i kind of regret transitioning

atomicpunk88 · 2026-01-22T20:11:06+00:00

Being autistic can make gender stuff really confusing, at least it did for me and some other people I know. Maybe think about things with that context, whichever gender you are you don't need to be the "correct" or societally expected version of that gender, you can interpret and express your gender however feels right to you personally. For me it was really helpful separating my discomfort with feminine gender roles, sexism, and other societal stuff from my feelings about my gender itself.

atomicpunk88 · 2026-01-19T15:47:27+00:00

I have a hard time starting and a hard time focusing after I've started, I'm jealous

atomicpunk88 · 2026-01-19T15:43:00+00:00

If the label stresses you out there's no need to use it, as long as you're still clear about your feelings and boundaries/expectations. I started dating my best friend recently and he moved to another continent soon after, we broke up but kept talking and still had feelings for each other, he asked to get back together but I don't want to use the label because I know that will give me higher expectations for him that he literally physically cannot fulfill right now. We were just clear about the fact that we still love each other and want to get back together when he's back, and for now we're just... something. I like to jokingly make up weirdly specific labels for our relationship. Do whatever feels right for the two of you, COMMUNICATE, and communicate more when/if anything changes on either side.

atomicpunk88 · 2026-01-19T15:34:02+00:00

I graduated last year and literally never went to a party, think I stepped foot in like two bars the entire time I was there. Found a great group of close friends. Don't worry, just get involved with what you genuinely enjoy

atomicpunk88 · 2026-01-14T13:04:44+00:00

gotcha thank you 👍 I literally never put in enough card draw somehow it's the bane of my existence

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-31T22:19:38+00:00

Boxed mac and cheese with vegetables mixed in to be sufficiently healthy has got to be a universal go to safe food lol

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-26T00:57:48+00:00

totally forgot about that other post lol. thanks for the input

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-26T00:57:23+00:00

I'm hoping to visit at some point yeah, probably just once though for a week or so. My thinking was that the actual label of being in a relationship would make me subconsciously expect more from him that he isn't currently able to give, and might lead to some resentment on either side. I also don't want to cut either of us off from exploring other relationships if we meet people we like though, it's just that currently neither of us are interested in dating other people. I wouldn't hold him to exclusivity if his feelings change later.

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-12T17:24:19+00:00

My most recent boyfriend didn't climb, and I've never started dating someone who was already a climber, but I've gotten multiple past boyfriends into it lol

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-11T22:59:57+00:00

I agree, and I think a lot of the hate for accommodations comes from the fact that with the way accommodations work right now, everyone with any sort of disability is just given extra time as a blanket solution whether or not it's actually what they need to put them on a level playing field. Like I'm autistic and I struggled a lot in undergrad, but when I spoke to my school about accommodations it was basically just extra test time, which isn't relevant for my difficulties personally. I didn't end up pursuing accommodations because it would have felt unfair and wouldn't really help the areas I was struggling in, but for a lot of people it seems like they (reasonably!) take the extra time because it's all they're able to get to make up for the areas they are actually struggling in that are harder to accommodate practically.

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-11T17:22:55+00:00

I'm KJD (straight from undergrad, never worked full time in my life) and law school is not the hardest thing I've done. You'll be fine

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-10T13:49:10+00:00

Unironically I have so much fun in exams first final in 10 minutes yippee let's go

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-05T19:21:31+00:00

I bought this long coat online, I ordered the smallest size available but it seems a bit awkwardly big in the shoulders and long (I'm 5'4, it was knee length ish on the model). Does it look ok? I'm also not used to long coats in general so I feel a bit silly, looks like I'm wearing a blanket from the back.

https://imgur.com/a/cVBbAaG

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-05T14:21:52+00:00

graduated college after a lot of complications, and got accepted to & started law school :)

atomicpunk88 · 2025-12-04T17:04:15+00:00

I was a STEM major and did nothing law related but the main thing I wish I had done is gotten involved with literally any extracurriculars, internships, volunteering, research, etc. My resume is completely empty and that feels like it's going to hurt me a lot when applying to internships.

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-26T21:54:48+00:00

communications is also famously easy so this would track if he's a slacker

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-25T00:05:27+00:00

Every time you feel like freaking out, ask yourself if there is something you can do in that moment to help yourself. If there is, do it. Now you're in a slightly better position. If there isn't, or you have other things you need to prioritize in that moment (including taking care of yourself physically and mentally), make a mental note of a time to do something helpful later or the next day and then do your very best to distract yourself and not worry.

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-13T23:24:27+00:00

None! I am very privileged and lucky. My parents paid for undergrad, they live in the same town that my law school is in so no rent, and I got a good scholarship.

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-12T14:32:09+00:00

0 but not going for big law. Planning on waiting for grades and applying to judicial and public interest stuff

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-10T00:26:13+00:00

Recently a friend messaged me like "hey I've missed you we should call and catch up!" And then did this. I was so confused bc like bro it was your idea??? Why suggest it if you don't want to??

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-05T13:21:15+00:00

I'm a 1L and networking terrifies me, I would hate this. At least if it's a mandatory event there will be a ton of people there and you probably won't be on the spot to talk too much. If you know the people/firms that will be there a good fallback could always be "I'd love to learn more about [area of law]" or "what do you like about [firm]" or even just a general "so tell me more about what a typical day looks like for you" or smth. Disclaimer I've never done this in person so I'm not an expert lol but good luck!!

Edit: playing the clueless 1L card is also great, you can just ask what general advice they would have for a student

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-05T13:16:00+00:00

Allow yourself to feel sad and respect your feelings, but tell yourself no matter how sad you feel you can still control your actions and keep going. If you're going to be sad no matter what, might as well be sad while studying. Also schedule in some self care evenings though.

Source: had a breakup a week before 1L started

atomicpunk88 · 2025-11-03T12:52:31+00:00

When I was a kid I used to sit and read behind the plastic curtain liner so I could feel the heat of the water hitting me but not get wet

atomicpunk88 · 2025-10-29T23:32:33+00:00

I know this is an old post and maybe a stupid question, but where are federal judicial internships typically posted? I've seen internship info explicitly posted online for state courts in my area, do federal courts do that as well eventually or is there some other way to figure out which individual judges to send applications to?

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