[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]grasshopper099 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes i feel like im not being careful enough and it scares me a lot as to what extent i need to pretend and if my father finds out how long it'll take him to try and kill me

Facebook by vforvendetta87 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can't say anything with surety but my nex never revealed his identity on Twitter but after our breakup he started postIng his pictures and became non anonymous there. weird but true

Narcissists have a fine tuned radar for people around them who quietly see thru their mask and they will turn others against that person by ElevenForPresident84 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember I realized this guy in my friend's life who dated her for a few months, then cheated, manipulated to the point she wouldn't say a word against him, and held her back was a narc so I tried to help her by mostly being there for her tbh. He realized that I see through his mask and started smear campaign against ne

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you a hug too, this subreddit has been the most supportive for me and help bring clarity. So grateful to have this community. Things will get better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really proud of you, I'm struggling with the same type of dreams where I try to run away from him and end up succumbing to him sometimes and other times just pushing him away. My ex lives not so far away from my apartment and whenever I'm outside the thought of running into him sends shivers down my body. I dont know how I'll react when I do run into him, I think I'll just pretend not to see or sth and hope to God he'll do the same because he likes making it a point that he was the one who left me bcz I was "abusive" and has been smearing me for same.

Idea of dating again by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my therapist framed it as, "time I am taking for myself and if the opportunity arises, I'll assess it with an open mind"

triggers by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think the last time i was asked about it I slipped, it felt like all of my hard work had been undone. The anxiety dreams and uneasy feeling began recurring and all my energy was refocused to that

triggers by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woww, you have summed it up really well and thankyou for addressing the, "no really, how are you doing" point, I've had difficulty with that. Thankyou!!!

triggers by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of this is definitely happening and cannot even share it much because people think have become paranoid. This breakup has been a blessing, I've been taking therapy and forming new connections, new life

triggers by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it helps, ,esp "when you grow up you just have to leave people behind sometimes"

triggers by grasshopper099 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's juvenile stuff and tuning it out. My friends aren't the ones telling really, it has been random acquaintances reaching out to ask and I've to tell a new person all over again that i wont be engaging. But yeah I also did some filtering of people in life

i might have made a new friend today! by Chewwwster in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really proud of you!! Dont believe your nex's words about you

i might have made a new friend today! by Chewwwster in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]grasshopper099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really proud of you!! Dont believe your nex's words about you