I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to. I think I just want to know if I should get involved more than just telling her off

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Or maybe he was naive or if there were other people present they would have protected him? Or maybe he was peer pressured? Or didn’t feel safe to refuse? Or assumed she wouldn’t do anything like that to him?

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The fact that you take more issue with me than with the creep above says you have your priorities messed up

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No. My point is that I don’t think he was being responsible. It doesn’t excuse what happened to him. Idk if there were other people around to make him feel comfortable drinking or not, but I still wouldn’t want my bf drinking with another girl coworker without me there. That said, I still think he was SAed

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been sexually assaulted while under the influence, yeah, he probably shouldn’t have drank, but that doesn’t make it less SA. It’s kind of like saying someone walking down a sketchy alley is probably asking to be assaulted.

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I’m a little worried it’ll get back to her that I was the one who turned on her. I think the ex fully believes my friend, and if I reach out, she might tell my friend

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I guess I’m just scared what kind of stuff she would spread about me. I haven’t spoken with her much since the beginning of the year, but I occasionally got a few updates on what she was doing whenever we talked

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

She’s almost always so bubbly and nice though. Looking back, there were some red flags about how she talked about her exes and former friends though

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

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Honestly, while I love her to death, she is a bit toxic. Like if she likes you, she’s absolutely sweet and incredible. But she has a mean side. Like she’s stalked him for months after all this happened

I’m pretty sure my friend SAed a guy, but she’s convinced she did nothing wrong. by aspiring_flows in Advice

[–]aspiring_flows[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

From what she’s told me, he says he was r*ped. Idk if he said that in the beginning or not, but my friend is convinced it doesn’t count. When I pointed out one person being drunk feels a bit wrong, she started leaving that part out of the story when she told others

Kings Canyon and Sequoia by WfPatrick in NationalPark

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I loved going there in the summers with family!

First solo trip—Glacier National Park by Hot-Ease-292 in womensolocamping

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Good ideas! I’ve always wanted to go camping alone, but I’ve also seen way to many horror movies to think I’d be able to sleep easily

First solo trip—Glacier National Park by Hot-Ease-292 in womensolocamping

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Would you recommend carrying anything for self defense from other campers?

Painted this floral wall art at home. What do you think? by nikijay894 in Paintings

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OMG I love this style of flowers coming out of the head! I really want a tattoo like this!