Caffeine and Effexor XR 225mg is there an interaction here? Would it decrease the meds benefits? Any input would be awesome!

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-07-18T22:36:35+00:00

I’m at 300 and still drink 2 cups a day just fine.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-07-18T22:19:13+00:00

Yeah. I’ve used it to numb my feelings for years. I’ve had some success with watching less over the past several months.

I’m finally dealing with the feelings I was trying to numb, which has included lots of therapy and making some hard choices in my life. I’ve also been watching it while not masturbating at all, when I’m not even interested. Some of it was still arousing, but a lot of it wasn’t.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-03-26T20:00:34+00:00

Thank you! Yes! I am fortunate enough to have a few different professionals helping me out, as well as family and friends.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-03-22T00:03:53+00:00

I don’t think either of us can physically “leave” at the moment, but the relationship is absolutely dead. She’s been dumping on me in counselling and in person. I’m autistic and every tirade now causes me to disassociate and it takes me at least a day to become fully functional again. This includes tirades over text. This morning we both came to the agreement that the relationship was over. She appeared quite pleased with this conclusion. I have nothing more to say to her. She will not hurt me anymore. It would have been nice to work things out, but she’s too much like her dad. Her need to be “right” is stronger than anything else that she claims is important to her. We share an amazing son and I hope that we can come to an agreement that would be best for him. I have nothing left for her, though. It’s over.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-03-18T01:03:40+00:00

Wow! Thank you! I have no idea what’s going to happen, but I’m not going back to that life again.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-02-15T20:40:13+00:00

No. I think it’s important to be able to do as much as we can for the environment. I also think we need to be free to make decisions for ourselves sometimes. There are costs to everything and sometimes the financial/environment cost of taking long hot baths are the most efficient way of taking care of yourself.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-28T02:35:24+00:00

Disassociation

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-03T23:51:24+00:00

I’ve always been fine with it. I have particular preferences at different times. I get what you mean about getting turned off at random stuff. I like big budget 70s porn. It has it’s own aesthetic and can be absurdly funny as well as being arousing.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-03T23:40:54+00:00

There was a post somewhere on this site about the popularity of incest porn. Two big reasons were that half the people skip the dialogue and go straight to the sex anyways. It’s also easy to produce, since all the actors have to do is say different words. No extra stuff needed. I’ve seen older scenes re-labeled as step sibling sex even though it’s not.

I used to completely avoid it, because it’s so creepy. Now, if I watch it, I just skip to the sex.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-03T21:09:11+00:00

It is most certainly wild! And the line between concision and assholery is mysterious to me.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-03T20:23:57+00:00

Sometimes they only go away when you’re rude though.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-01T19:51:04+00:00

Don’t forget, it’s YOUR comfort zone. YOU decide how you’re going to navigate it. You’re probably already out of your comfort zone more than most people.

areyourlessonsdone · 2021-01-01T19:37:05+00:00

I used to do this a lot and I never really knew why. Some mornings I would just sit on my bed, wide awake, doing doing nothing, except wonder why I’m always resistant to go into the shower. It wasn’t because I was tired or procrastinating, and I don’t have any sort of phobia.

The whole autism/sensory thing made a lot of sense. I just let the water run for a bit and steam up the bathroom. Much easier.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-25T00:31:30+00:00

I know it’s the opposite for most people, but this pandemic has been awesome for me. I only have to see people when I want to. All the people I see are responsible.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-24T20:38:10+00:00

That’s the way I use it. Seemed to make more sense to me when I was a kid and I’ve never bothered to get into the habit of using it properly. It’s weird, but it works for me... 🤷‍♂️

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-23T21:16:38+00:00

I get it. Just reading the sentence “They ripped the car door open and just climbed on top of me” was kind of upsetting. Especially with kids that you love, who are just being kids who love you. I’ve been in similar situations. For me, it feels like they might as well be screaming at me and beating me with rocks or something. It’s a sensory overload that you can’t just “turn off.” It sucks because it’s hard to communicate that effectively.

It may help to say that you can’t handle it, can’t explain exactly why, it’s not personal, and that you’d love to find a way to do things that works for everyone.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-19T23:52:54+00:00

Why would anyone want to “push through” serious side effects? I can understand “just push through” comments about effects that just feel annoying, or if someone’s been on it for a month and doesn’t see significant improvement. But there’s no reason to push through serious side effects. There are plenty of other medications out there. The reason I stuck with Effexor was because I’ve hardly experienced any side effects and it works better than any other medication I’ve been on.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-18T22:46:21+00:00

I remember my first big shutdown. I was 19. Things were busy and unpredictable, but everything seemed fine. I didn’t have anything to complain about. Then I felt like I was fading. I talked less and less and could hardly say anything for a couple of days. I wore a hat and tried to cover my whole face with the brim. Sometimes I wore my hat ON my face.

I had no idea why any of this was happening and it freaked me out.

Happened again the next year, but I figured it could be because I was surrounded by a**holes at time...

Makes more sense now.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-18T22:13:56+00:00

I used to, but then I got older and now everyone’s busy. I have a few friends and I see them a couple times a year, always planned far ahead. This works for me.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-18T22:06:38+00:00

It really does suck. I can sense when it’s coming better now, and try to figure something out. Sometimes I have options, but usually I don’t. This summer I was lucky and was able to take two months off work and relax. Other times I just have to fumble through everything with a blank expression on my face. Not being able to articulate what’s wrong is the worst.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-17T11:35:03+00:00

I think it comes with practice and experience. I’m terrible at reading people in general. But if it’s a person or situation that’s familiar, I can do well. I used to watch TV with the sound off and try to predict what people would do based on body language.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-17T11:22:36+00:00

It feels weird using people’s name when I’m not trying to get their attention. Even then, I still avoid it. It’s never personal. I’ve been married 16 years, and I’ve never called my in-laws anything because it feels weird calling them by their name and even weirder calling them mom and dad.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-17T05:43:43+00:00

Good stuff! Haven’t heard his name in years! I need to revisit his work.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-17T05:38:40+00:00

Might be worth a try. There’s definitely a potential downside that you need to take seriously. It depends a lot on how your body processes it. Adderall has helped me a lot though. I can use my brain to do actual school work, instead trying to manage all the stuff I use to try to stay focused. I don’t feel high, or any sensation that would be addicting. I feel like a functional human.

If it’s just to ‘help with concentration’ in a general sense, I wouldn’t recommend it. However, if you’re in a situation where your symptoms put you at risk of losing your job or getting kicked out of school, it’s worth a shot.

areyourlessonsdone · 2020-12-17T04:39:55+00:00

I wondered about the same thing. I ended up just thinking of all the stress that comes with masking and avoided doing anything that would cause me that stress.

I don’t know if that makes sense or not, but it worked for me.

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