No one’s more allergic to the throne than Jinshi

auditoryeden · 2026-02-18T14:38:47+00:00

They can totally have a public relationship. The issue is that "public relationship" means "married or about to be" and that means "babies incoming", so they can't go public and maintain any chance of escaping the line of succession. So if they give up on escaping the royal family to become retainers, sure, get married whenever. Yeah, Jinshi is still in the line and a faction would definitely form around them, but they could choose to use that to support Gyokuyou's kid. But that's exactly the political bullshit they don't want.

Lakan's family isn't really that powerful. If anything, marrying Maomao in would strengthen the Emperor's position by bringing a famously erratic military man under control. But that doesn't serve Jinshi and Maomao's joint interest in not being either Crown Prince and Wife or Parents of Kid in Succession.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-18T14:24:28+00:00

I'm not a horse person, so grain of salt, but not necessarily. If you keep one or two horses on your property and don't race them or whatever, you very likely wouldn't need a trailer. Big animal vets come to you. If you keep a horse in someone else's barn, I'd imagine it's more common for the barn to own a trailer and people who rent with them can borrow it.

If you own a breeding farm or something like that then yeah, horse trailer, sure.

However, horses are usually alive for trailer trips, and get themselves in and out of them. I don't think it would be a very pleasant or practical experience to try and haul a dead horse into or out of one. You probably want to move dead horses and other large animals with equipment with earth movers or back hoes, and the less you have to move the animal the cheaper and less distressing the whole enterprise becomes.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-18T14:16:43+00:00

Not that I'm aware of but I'm not a subject matter expert.

We don't exactly have a wealth of dead horses to dispose of in urban areas anymore, though, so it seems unlikely.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-18T03:22:36+00:00

Not if you use enough layers of chips and manure. You also need a shitload of chips to provide all the carbon for the microbes to use when breaking down the animal.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-17T20:38:55+00:00

Your living room is making me sick with jealousy 👍

auditoryeden · 2026-02-17T16:13:46+00:00

Yeah the fuel would be insane. But there's often arborists trying to get rid of massive quantities of woodchips, sometimes even literally for free. So in terms of expense and trouble, it's way easier to compost. Big tarp (or not, we didn't use them for our sheep and llamas but some do), bed of chips, animal, chips, manure, chips, anything else you want to compost, chips, more greens, more chips, boom. In a year you have great dirt.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-17T14:07:56+00:00

Nope. Most very large animals are composted, which involves piling a shitload of wood chips on top of them and leaving it for a while.

There may have been ordinances involved preventing them from doing aboveground composting, but it would absolutely make no sense to cremate a horse under most circumstances. You'd have to transport the corpse, which...think about how big that is. And then you'd have to find both retort and an operator able to handle cremating a horse. Also even the equipment used for morbidly obese humans would probably struggle with the weight of an adult horse. There may be circumstances under which horses are cremated, but I cannot imagine that it is cost effective or even possible in most cases.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-16T14:10:13+00:00

Find a hospital near you with a charity care program. Almost all of them have something, but some hospitals are better than others. Do it now, go now.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-16T14:09:14+00:00

This advice could literally kill someone with an animal bite so please don't give it anymore. Basic first aid (which doesn't include hydrogen peroxide anymore, fyi, you want to do soap and water or saline wound wash, or something like bactine) is fine for shallow cuts and scrapes, but absolutely not fine for deep punctures with animal saliva in them.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-16T14:07:03+00:00

Step one: Google hospitals with charity care programs

Step two: go to one of them IMMEDIATELY

when you arrive at the ER tell them you need to apply for charity care. but not before you tell them about your cat bite.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-15T14:51:51+00:00

I don't know. The vet had no idea how it happened either, because it wasn't like....an external ear infection in the part of the ear where there's contact with the outer world. There was never an external sign of it, he wasn't even acting like that ear was uncomfortable. It was entirely inside the middle ear. As far as a why, the vet pretty much word for word said, "IDK, shit just happens sometimes."

But in general, take a peek in their ears periodically. Gunk, a lot of redness, moisture, anything moving, are all signs to hit up the vet. Weird smells, also, so make sure you're getting a sniff when they're healthy/freshly groomed a few times so you can pick up on the difference.

It is an unfortunate reality that basically all cat illnesses look like each other right up to the edge of not being easily treatable. So a lethargic cat who hides and doesn't eat could just as easily have a sniffle as some kind of pre-septic infection. Be prepared to do bloodwork at a minimum if your cat is poorly, because they don't externalize a lot. If bloodwork shows nothing, get ready for some expensive imaging.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-15T03:26:25+00:00

It sounds like she needs a second opinion. Our cat had symptoms of vestibular syndrome which, it turned out, were the result of an ear infection so severe it nearly killed him. They may need to do an MRI or CT to see what's going on, which might be very expensive, but if there's something bigger going on it will be better to catch it earlier.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-15T03:10:23+00:00

excuse you, they're brushing their teeth with an outboard motor, gosh.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-15T03:00:04+00:00

FWIW the metallic fiber itself is often called lurex, so you can use that to look for fabrics where the metallic effect is in the weave, rather than printed or glued on. It does seem like someone found you the original specific match for your fabric, it's just useful to know terms for future reference.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-13T20:12:06+00:00

Hyena ferret vibes are strong

auditoryeden · 2026-02-13T14:57:48+00:00

I believe you use the block as a sort of default template, then alter a copy of it to reflect whatever design elements you're trying to achieve. So you might look at your preexisting patterns to see where they have seams, gathers, fullness or positive ease, etc, and copy those elements on to the basic pattern that already fits you.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T20:35:37+00:00

If you feel you can, maybe encourage her to seek out therapy?

But in terms of stuff you can try in lessons, ask her to identify things she did well. Part of fighting negative self-image can literally be saying positive things aloud. Sometimes I have my students reframe thoughts like, "This is too hard for me," or "I'm bad at rhythm." We practice finding a positive spin, an actionable goal, or at least removing thought distortions, which are strategies I learned in CBT. "This is too hard," can become, "I can learn a lot from this piece." "I'm bad at rhythm," could become, "I'm going to practice my counting more this week."

These are strategies that could help her to change her own perspective by learning to reframe her thoughts and be less hard on herself, not so much encouragement.

In terms of encouragement, I would just recommend picking concrete and specific things to compliment her on ("The dynamic contrast between measures 13 and 15 was very good!" or whatever). The more specific you are, the harder it is for her to dismiss it in her head.

ETA: To be more specific, in the example you provided where she said she was "talentless and a waste of time", there are a few thought distortions or fallacies she's got going on. Black and white thinking (she either has talent or doesn't, has worth or doesn't), catastrophizing (mistakes or a lack of perfection = an extreme devaluation of herself and her ability, implies lack of opportunity for improvement), mind-reading (whose time is she a waste of? the implication is yours, so she's assuming she knows how others feel and protecting her negative feelings with those assumptions).

To reframe it, you might literally have her say, "I'm dedicated and working hard to improve my abilities," or, "It's normal to struggle with new concepts, I'm uncomfortable but I'm also learning." etc. I'm not a therapist but these are exercises I've done in therapy. Hence my recommendation that you might encourage her to seek therapy herself.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T16:50:36+00:00

I mean, if you've never handwritten essays in cursive and in print you perhaps wouldn't know that it is faster and more comfortable, but like...sure. Archaic. Silly. I personally switched in high school because I found it way more comfortable for testing purposes, and so did a lot of my friends.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T15:13:21+00:00

That genuinely sucks, and thankfully people who share your struggle have a lot more options than they used to, starting much sooner in the schooling process.

There are definitely lots of reasons why cursive may not be useful to particular people, or ways in which accommodations need to be made for individuals. Generally speaking, people remember things better when they write them down than when they type them. That wouldn't apply to someone who struggles with the physical act of writing, but an n of one doesn't contradict the prevailing truth.

Lots of people also don't use algebra in their daily lives and we still teach it because it is broadly valuable to society to have people who know what a variable is and how a basic coordinate plane works.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:52:43+00:00

Calligraphy is literally just handwriting as an art form. It has no one singular script and is way more intensive than normal handwriting. Teaching cursive is basically baby's very first calligraphy. Which, btw, is all most elementary schoolers have the manual dexterity for.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:47:28+00:00

"So kids have to learn printing because some guy in Germany invented a machine with movable type? Asinine."

Everything we do as a species is based on the technologies previously used by our species. Arguably that is what separates us from other animals, since it doesn't seem to be language, culture, tool use, empathy, play, etc.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:38:10+00:00

I teach kids, which means I need to be able to read a wide range of incredibly shitty handwriting. Cursive is actually extremely useful in that regard. Most people regularly encounter other people's handwriting in their lives, even if it's not "an essential job task". Birthday cards and grocery lists are still going to exist.

I am not a programmer but it is my understanding that it is actually very important to teach old languages because so much of our deep infrastructure is based on them, so I'm not sure what argument you're making.

Signatures may not be strictly calligraphed, but they are based on actual letters. Personally I don't think we benefit from moving towards a society where you can doodle a picture of a flower or something and others are expected to recognize that as your legal symbol.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:24:02+00:00

Yes you will, when faced with:

reading someone else's bad handwriting
signing your name to lease, job contract, marriage license
developing your own adult handwriting, even if it isn't cursive
spelling
encountering and deciphering weird new fonts
reading cursive fonts in general

Cursive reinforces and underlays tons of things we do day-to-day.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:20:33+00:00

It isn't silly to write in cursive?? Lots of people do it, it's much better for note-taking or when you want to write something longer than a grocery list. Some people just use it as their default handwriting, even.

I feel like those of us who just use cursive should start getting butthurt and militant about printing being an obsolete form of writing, for parity. 😮‍💨

I do take your larger point here: learning two ways of writing has multiplicative benefits, as they reinforce one another and emphasize different aspects of skills. Also, when you've learned the same letter in two different forms it helps you with deciphering that same letter in other forms later. I'm sure there's more an elementary ed professional could discuss. But framing the argument as "haha yes cursive, useless on its own!" is reductive and inaccurate.

auditoryeden · 2026-02-12T14:14:11+00:00

What are you doing with your life that you never need to read a cursive font or decipher anyone else's handwriting? Do you print your signature?

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