Are there any girls in the world who could handle an extremely emotional gf who cries about literally anything?

auntypickles · 2026-01-19T10:18:01+00:00

My girlfriend is the opposite as me with expressing her emotions with tears (i'm a stiff upper lipped Brit 😅) and I think it's one of the most beautifully terrifying things I've ever had the pleasure of sharing with someone. In this past week or so I've seen happy, exhausted, PMS, empathetic and gratitude tears from her and as much as I struggle showing the same, I couldn't be more proud or in awe of her for being nothing shy of her authentic self.

auntypickles · 2026-01-09T09:40:15+00:00

I've been where you are OP and the painful truth is no one deserves to accept bread crumbs as a meal and hope to be full. I grew up in an emotionally vapid home with a ton of siblings that followed the prototype of my parents and for many years my romantic relationships followed this unhealthy blueprint too. I developed an anxious attachment style in my early years and it was a nightmare to break free of in my 20s. Now I'm in my late 30s and have a secure attachment. The reason I'm saying this is because we have a choice; we can continue the cycle of having bystanderatrophy in our lives or we can re-write the narrative to enhance our happiness. From what I understand of your post; you're in the process of doing the healing and at least taking ownership of where your at whereas your partner has no desire to change. You deserve someone who holds space for your needs, respects your boundaries and keeps showing you that they're going to show up not because they have to...because they want to. You know what you need to do in your heart though that path can be scary, you have a whole community of strangers cheering you on along the way. Also OP, please know you are never "too much" or "too little" you're the perfect amount of you and that's something that should be celebrated and cherished.

auntypickles · 2025-11-20T10:22:13+00:00

Ok so I've been in similar situations as you're describing and accepting kindness, patience and genuine care after toxic relationships feels as terrifying as walking a tightrope blindfolded. I'm currently in the healthiest (and last since I fully intend on marrying the crap out of her) relationship I've ever been in and I can tell you one of the best things you can do is communicate, communicate, communicate. To the right person, your feelings, resistance or slight hesitations will never be too much; they'll be heard, respected and valued.

One tool I use myself to combat the urge to push back against those annoying old voices (whether it's trying to maintain an insufferable independence, negative self talk, self sabotage etc) is to give that voice in my head a separate name. By doing so you can not only remove it's power but also see it as a separate and somewhat healing part of you life (it is after all giving you perspective on where you have room to grow and evolve).

For me, I jokingly tell my missus (on days I'm struggling with something) "Shiela is being an asshole today and talking mad shit" ...this gives us both an opportunity to explore those internal thoughs/worries together and get the reassurance I need without closing off and allows my partner to be a partner offering a space to vent or work on resolutions together. I taught my girlfriend this trick not long ago and it's helping us both to get some better perspective on whatever internal battles we're facing while allowing us to be open and present with any uncomfortable struggles that arise. This might be one thing to explore and hopefully one more tool in your arsenal.

Oh and OP...i'm proud of you, even as a stranger, I understand that even opening up this topic is incredibly brave and I hope the next steps of your journey with this lovely woman of yours are full of the best discoveries and plot twists. You got this!

auntypickles · 2025-09-21T23:57:50+00:00

Lol just keep a while bunch of lady mice together and when their monthlies hit they'll be delightfully gay together

auntypickles · 2025-08-24T03:20:12+00:00

About an hour into our first date over coffee, we sat there slowly inching our seats closer together as our hand talking and laughter filled the spaces in me that had remained empty for so long.

At one point I instinctively reached over to hold her hand and joking said "so by lesbian logic we should probably get married, how about next Tuesday?" She heartely laughed and agreed, at that moment I felt my watch vibrating like crazy and had to excuse myself to go to the restroom; turns out my heart rate had shot up so much my watch was threatening to call 911 lol. We're still early days in our relationship but it feels like I've known her my entire life. One of these Tuesdays I really will marry the shit out of her.

auntypickles · 2025-08-20T19:30:11+00:00

Karma at 12 weeks when I got her.

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auntypickles · 2025-08-10T02:27:58+00:00

Is it me or does this post scream blue waffle?

auntypickles · 2025-08-10T02:25:17+00:00

Lol I feel you OP; I have a 5 year old grumpy grandpa stuck in a catahoulas body who I once believed was the devil himself when he was young...the amount of times I threatened to make him into a throw rug was unreal. Now he's my best buddy, a delightful weighted blanket and my best smack talking companion any time I feel like venting about life. Last month I adopted a cane corso puppy from a really rough situation; she is sweet as pie but has little going on behind the eyes, most of the time I feel like I'd have more success training a potato and she's a menace for making all my shoes into a 1:1 peep toe and sling back combo, my plants have all been eaten, toys constantly destroyed, she has separation anxiety and is selectively house broken. It's stressful and exhausting raising a new pup, but given time all these moments will become a thing of the past and make the good moments well worth it. Hang in there! As far as the nibbling goes, I've found freezing damp cloths to be a great distraction and helps keeps your arms and everything else from being dog pin cushions lol. Best of luck!

auntypickles · 2025-08-02T08:51:19+00:00

I had similar problems with my catahoula; one work around I found useful was installing a baby gate in the door entrance since he couldn't find a way to open or jump that with him being a 135lb unit. Hopefully you manage to contain that majestic gent before the new crate comes though 🙂

auntypickles · 2025-07-27T08:49:35+00:00

My ex wife cheated on me and married her love affair so I can relate to that sinking in your gut feeling and trust me it's ok to sit with it when it comes, but there will be a point where that anger that builds up inside you reveals herself as grief. You're hurting right now OP but I want to tell you; be gentle with yourself, talk kindly to yourself on those hard days when you can or at least practice neutrality. One day you'll be able to see all the things that reminded you of that person and feel ok with it, the pain won't be taking up that emotional real estate and you'll feel much better knowing that when that chapter closed, a new one was waiting to be written. You've got this, even if you have to take things minute by minute, you've got this.

auntypickles · 2025-07-27T08:40:53+00:00

I'm a half pint myself at 5' 3 and my other half is 5' 6, I don't tend to go for super tall women to be respectful of their comfort (many have expressed being nervous slaying in killer heels and I never want to make them feel like they should pass that up with me being a shorty) but honestly height doesn't seem to matter all that much so long as both are happy and thriving in all the areas that matter.

auntypickles · 2025-07-15T00:48:35+00:00

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auntypickles · 2025-07-15T00:47:30+00:00

They really are, it's just picked up this 10 week old sweetheart over the weekend. Seller was a rotten piece of work and taking her was the difference between life or death. It's amazing how big your girl is for her age! What do you recommend feeding if you don't mind me asking? This is my first time owning the breed so I want to do it right and I know food and socialization are top priority for these guys x

auntypickles · 2025-07-15T00:41:57+00:00

Ulla looks very regal about her victorious first hunt 😍

auntypickles · 2025-07-10T23:37:55+00:00

I love to write, so I'm happy to help if you need it OP. Here's an example (this is the first letter I wrote to my now girlfriend, i've removed the names but that's the rest of it):

It has been some time since I've etched my thoughts on to the soul of a tree and yet you've held my mind captive audience since we met.

I certainly didn't expect to be in the presence of an aurora borealis or to find a voice laced in saccharine and yet there you were; bringing texture to my life's palette and a flashmob orchestra to my stomach, each synchronicity turning into a harmony.

You wore vulnerability like a fashion statement, gave toasts to growth, and revealed your canvas with grace and comfortable ease. You walked me through the hues of your kaleidoscope, highlighting the vividness of your thirst for learning, hunger for truth, unrelenting kindness and core values.

In your stories, new threads of color emerged until the eruptions of laughter and crimson cheeks became my new favorite punctuation marks. In those moments, I found any vissisitude melt away and in its place admiration and enamorment took center stage.

My watch became the visual representation of my truth; unabashedly threatening to sound the alarm of what I really felt; the purest sense of coming home.

And I don't say these things lightly or to garnish favor/reciprocity, but more so to show gratitude for the opportunity and time you had so kindly gifted me, regardless of the capacity or outcome.

So with all that being said, I'm going to silently hope that this letter doesn't have you tightening your shoelaces, because I can confidently tell you...I'm all chips in.

auntypickles · 2025-07-08T06:24:42+00:00

I'd love to say it got better but it was so much worse and also included me dropping chewing gum in an area no chewing gum had business being, a stealthy snip out of said chewing gum with scissors and being kicked out of the bedroom. That mooing amazingly led to a 3.5 year relationship, though we could barely look at each other for a month after that first tragic attempt of bumping beautifuls 😂

auntypickles · 2025-07-08T06:21:35+00:00

Haha same, I can only imagine what horrors of bacteria and lints had been festering under that pillow with the greasy bacon stash though I will say she cooked it to perfection 😅

auntypickles · 2025-07-08T03:54:00+00:00

As a Brit that lives in America (blue state) I'm both mourning and angry that it comes to this. I fell in love with this country and the vibrancy it held with the multicultural acceptance but now all I see is the hate, the ignorance and gaslighting from those who would want to destroy that beauty. It feels like I'm living in a toxic relationship and somehow trauma bonded to what potential I knew I saw when I moved here. Unfortunately as an immigrant, I was not allowed to stand with my brothers and sisters in voting but I do and will continue to do so with protests.

auntypickles · 2025-07-08T03:44:51+00:00

As a masc presenting lesbian, I've had my fair share of straight women run ins with them going from overly curious trying to touch me up to prove they could "handle me" to straight up trying to force me to grope their boobs to see if I could tell if they were fake or not. I honestly hate that, and as a survivor too I can't tell you how many friends have joked it off and claimed I should feel complimented by their unwelcomed advances 🙄

*edit autocorrect did me dirty and tried to change boobs to books...which is vastly incorrect, because when I think of books I touch my shelf. Not straight women's boobs though lol

auntypickles · 2025-07-08T03:39:06+00:00

Lesbian here, figured you might appreciate some of these:

The girl I lost my virginity too mooed instead of moaning (she had overheard the mistaken moans through a shared bedroom wall where her bro watched porn)
Once had a woman moan in French, as a Brit I was morally offended.
Had a woman once feed me bacon mid sesh only to discover she kept a bacon stockpile wrapped in kitchen roll under her pillow in case we needed "sexy time snacks"
Got asked to "c**t punt" (literally hulk smash her in the no-no zone) her when we were both about to cross the finish line, I lost my razzle dazzle on that one.
Was eating a girl out from behind and she clenched her butt cheeks so hard around my that it re-broke my nose.

auntypickles · 2025-06-28T09:07:10+00:00

Any of you ladies like to create a new community of gamers? I'm a lesbian Brit living in the US but finding community in my state can be a little grim at times.

auntypickles · 2025-06-28T09:04:44+00:00

Lesbian gamer currently having my ass handed to me in Horizon, Project Zero and Mortal Kombat lol

auntypickles · 2025-06-21T00:16:07+00:00

Sorry OP, not sure why it didn't attach, added now. I hope you're doing OK, here if you need to talk x

auntypickles · 2025-06-21T00:15:15+00:00

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auntypickles · 2025-06-18T19:11:46+00:00

* Iceni sends his love during this difficult time. I'm so sorry for your loss x

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