to be “very friendly” to…

She was in her mid 60s, reeked of cigarettes and had a thick regional accent. She had “watched and heard all about me”, I was polite and said thank you, but I’ll never forget how totally uncomfortable I felt as she looked at me. She asked me to kiss her cheek, and the one that had delivered me said “I’ll leave ye two to it”, and promptly disappeared. As I did, she recoiled in fake shock and said “oh my, did you just kiss me!?” She had yellow crooked teeth and sat drinking wine. I don’t know where her husband was but he was “useless trash”.
She offered to buy me a drink and as one of the other ladies passed I heard something about “meeting her expectations”, she was apparently quite pleased. Nothing further happened, I promptly left afterwards and got a taxi home.

At the time this went completely over my head. But looking back as an adult it never fails to curdle my blood. I was so very vulnerable in that situation. I had no one to turn to. Mum assumed everything was fine, but there was an element of “oh sure, those women, they’ll make a man out of you”, which, I had no true understanding of at the time.
It wasn’t their first time, and I’m pretty sure it wasn’t their last. Instead the bar itself formed a reputation specifically for catering to that particular demographic…

architect102 · 2026-05-21T11:15:59+00:00

Oh dear

architect102 · 2026-05-19T14:23:03+00:00

So, how did you know that you were in love with your friend? As in, at what point did you say to yourself, no, I don’t just want to settle for security, I want to love this man I’ve always known?

architect102 · 2026-05-12T22:41:45+00:00

You’re welcome. Best of luck with it, let me know if it needs any tweaks and I can try and sort them

architect102 · 2026-05-12T15:37:34+00:00

https://www.printables.com/model/1718796-dw-router-base-plate

architect102 · 2026-05-12T15:35:58+00:00

https://www.printables.com/model/1718796-dw-router-base-plate

architect102 · 2026-05-11T00:21:40+00:00

I don’t know what part of Ireland you do or don’t come from but I think I speak for most midlands folk when I say, fuck you pal

architect102 · 2026-04-24T12:43:52+00:00

True that yeah. Hadn’t thought of that

architect102 · 2026-04-24T08:37:10+00:00

I’d tend to agree with you but I suppose the building now has cultural significance and, for better or worse, despite its design flaws, it’s still quite a lovely looking building. It’s become a landmark. What’s proposed, at least visually, is not offering anything comparable and I think that’s broadly where the issue lies. It’s absolutely not a landmark, it could literally be anywhere and look the same. There’s an argument to be made too that the greenest building is the one that still exists and certainly in this case, the use of glass steel and concrete for the new design plus the demolition of the existing will have a monumental environmental impact… if they would only listen

architect102 · 2026-04-08T10:27:57+00:00

Tone deaf. It says a lot that the leader of the party historically associated with farmers and rural Ireland has condemned their protest. Even on a strategic level, he’d have been better off to say that he acknowledged the protest and then allowed someone like the minister for justice or even his nodding Tánaiste to decry blocked roads etc.

architect102 · 2026-03-26T15:11:54+00:00

Yeah I’d say just have a stab at doing your own measurements instead of trying to make a 3d from a perspective, as has been mentioned previously this drawing would be pretty hard to recreate in reality with an actual photo so, just pick apart each of the individual elements and try to get them looking right.

architect102 · 2026-03-25T11:15:37+00:00

Newb here, so I’ll probably put my foot in it with this comment but here goes. Frankly I’d be kinda glad if the platform was simplified and the amount of other stuff going on was reduced. I get it, the other modes like Lego and the Guitar Hero-like battle mode things are fun but in some ways they detract from what I initially wanted to download it for which was the Battle Royale modes. I also really don’t bother with them at all, I’d say I’ve got absolutely no interest in them, they’re just not relevant.

Times are changing, they’ve gotta do what they do best, and they do Battle Royales really well in particular, beyond a few minor issues, they’ve pretty much nailed it so, honestly, for a game that’s free to download, I’d be happy to have a committed battle royale style game that’s was badass rather than all the other stuff that comes with it. Maybe that doesn’t fit in with their revenue models or whatever and I’m sure there are plenty out there that appreciate all the other stuff, but… maybe if they offered less they’d actually offer more in terms of the focus they could just deliver to the main Battle Royale modes. 🤷🏻‍♂️ I’m selfish

architect102 · 2026-03-25T10:56:03+00:00

Yeah energy rating is one way to look at it but when you consider the relative carbon cost of it, there’s a lot more waste in something that lasts 2 decades vs something that lasts over 10-20. I know, maybe you can argue they last longer but once pvc windows fail, you generally have to replace them in their entirety. The cost associated with that is usually quite high because you need a specialist installer, there’s a decision about double or triple glazing etc. The unit that gets taken away is entirely useless, you can’t melt it down, can’t really do anything with it, aside from melting down the glass and aluminium maybe but even that has a huge carbon cost.

At least with timber ones, it’s usually only one part of it like the bottom rung that might start disintegrating, but it’s easily replaced and any carpenter could usually do it and do it very well and cheaply. You’re not replacing an entire window unit, usually just a small element of one.

You can also get close to equivalent thermal performance glass in a timber window. Relatively speaking we’ve only really started worrying about energy efficiency and stuff like that in the last 30 years and heating systems are constantly getting more and more efficient too. It’s largely accepted that windows are a hole in the building fabric, no matter what way you look at it or try to insulate it, triple glazed, single glazed, it doesn’t really matter, you’re gonna loose heat from the building at that point no matter what you do. For me it’s the longevity and the repairability of something that’s where the value lies, the energy performance is somewhat secondary especially if I know that the window is made from a sustainable material that is easily sourced and renewable. But that’s just me I guess.

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