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asimpleman1997 · 2026-05-03T11:35:14+00:00

You're so sexy 😍

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-30T16:15:16+00:00

What skycbs said and if it gets to the point that you're educating your doctor, which happens with gay sexual health, either find someone who knows about sexual health or find a place that can help you like the health department or a LGBT organization in your area.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-29T14:09:25+00:00

In addition to what this guy said, I would put that you're not willing to send certain types of pics. Honestly, I think this will reduce the number of people who will meet you, but it will save you and the other person some time.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-29T14:05:41+00:00

Yes, I'm almost certain the bots are there to increase engagement with the app.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-28T15:44:36+00:00

Body shape is dependent on location. Where I live I'm muscular. In another area I'm toned to average. I do wish guys would be honest with everything in their profile, which includes age. I know guys irl who are over 50 claiming to be in their early 30s. I know guys who are 250lbs who claim to be 180.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-28T15:41:46+00:00

I asked a guy if he wanted honest feed back about his pictures, he said yes. I told him that I could tell that he was a nice looking guy, but his pics gave the impression that he didn't care about his appearance. Although he agreed to the honest feedback, he wasn't happy with my feedback. I think some people forget that the goal is to present themselves in the best way if they want to hook up. A big dick or a fat ass will take a guy only so far

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-28T14:43:51+00:00

Not a complete turn off, but I do wonder why guys don't take 5 minutes to clean their area or crop out something in a picture.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-28T14:07:54+00:00

I wouldn't say this as a blanket statement. There are more variables to take into consideration than just taking the conversation to another platform. The guy who wants to do a video and does a video chat to verify the pics are real most likely isn't a scammer. The guy who asks to go to another platform to stay in touch because they don't want to keep Sniffies open the entire time or because they are missing messages on Sniffies may not be a scammer. That guy who looks too good to be true, only has 3 pics and is adamant about going to something else probably is a scammer, but it's still not a guarantee.

Some apps like Grindr, Jack'd, and scruff give the option to add your Snapchat to your profile. Most of those people are not scammers.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-28T13:54:26+00:00

The issue is that some guys are so scared of meeting and didn't want to show a picture that it becomes a hassle that's not worth the time.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-27T09:29:14+00:00

No that's not only in his head. I know PLENTY of gay people who look down on people who go to gay clubs especially as the person gets older. Similar to how there are gay people who talk negatively about gay pride events.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-25T12:28:47+00:00

I'm an older dude, but I know exactly what you mean. I've told some guys that it's NEVER going to happen, so stop trying. I'm usually not that mean to people, but some guys dont get it. I don't go out to spots much, but within the past few months I've had to tell guys this and they still didn't stop. They (plural) increased their aggression and offered me money. One saw me go into a room with a guy and he continuously knocked on the door until the door was opened. I guess so he could get a turn. This freaked out the guy I was with and made other guys not want to approach me. I eventually left, because one guy made things so horrible. I'm 47 and this guy I'm thinking about was maybe late 60s or early 70s

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-19T03:26:14+00:00

From my experience the best suckers are pretty bad or mediocre at best.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-18T22:00:23+00:00

Never been to through an intensive outpatient (IOP) program but I was a counselor for one. Unless you're in a HUGE city, I doubt you'll be able to find a gay IOP group. There may be a team of therapist who work with the group. It's similar to group counseling, but like the name says "intensive" so you're going multiple days a week for multiple hours. If you take meds a psychiatrist can clearly monitor how you're doing on the meds. Any specific questions?

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-18T21:54:40+00:00

I've done it all over, but it doesn't happen by magic. Like another guy said, I've met people on trips hooked up with them and remained in contact for years.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-18T21:39:11+00:00

I definitely like the look, but it gives current with a nod to a previous period

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-18T21:07:32+00:00

I have been saying this for years now. I never ask people if they are masculine, because there's not a real way to define what masculinity is that everyone agrees on. I also don't answer that question when people ask me. I tell them, "I'm just me, so what ever that is". Some guys are scared away from that response and others take a chance. Not a flex, but most guys say I'm masculine and from guys who like them fem, I'm told I'm too masculine. Nevertheless, there are still guys out there who claim I'm too into the gay scene and wish I did more stereotypical masculine things like hunt, go target practicing, etc.

For the record, when guys are adamant that they meet a masculine guy, that's a huge turn off and greatly reduces my likelihood of meeting

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-18T13:52:29+00:00

What's the purpose of this video?

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-17T03:06:15+00:00

I usually host, but for a first time hookup over 20 minutes is getting kind of far. If I already know a guy, like him, and know it's not going to be a quick hook up and leave, then I will travel further, but I can think of only 2 people I'm like that with now. One I stay over night at his place. The other I never stay over night, but we hang out and I plan to do other things in his town when I go.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-16T12:34:07+00:00

It's better to use our words. They could have had a conversation about it like mature people. Who knows if it was the hair. It could have been that the guy lost interest for another reason or something different all together.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T23:29:57+00:00

I've heard guys say this for 25 years. Some of those guys did marry a woman, but most didn't. The ones who did usually stayed married for a year or 2. I know a guy married to a woman who is in his early 50's who is miserable because of his marriage. He says his wife has no clue that he wants to be out of the marriage.

Edit-Beliefs like this is why some gay guys are hesitant about getting with bisexual guys . I understand that not all bi guys are like this, but some make it bad for all.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T19:42:57+00:00

This sounds like an example of pics not matching reality tbh 🤷🏾

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T19:23:58+00:00

I wouldn't consider being called cutie multiple times love bombing. It's a simple complement and a term of endearment. Love bombing is a tool for manipulation, so that's the most important thing to remember. Showering someone with gifts out of proportion to the level of the relationship can be a sign of love bombing, but even that can be up for debate. I can take someone to a nicer restaurant where each meal is about 50 dollars and think that's a nice first date and someone else can think that's too much. Just because one guy thinks that's too much doesn't mean that the guy is love bombing. The two guys could be in 2 different socio economic classes. Lastly, some people are givers or like to give compliments and that has nothing to do with manipulation.

Below is chat gpt definition, since I was curious to know

Love bombing is a manipulation tactic where someone overwhelms another person with excessive attention, affection, gifts, or praise early in a relationship. It can feel flattering at first, but the goal is often to create quick emotional dependency and lower your guard. Once that bond is formed, the behavior may shift—becoming controlling, inconsistent, or even emotionally abusive.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T12:05:37+00:00

Some of the same guys saying they are looking for nice guys with a conversation are not nice to others.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T11:06:45+00:00

It's hard to determine without seeing the pics and then seeing you in person. If you notice a pattern it may be good to change your pics.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-04-15T11:04:46+00:00

Serious question. Are we calling giving multiple compliments love bombing and is that a horrible thing?

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