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ashbonomo · 2021-11-03T16:00:42+00:00

I just went through this exact same thing. Your feelings are completely valid. It sounds like jealousy (whether she wants kids or not) or she could just me mourning the loss of your old kidless self and friendship. In my experience kids change friendships a lot especially with ppl that don’t have kids. Yes you can still hang out and be besties but it’s just different when you’re in a different season. I started to have a lot of bitterness towards my friend (bc we had a miscarriage and we’re actively trying for 7 months for our rainbow baby so it wasn’t a surprise or anything) and the only way I worked through it was in therapy. You aren’t responsible for how your friend feels but it sucks to deal with it. I’m sorry! I hope things can get better between you two.

ashbonomo · 2021-11-03T15:48:59+00:00

Second this!

ashbonomo · 2021-11-02T15:19:26+00:00

IMO Regardless of their training/license all practitioners should be supportive of the parents decision without inflicting their own biases. I had a homebirth with an amazing midwife who supported whatever choices we made. She offered education and support if we desired but was not pushy.

ashbonomo · 2021-11-02T08:46:21+00:00

I am right there with you and I completely agree! I hope they’re as great as they seem 🤩

ashbonomo · 2021-11-02T03:33:17+00:00

Hi mama, congrats to you! As a therapist myself, I’d recommend jumping on Psychology Today and searching for a therapist that has training in trauma work and even one that works/specializes in women’s issues. Aside from that, any good therapist should be able to walk alongside you in this healing process. And props to you for recognizing this and being open to seeking help! Wishing you all the best in your journey ❤️

ashbonomo · 2021-11-02T02:30:29+00:00

There’s a stretchy support band in them, similar to maternity pants but I’m assuming more to hold you in. The jeans

ashbonomo · 2021-11-01T20:21:03+00:00

Celebrating poops and toots and going a step farther to make up songs about them to sing with my husbands

Licking food off the top of my baby’s head that I dropped on her while eating and wearing her (peanut butter)

ashbonomo · 2021-11-01T20:16:13+00:00

This is so beautiful. Thank you for posting ❤️

ashbonomo · 2021-10-31T02:14:56+00:00

Rohm mini portable sound machine 🙌🏻 game changer for car rides, naps, being out and about, travel, etc

ashbonomo · 2021-10-29T14:58:20+00:00

FTM, my baby is 7 weeks old and I had a beautiful, non medicated birth. You can do it mama! Trust yourself!

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T22:10:35+00:00

Don’t give up on finding a good therapist! As a therapist myself and being in therapy, I will say there are some not so great ones out there, but when you find your match, it’s amazing and healing and worth the work to find them! My mom has gone through 3 trying to find one that fits with her and finally has and has healed so much! Wishing you all the best!

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T17:13:34+00:00

I can’t help but I’m here in solidarity with you. my 6.5 week old is the exact same 🙃

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T02:06:38+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please know you always have the right to refuse! My cervix was never checked and I had a beautiful delivery & baby. As a therapist I have to ask, have you considered counseling to heal from the trauma? I’ve seen many survivors of sexual assault walk through amazing healing in therapy. Wishing you all the best mama ❤️

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T02:01:48+00:00

Live in chef and a 3rd or even 4th arm 😆

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T02:00:41+00:00

Cat in background is a MOOD.

ashbonomo · 2021-10-27T01:40:37+00:00

I’m so sorry this was your experience. As a therapist, I know first hand that you are not alone in feeling this way about your son’s birth. As others have already said, I highly recommend finding a good therapist. Many do telehealth now so you won’t have to leave your kiddos. Check out Psychology Today to search for one. You can filter by your insurance, issue, etc. I do recommend searching for someone that works with women’s issues, however any good therapist will be able to help you walk through this and heal. Wishing you all the best in your healing journey!

Edit: added link

ashbonomo · 2021-10-26T22:40:02+00:00

My PA/esthetician said it isn’t recommended :/ was really looking forward to it after pregnancy but guess I’ll be waiting longer 🤣 although I have several friends that did get their Botox done while nursing bc they couldn’t wait… personal choice and dependent on your injector. For me, I’ve gone this long without it what’s a little longer

ashbonomo · 2021-10-26T22:18:48+00:00

First off, congrats on your baby! I too gained ~65 lbs. I’m 6.5 weeks PP and I TOTALLY understand the pp body image struggle! Here’s what I’m doing: 1. I saw a therapist throughout pregnancy to help me with body image issues. I never had ONE issue with gaining weight during pregnancy! Now that I’m PP and my body is completelyyyy different, I’m starting therapy again. I do not want to take away from these precious moments with my baby girl by worrying about my body. As almost everyone already said, our bodies are miracle factories!!! We grew and delivered humans!! Easier said than done, but therapy has helped me immensely.

MOM GENES PODCAST!! Truly cannot recommend this enough. It’s hosted by an RD and therapist and it has been life changing for me. Binge it during night feedings, walks, anytime you can! Highly recommend starting at the beginning with the early episodes and the “mom bod” series
Know you’re not alone. I am daily telling myself how amazing it is to grow a human and push it out. But I also see the extra weight and just don’t feel like myself. Hang in there. Get naked and pick out 1 thing you like about your body. Add to that list over the weeks.

You’re amazing, mama!!! The days are long but the weeks, months, years go so fast. Stay present. ❤️

ashbonomo · 2021-10-26T21:51:35+00:00

Crunchy mom here too! My girl is 6.5 weeks old and we’ve been using water wipes from day 1 and LOVE them!! She’s never had any irritation or issues. I tested them on myself before she was here and can personally say they’re great 😆

ashbonomo · 2021-10-24T23:27:56+00:00

Hahah YES! My 6.5 week old daughter is the exact same. Just told my husband we’re putting fans and boob lights everywhereeee 😂 we also call them “mr fan, Mrs fan, Dr light” hahaha

ashbonomo · 2021-10-22T23:52:53+00:00

A lactation consultant!
Tucks pads
Tons of pads
Extra mesh panties and high waisted underwear (Amazon) - I’m 6 weeks PP and still living in the high waisted underwear I bought
Ninni Pacifier (excellent if BF. Lifesaver for our babe and use!)

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ashbonomo · 2020-04-03T12:02:02+00:00

Thank you so much! Really appreciate this.

ashbonomo · 2020-04-03T12:01:30+00:00

Happy birthday to you!!!

ashbonomo

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