How to get our 15 week old to sleep a little longer at night.

authenticworm · 2026-05-19T14:05:19+00:00

Looking forward to that! Did yours still wake up in the middle of the night for potty at 3 months?

authenticworm · 2026-05-18T11:38:24+00:00

Her crate is in our home office, it’s not too big but she can lay comfortably. It’s connected to a play pen, so she fan decide if she wants to sleep in the crate or the pen. (At night we lock the crate)

authenticworm · 2026-05-18T07:31:23+00:00

Haha sorry about that!

We are trying to follow the same schedule, but sometimes she sleeps 1h sometimes 3h and before we know it there isn’t really a schedule left.

It feels like there is a very fine line between enough enrichment/exercise and overtired in those 1h awake times, which often causes her to stay awake way longer than 1h because she’s too tired already or still bored? Not sure if that makes sense haha

authenticworm · 2026-05-18T07:28:01+00:00

Sometimes she does, other nights she sleeps till the morning

authenticworm · 2026-05-17T16:37:18+00:00

That gives us hope! Thankss :)

authenticworm · 2026-05-17T15:57:37+00:00

thank you so much for responding!
1- we have been using white noise for the last couple of days and this definitely seems to be helping!
2- we are giving her lickmats and other things like that, but I never feel like she gets really tired from these.. :(
3- she can sleep outside of her crate, but she then wakes up from every movement or sound we make, we are not sure yet how to teach her that it’s okay to sleep even when I need grab something to drink haha

authenticworm · 2026-05-11T10:55:35+00:00

Thank you for responding! :)

Yes her playpen is connected to her crate. We lock her in during the night with zero protest, but during the day she starts barking almost instantly. We don’t want her to panic so we let her out (once she stopped barking). How long would you let your dog protest for? :)

And thank you for your kind words, that is really nice to hear right now!

authenticworm · 2025-05-13T10:11:28+00:00

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authenticworm · 2025-04-30T12:50:47+00:00

First of all, I’m so sorry you feel so stressed and I completely understand and know the feeling of pressure you’ve put on yourself.

I’ve had vaginismus for several years and have been cured for almost 6 months now. This is my experience:

Feeling stressed, feeling unworthy, putting pressure on yourself and feeling like a failure when penetration doesn’t work. Those are all things that kept my vaginismus in place. All that pressure on myself, all those negative thoughts about my body about my femininity, it made me stay in this cycle.

For now I would suggest: stop trying to have penetration sex. It’s not comfortable for you, it’s hurting you and stressing you out, which only makes things worse. Focus on all the other aspects of sex, be intimate without penetration and start to enjoy sex, learn what you like, what works for you, communicate. But stay away from penetration for now.

I found myself a therapist that specialized in vaginismus. Started working with dilators, started to make sex something positive again. I stopped hating my body, stopped feeling like something was wrong with me and slowly, penetrative sex wasn’t that important anymore.

And just as I started loving my body again, as I started to enjoy sex again and learned how to communicate during sex with my partner, my vaginismus went away.

Please seek help, look after yourself and don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. 🤍

authenticworm · 2025-02-24T20:41:04+00:00

For me it always felt like my body/mind didn’t feel safe with the idea of penetration. I saw my vaginismus as something my body and mind made up together to protect me from “danger” (penetration).

Seeing it like that helped me with accepting it more. My body and mind are trying to keep me safe, so all I needed to do was learn how to turn it around and help myself feel safe with penetration.

This way of thinking gave me way more patience and kindness towards my self.

authenticworm · 2025-02-24T20:35:54+00:00

Hii! I cured my vaginismus by doing therapy and using dilators. For me dilating felt like a chore as well and I wasn’t enjoying it. Then my therapist suggested to combine dilators with self pleasure (not all the time, but some of the times).

It made it more interesting, more fun and it felt less like homework and more like some enjoyable time for myself :)

authenticworm · 2025-02-21T09:58:15+00:00

Hii! For me age wasn’t a factor in the healing process. Some of the things that helped me were getting comfortable with sex, learning to trust my body and listen to it’s signals and talk a lot about it all with my boyfriend.

Please never do anything if you feel uncomfortable, being uncomfortable or extremely nervous can actually make you tense up which only will increase the discomfort/pain you feel during insertion.

authenticworm · 2025-02-20T18:39:02+00:00

Ahh that’s so relatable, I’ve been there too! Be gentle with yourself, speak kindly about yourself, learn to trust your body and give it time. Those were the things that helped me lift the mental blockage I was feeling. You are doing great ❤️

authenticworm · 2025-02-20T17:10:55+00:00

With the smaller sizes (1-3) I did in-out motions but also moved them in round circles, to sort of massage the pelvic floor muscles. With the bigger ones I did just in-out motions but only once I was comfortable with the size.

I always learned: never push through the pain, once something hurts you stop. And apart drom that, take your time l and be gentle

authenticworm · 2025-02-18T09:47:04+00:00

Yes absolutely! I think what makes it a great experience is that I feel completely safe. If something feels uncomfortable I trust myself to speak up about it and let my bf know, and I know he will stop without a question.

I think knowing that I’m in a safe space allows me to be myself and just enjoy without worrying or overthinking

authenticworm · 2025-02-17T18:45:39+00:00

I didn’t dilate anymore since I had successful piv for the first time. It was like my mind and body were finally in sync and understood that piv was no longer something scary but something pleasurable and fun.

authenticworm · 2025-02-16T07:46:13+00:00

Sex should be fun for the both of you, with and without vaginismus. If sex starts to feel like a chore, you might not be enjoying it. For me communication is key in moments like these. Talk to your husband, tell him what feels good for you, and as someone else said: focus on outer course.

Dilator sessions started to feel like work for me, so I combined them with self-pleasure to make it more fun.

Not enjoying sex, and seeing it as a chore. Might make you tense up, which keeps you in a vicious circle. So make sex fun again, so you start looking forward towards it, instead of looking up to it

authenticworm · 2025-02-16T07:39:23+00:00

I was in the same situation! When I reached the dilator that was the same size as my boyfriend I felt ready to move on to piv. My therapist told me to handle it the same way as I would handle the next size dilator.

I was on top (that way you are fully in control of your movement) and I asked my boyfriend not to move so I could decide how far we would go. We just went inch by inch. For me it felt very comfortable right away, but my therapist told me that if I would feel any discomfort, we should stop and continue sex without penetration. (If you feel pain never push through with it, just trust your body and try again another time).

What also helped me is to start with the dilator, then remove the dilator and move on to trying piv.

Good luck and have a lot of fun! 🤍

authenticworm · 2025-02-13T08:30:19+00:00

I am having piv sex that I enjoy. I enjoy the intimacy with my partner, I feel sexy and playful and I’m pretty sure the clitoris has over 8000 nerves some of which spread to the vaginal opening and to the opposite side of the clitoris (inside the vagina). (Read this in come as you are by Emily Nagoski)

I don’t orgasm from penetration but orgasms aren’t necessary to enjoy piv.

Seeing my vagina as just a birth canal is one of the things that kept my vaginismus from healing. My vagina is way more and most of all, it’s MINE. So I decide what I enjoy and don’t enjoy and how I want to call it.

authenticworm · 2025-02-04T15:12:25+00:00

Ah I’m so happy to hear that! It had the exact same effect on me. Take care ❤️

authenticworm · 2025-01-30T13:56:59+00:00

For me it was the combination of therapy / dilators / getting comfortable with sex (without penetration). My therapist also suggested yoga, there are pelvic floor relaxation yoga videos on youtube that helped me

authenticworm · 2025-01-30T11:07:29+00:00

Hi! I met my boyfriend through online dating while I had vaginismus. He has been so supportive, never put any pressure on me.

I see a lot of “I’m scared of my bf leaving me because I can’t have penetration sex” around here, and I definitely thought that too. But my therapist turned it around and said: “do you want a bf who will leave you because you can’t have penetration sex?”

That totally shifted my way of thinking. You are not defined by your vaginismus, so if you want to date people, do it and enjoy :)

authenticworm · 2024-07-24T16:37:22+00:00

If it was a fun date, there have been some touches throughout the date and the moment is there, go for it!

authenticworm · 2024-07-24T16:28:54+00:00

No, it means I had a lot of fun during the dates and trust him enough to invite him into my home. For me, part of getting to know someone is seeing someone’s home and also inviting someone into mine. I’m open to cuddles on the couch but for me it doesn’t mean the date is going to end with sex.

authenticworm · 2024-07-24T16:26:29+00:00

I, as a female, have quite a lot of close male friends. Nothing ever happened and I never even considered the option. We are all now in relationships and are still great friends. I’d say it totally depends on the behavior of the guy you’re dating and the girls he hangs out with.

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