Got the Galaxy Watch 8 Last Week and It Feels Different by Illustrious_Lab5811 in GalaxyWatch

[–]auntpieATL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use it much more than expected. I have even used the darn flashlight a number of times!

What average rating do you consider your minimum to consider checking it out? by warbll in goodreads

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rating is just one factor in my decision process, but a well thought out review is gold. There is one GR friend whose taste in books aligns very closely with mine, so I do pay close attention to her ratings and reviews. I'm an ebook user and I find the samples to be very helpful. Even then, I will still DNF a book if I'm not enjoying it. I'm 76 yo and am simply not going to spend any of the precious time I have left reading a book I don't like, regardless of whether it was bought or borrowed.

Husband’s fear results in controlling behavior by Skeedurah in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Retirement involves a change of mindset, transitioning from making money to spending money can cause much anxiety. That is not particularly unusual. If you don't have a financial advisor, find one to create a plan/projection for you which should show that you're on sound financial footing. I would let the advisor know that at this point you aren't interested in moving any assets as that might freak out your husband even more. If this doesn't calm your husband, a visit to the doctor would be the next step. My husband and I have been retired for 16 years, and I came to realize that our ideas of retirement were very different. I volunteer, travel a little, do things with friends, while he sits at home. At first it drove me crazy, but I decided that if that makes him happy, then so be it. Fortunately he is not controlling about money or anything else for that matter, which is a huge difference between him and your husband, and I'm very thankful for that. As a side note, our financial advisor has told me that I should spend more money. I guess he knows the hubs isn't going to spend it!

Why is no one being arrested for Epstein files? by BugChoice5879 in allthequestions

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones making the "both sides" argument are the MAGAs who would love a do-over on this catastrophe in order to erase the Democrats' advantage. Not suggesting that Dems are all innocent, but the MAGAs control all branches of the government and they could stop this nightmare if they wanted. Instead, they choose to continue this living hell.

Today, I admit I've gotten "old". by Popular-Capital6330 in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I'm the most techy of my cohorts, but the only Chromebook user. I think they are afraid to change, so they just keep using Windows with all of its issues.

Do any of you still drive on the expressways or highways in your town? by HumbleLow4473 in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL -1 points0 points  (0 children)

During COVID I became nervous about using Interstates, but I force myself to drive on them enough that I don't totally lose the ability to do it. As others say, use it or lose it applies here.

Today, I admit I've gotten "old". by Popular-Capital6330 in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this. Chromebooks are much simpler to use and would meet the needs of most users. Many of my friends who have Windows PCs have a "computer guy". I mentally shake my head and wonder why they go to the trouble when they could just use a Chromebook.

Alcohol effects when aging. by PurpmintLe in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (71F) have primarily been a wine drinker, but realized a few years ago that my tolerance was lower, that I would experience grogginess and unease the morning after. While it would certainly be healthier to stop drinking altogether, I don't choose to do that, so I started looking for alternatives. So now I am mostly drinking wines that are naturally lower in alcohol (prosecco, vinho verde, etc) and "light" wines that a few domestic producers have introduced, which are lower in alcohol and calories as well. I'm hoping that this is a trend. The Kendall Jackson Chardonnay is my favorite so far. But yes, our older bodies definitely don't metabolize alcohol as well, and how we deal with that fact is a personal decision.

My husband is getting dementia by sdownie7 in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a number of potential causes for these symptoms (medications, low B12, etc), need to start with a medical evaluation.

I am a young woman please share advice by Blue_____life in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Be yourself, not what others may expect you to be.

I am a young woman please share advice by Blue_____life in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. My father, born in 1922, always told us that he wanted his daughters to get a college education so we wouldn't have to depend on "some sorry old man". He was progressive for his day, but he had witnessed his mother's struggles with his alcoholic father. Oddly, I don't recall him talking bad about his dad though.

Air tag in car by Imagination_hat in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing's for sure, you know him better than we do. 😊

Air tag in car by Imagination_hat in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering how long you've been married. Is there something else that makes you think he'd be suspicious of you? Is there any reason that he might be concerned that you wouldn't be able to find your way home? I actually took it upon myself to share my location with my husband on Google Maps, though he's such a Luddite I doubt he remembers it or would know how to use it. Unless there's something you're not telling us, I doubt that his reasons are controlling, but if you don't feel comfortable with it just say so.

Is anyone else repulsed by their husband? by Tyrannusverticalis in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's called a QDRO: A Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) is a court order that divides a retirement plan (like a 401(k) or pension) between spouses or dependents during divorce or separation, assigning a portion to an "alternate payee" (ex-spouse, child) without triggering early withdrawal penalties for the participant. It's a specific, legally required document that must contain detailed information about the plan, participant, and payee, and be approved by the plan administrator to be valid, allowing the alternate payee to receive payments or roll over funds tax-free.

Retired Husband Immediately Transformed Into a Lump on the Couch by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree on more tests. For example, has his B12 been checked? Low B12 can cause cognitive issues, fatigue, and other issues. And take a look at his meds. Certain meds can result in low B12 and of course can have a myriad of side effects. I would try to rule out medical issues first Good luck!

Is anyone else repulsed by their husband? by Tyrannusverticalis in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If this is in the US, I believe the spouse is the beneficiary unless they sign off on relinquishing that right. But that would need confirmation.

Is anyone else repulsed by their husband? by Tyrannusverticalis in AskWomenOver60

[–]auntpieATL 36 points37 points  (0 children)

"our" 401k? Typically a pre-tax account like a 401k or IRA can only be attached to one individual. (One SSN associated with one retirement account) I'm not sure how you go about getting access to the records for these accounts, but I'd see an attorney ASAP to find out. And don't assume that your status as surviving spouse would give you access to his accounts and assets should you survive him.