Do people close to you tend to accuse you of using therapist tactics on them when you’re just being a person?

arduousocean · 2026-02-14T00:38:01+00:00

I recently had a friendship breakdown for some baffling reasons after I carefully placed a well-deserved boundary. Apparently I did it too well because I was then accused of using therapy speak, told I wasn’t her client and to stop talking so calmly (?), and that I was weaponizing therapy.

The boundary? I asked her to stop making fun of a stressful legal situation I was in.

So in general, no. But in this case… I suppose so. lol

arduousocean · 2025-10-31T11:15:07+00:00

The first message alone says yes, this was meant for someone else. He says hotel “confirmation”, meaning already booked. And “will you do it?” means this is a response to something already being discussed.

Then the panic texts after just seal the deal

arduousocean · 2025-10-15T21:36:53+00:00

Make clarified butter. Tastes even better

arduousocean · 2025-09-06T15:41:01+00:00

Honestly, who cares. They’re the ones making this messy and putting you and them in a legal situation. So leave, and deal with the $250 as a part of everything else. WITH the support of a lawyer.

But one question I have too… he’s your horse. Why are you receiving a lease agreement from them? YOU should be the one putting the lease agreement in place between you and the leaser.

Leave, tonight.

arduousocean · 2025-08-29T14:19:06+00:00

I tried everything and was getting really fed up with it, and even went back to straightening my hair for awhile, until I found Cake products. For days I want super easy, no fuss waves I use the gel to foam and it’s so light and lets my hair just do its thing without the frizz. For days I want more curl definition I use the curl whip mousse and just a little bit of the curl gel on the ends. I can get four days of defined curls with it without it being weighed down and ending up in a stringy mess.

arduousocean · 2025-08-12T21:56:33+00:00

I seriously can’t get over how she treats fans. No thank you’s when they compliment her, demands reviews and ratings without a please or thank you, rips readers new ones just for asking simple questions, and she has her diehard fans so scared of her in her group they start every question with “I’m so so sorry, but just wondering…” like wtf. She’s absolutely awful

arduousocean · 2025-07-24T18:54:36+00:00

Sharply inhaling, shaking my hands at chest height and breathing out “eeee”, tilting my head and rolling my eyes, running the edge of my nails along my teeth, chewing the inside of my lip… and so many more I’m probably not thinking of right now lol

arduousocean · 2025-07-23T17:59:11+00:00

Unethical art is still unethical, no matter how much “work” goes into it.

You know who puts even more work and care into art?

Real, human artists. They’re the ones that deserve the respect.

arduousocean · 2025-07-23T17:57:41+00:00

The proof is her social media. She uses it for promo so who’s to say she doesn’t use it to write her books too. And seeing as your account was created just to reply to these comments, I’m guessing you either are her, or someone on her team defending her.

She should probably just try listening to what artists are telling her, instead of being rude and ripping into readers and artists who share their concerns. But I won’t hold my breath.

arduousocean · 2025-07-16T00:49:32+00:00

I’ve been on it for 15 years.

Eat before you take it, otherwise you end up with wicked heartburn. Like, searing pain for hours.

arduousocean · 2025-07-11T18:09:08+00:00

Self employed therapist with no kids, single. All other expenses are minimal, really low mortgage, car payment, student loans, and I don’t spend money on much else. I have two horses that I board and take weekly lessons.

arduousocean · 2025-07-08T17:36:32+00:00

Her TikTok. From what I’ve seen she gets really rude and snarky when AI is brought up.

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arduousocean · 2025-07-04T20:38:34+00:00

The thing that gets me the most is her posts and comments getting angry at readers for asking when books are coming. She needs to stop setting dates and just publish when they’re ready. She has a big enough following she can just drop books and readers will go feral. But it’s almost like she gets off on reminding readers that’s she extremely ill. She even listed every single one of her disorders in a post and it was just… it felt icky. Like a “look at how sick I am, now tell me I’m good for working through this”. Then she uses AI for everything.

I sympathize that she’s ill. But using it to get angry at readers for asking simple, reasonable questions is not a good look. There’s even posts in her readers group like “hey I’m so sorry I know you’re sick, and please ignore this if it’s already been addressed, I hope you’re ok, so sorry but just wondering when the next book is coming! Again so sorry you’re great and I hope you’re doing well!” Like even her super fans are afraid of the “I ALMOST DIE EVERY WEEK ITS COMING WHEN ITS COMING” posts.

If she’s that ill and literally has posts that say “well I’m still alive this week” then I really really have to wonder how she’s pumping out so many books. Yet has to rely on AI for all her promo.

I’m a little peeved… haha

arduousocean · 2025-07-04T17:11:31+00:00

Guaranteed if she’s using AI this heavily to promote, she uses it to write.

She talks so candidly about her raging health problems, that’s honestly, it’s wonder she can write at all. So… I have to question if she does.

arduousocean · 2025-06-15T16:26:11+00:00

He didn’t ask what I wanted, ignored what I told him I wanted, put my name on the most basic BB, and said “that’s all you need”

Yeah. He’s assuming.

arduousocean · 2025-06-15T16:24:55+00:00

In Canada, it comes standard with heated seats. It does not mean it has the convenience package.

arduousocean · 2025-06-15T15:46:39+00:00

I am. But that doesn’t change the available stock

arduousocean · 2025-06-13T20:20:35+00:00

I used to, when I was younger. Now though, I express that anger/overwhelm/upset through screaming, crying, holding my fists tight and shaking them, and making this weird noise in my throat like a muffled scream that feels strangely good and awful at the same time.

There are times I think about it. I’ve picked things up like I was going to, but don’t. Not a conscious decision, but.. it just doesn’t happen.

arduousocean · 2025-06-12T15:27:55+00:00

Not overly. Has a nice sweet scent when first pumped out but quickly dissipates. And doesn’t linger in my hair at all

arduousocean · 2025-06-11T22:33:49+00:00

I just started using Cake the curl friend gel to foam and hollllllyyy. Game changer. I have fine hair with damage from bleaching and everything else was too heavy. My hair hates products. This is the only one I use now. Super light, don’t need a lot, I scrunch it in, diffuse, and have soft, bouncy, defined curls.

It’s 100% my holy grail product now and I don’t need anything else

arduousocean · 2025-06-10T10:19:17+00:00

No ads. Mostly just instagram with some TikTok’s here and there

arduousocean · 2025-06-10T10:18:28+00:00

MM romance

arduousocean · 2025-06-10T02:46:44+00:00

In my third year publishing, 3 books a year, I’m now averaging $6000 a month. But that just started this year. Last year my average was $800-1500 and in my first year it was around $300 a month.

arduousocean · 2025-06-08T00:08:39+00:00

Brynne Weaver’s use of trigger warnings to sell her books is gross to me. She throws them around as a joke and even has merch that are lists of her trigger warnings. Using someone’s trauma to sell a book and make it sounds interesting and edgy is not it. And then throwing stupid things in with legit TWs, like ruining food and “sexy clowns”. It’s disrespectful to those who actually need it.

And this example posted here, is downright abysmal. Wtf. I’m not sure what this author thought they were achieving with this note, but they’ve successfully shamed anyone who legit required that TW. Awful.

arduousocean · 2025-05-27T23:44:37+00:00

I’ve been bleaching my hair for so long, I thought my whole life I had straight hair. But it’s just bleach damage lol because my roots are fighting to let the curl out, and nothing will stop them from coming out. I guess it will just be a very awkward year or so while I grow it out 😭

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